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Planning ahead!

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decafgirl · 04/09/2005 09:53

Is it just me who's planning ahead before she's even ttc? I've decided to come off the pill at the end of December and have started to drink decaf (v. difficult!), eat more fruit and veg, cut down on the vino etc. Am I mad to plan this far ahead?

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Artoo · 03/10/2005 08:41

Yeah, I can sympathise with that Jersey. DH and I have had some chats about names already, and there's only a few we both like. Every time someone else I know has a baby I'm worried in case they pick one of "our" names

Hugs,
Artoo.

mumswish · 03/10/2005 10:50

We've come up with Matthew for a boy if we have one. And were soo releived to know that my best mate had a girl Matthew doesnt suit a girl

HumphreysCorner · 03/10/2005 11:45

Ha

We want Matthew if we ever have a boy and my 2 friends have just had babies-one had a girl-phew and the other had a boy but doesn't like bible names-double phew. Having said that, I have wanted the name Matthew since I was about 20 (16 years ago) so I think even if my brother had picked it for either of his boys I would still pick it.

Soz to gatecrash!

xx

jersey · 03/10/2005 13:00

Thats ok humphreyscorner, more the merrier.

Diddle · 03/10/2005 17:03

decafgirl - i think you are being very sensible by doing all of this planning ahead, i have read that you should start to look after your body the way you are 3 months before trying so your body is at its peak. well doen you, i don't have the willpower

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decafgirl · 03/10/2005 20:53

Cheers Diddle! I hope it all helps, even just a little bit! It's not been as hard as I thought it was going to be actually.

My best friend's just told me she's pg with no. 2, me and dh have got names picked (esp for a girl) that we love and I'll be gutted if she names her baby those ones! Maybe I should warn her off in a friendly but mafia style way?!

Good luck to your sis Jersey; isn't it mad how these things vary so much from one surgery to another? It drives me mad, hopefully she'll get the help she deserves now though. I still think some of the medical proffession don't take fertilly problems seriously. (rant over!)

xxx

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spod · 05/10/2005 20:50

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loubag · 05/10/2005 20:54

Had the same thought Spod, but decided just to go for it as you never know what'll happen. good luck!

jersey · 06/10/2005 09:02

Part of the reason we are waiting till nov to start TTC is that DS was conceived in oct and born july, and didn't want two birthdays at the same time. TBH hadn't thought about schools! It happened quicker than expected with DS.

Artoo · 06/10/2005 09:55

It's difficult, because you don't know how things are going to work out when you start trying. It would be lovely for everything to work out first time, but it doesn't happen all that often.

My personal opinion is once you have decided you are ready for a child, start trying! Don't worry about when it's going to be born. My mother was aiming for me to be a September baby to be best for school (she was a teacher before she had me), got pregnant faster than she thought, which put me due in August, then I came 2 weeks early, and my birthday is the end of July. I don't feel like I suffered academically for that at all.

Pregnancy and babies are such unpredictable things, you can't control them that much, and I think you'll just end up adding extra things to worry about if you try to.

For example, DH said to me that he didn't want a child born around Christmas time, as he didn't think it was very fair on the child. I said to him "that's fair enough, but if we haven't conceived by next March are you really prepared to put everything on hold for a couple of months to avoid having a Christmas baby?". He took my point

Hugs,
Artoo.

mumswish · 06/10/2005 10:07

My DB wants his child to born the beggining of Sept so that it can be one of the first of his friend to be driving. After explaining it prob wont work like that (plus I want it now) we're just going on how we feel. We're not TTC but we're not using protection either so we'll see how it goes.

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decafgirl · 06/10/2005 12:50

I'm immune! Hoorah!

Anyway, as a summer birthday myself I know that in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't make a difference academically. However, as a teacher, it's always quite sad when children who are August birthdays are struggling in your class because you know that if they'd just been born a few days later they would have been in the year below. You do have to make exceptions for them very early on. (reception and year one mainly)

Obviously this is a bit of a generalisation and although it was me who started the 'christmas baby' thread over on pregnancy I think that if you're trying then you're not going to stop for a few months just incase. I'm sure there are people out there who will disagree though!

xxx

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spod · 06/10/2005 21:11

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muppet3 · 08/10/2005 21:43

Hiya guys - back from a thoroughly relaxing fortnight's holiday So it's 4 weeks since my last pill ... and no signs of AF but no likely symptoms either (although I am feeling a little nauseous and tired from time to time). Since I have no idea what my cycle is, when or if I've ovulated etc, I've no idea when to test! Any ideas welcome ...

muppet3 · 09/10/2005 07:48

Bleurgh. Awake half the night feeling sick, and now up feeling nauseous and knackered. Achy stomach means that either AF is on its way or there'e something else going on here ... I'm sure it's far too early to be feeling any symptoms - isn't it? I'm probably just getting myself all worked up over nothing. I wish I knew whether to go and get a test today. Comments welcome!

bobbybob · 09/10/2005 07:54

I came off the pill and year before and started exercising regularly (2 or 3 classes a week).

It took a year for dh to agree that we wanted children though - and so I guess I spent this year doing that as a focus instead of getting mad at him.

Once off the pill I only drank whilst on my period and up to the first time we had sex in a cycle (even though condoms used).

Can't drink caffine anyway so no great loss there.

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decafgirl · 09/10/2005 09:54

Ooh M3 this all sounds v. interesting. I don't know many(any actually!)people who've felt sick because of their AF. Maybe, just maybe...? Fingers crossed for you. There are people out their who say they can feel pg from the second sperm meets egg so I don't think there's such a thing as too early. If it were me I'd try not to get my hopes up but secretly buy a couple of tests! xxx

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sweetkitty · 09/10/2005 10:05

decaf girl you sound so like me 2 1/2 years ago, I bought a preconception book changed my diet, started taking sanatogen multivits BDed at the appropriate times, it's very exciting but of course despite all the planning (and a fortune in OPKs and tests) it took us 9 months to get pregnant. I never believed you could know straight away but I did, I knew my AF wasn't turning up and knew the result of the test, DD was the result of a midweek quickie as we had decided to give TTC a rest.

However, with DD2 (I'm 26 weeks pregnant now) it was the very first attempt at TTC, again I knew straight away I was pregnant.

Best of luck all those TTC especially for the first one!

muppet3 · 09/10/2005 16:15

I gave in and bought a test - BFN

Oh well. Still no AF either, so maybe it was just too early. Will keep hoping ...

jersey · 10/10/2005 09:37

Sorry about the BFN Muppet but could be too early, give it a few days and if AF hasn't arrived, try again. Fingers crossed.

Normsnockers · 10/10/2005 15:06

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jersey · 10/10/2005 15:16

Hi Normsnockers welcome to the thread. I know the feeling we are TTC this autumn and I'm hoping my chest stays down this time as its becoming a problem getting reasonably priced bras in my size as it is!!

Good luck

Molton · 10/10/2005 23:04

Just wanted to wish everyone lots of luck. Despite being 1.5yrs from TTC (official date has been negotiated with DH, who loves his nights out and holidays but recognises his genetic destiny ......) I am using Persona, losing a little weight and got him to agree to a loft conversion in the spring.

I love reading up on all this stuff - can't wait until it's my turn!

jersey · 11/10/2005 08:57

Hi Molton, know how you feel. Good luck when you start. Your welcome to keep dropping in, I have been for several months now!!!

muppet3 · 11/10/2005 22:42

In the interests of totally scientific research (of course), has anyone else found their sex drive head sharply upwards after coming off the pill? I'm starting to wonder now if that was a side-effect I put up with for 9 years without realising. I don't think it's just TTC that's making me feel this way Today DH complained that he doesn't think he can keep up this level of BDing