More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

[Beattiebow]

I've started a new thread!

oh no - I keep falling for these

I've read her blog (sorry I don't know how to do links but hope someone else does.)

I also read the thread that seems to have started it all. Someone was asking if she could take her child out with Chicken pox and sassy was explaining how serious an illness it it.

She said something like she wished people could know how it felt to have a child die and then it was made out that she'd said I wish your child would die. All her comments are deleted so it's impossible to know how she worded it but for god's sake, she is grieving and people were saying stuff like, "Just cos it happened to your child it is still very rare."

Anyway, I think it all escalated from there. I don't believe she was anything other than what she said she was a 40 year old woman, mother of Catherine, now ttc another child.

I will miss her humour so much and the snug was all down to her and her lovely ideas.

I doubt she will want to come back but if she does and is able(or if your reading this Sas) I for one would love to 'see' you. xxx

I also find it hard to believe that anyone could have made up such an amount of detail and showed such emotion (and done/known about the SMEp). Do you believe her after the texts Jolls?

But OTOH there have other trolls on mn before that have gone into such detail, and I presume mn wouldn't have banned her without evidence.

It would be good to find out the truth behind this.

yes I got her mobile number from the blog... tbh I'm not sure what is the whole truth; but like you say I find it hard to accept that Sassy has not suffered terrible loss, and regardless of whats/whys/wherefores it comes across that she is someone who needs help and support.

It may be that some details have been changed/embellished/adjusted but if the whole thing is an elaborate hoax then I'm flabbergasted. And the only reason I have a doubt that maybe there have been some changed details is a tiny bell in my head reminding me that when Sassy and I discovered we had both been at Sussex there was a small issue with dates and ages and who was older etc... it just makes me wonder a bit...

Ironically I had only a few days ago been chatting on FB with some of the MC girls about MN posters and how I wondered about one being a fantasist as things seemed too incredible to believe (not Sassy or indeed any of you!).... although Hippy's hypochondria is pretty amazing .

Wave to all.

I, for one, have no idea of the truth of it but I feel sure Susan has suffered a great loss and last night I just posted a quick comment of support on her blog.

I don't know it all but having seen the obituary on the internet (found by someone else on MN elsewhere, which in some ways I found a little strange to look at and if Susan is reading this my apologies for looking it up) but in the swing of the thread I found myself reading it all. The Chicken pox thread (it is the thread Hippy mentions) shows some of the history but of course it is hard to read as all Sassy comments have been removed. Anyway, you can read Sassy's blog at which says her side and she says she has only ever posted as Sad Susan and Sassy Susan, which until proved otherwise I chose to believe. Personally, I wonder about how MN 'knows' she has posted as other different people. My understanding is that it is possible for two people to end up with the same ISP if they are using the same service provider. Anyway, I can't say the whole truth of any of it but I think she needs our support and it is such a whole mess. I was up until 3.30 reading about it! Sassy if you are reading this then it was not idle curiosity but a desire to understand the situation.

Thinking of you Sassy.

Arghh, my 3rd attemot to post today and ds keep juddering the laptop and the screen goes blank!!!
To summarise...I agree Italian. UNtil I hear something definitive I will continue to beleive that everything Sassy has said/experienced is true, and have posted my support on her blog.
Now, I will try again to get the list updated as we need to keep track - there must be some testing coming up for some of us..

Sassy cd4
GG age 42 cd5
BB age 40 cd6
muchlove cd9 (on hols!)
Gum Aged 43 cd114 (on hols!)
40someMum age42 cd 16
Diege age 40 cd2
Hippy aged 44 13 dpo
Curlylox age 46 CD43??
10000ff
lottie
jolls
italiangreyhound - waiting for May

anyhoo... feel a bit like I've been rubbernecking at a car crash and it doesn't feel good :(

BB haven't been to the Agora yet, but am planning a consult with Carole (E recommended her, as did someone I know who has been a client). I know there are highly recommended clinics in London, but logistically at the mo the Agora suits best; GG do you have any thoughts or contrary advice?

Haven't exactly rushed to get the ball rolling, as was told at EPU that they wouldn't see me for 6 weeks anyway post eRPC, and I am only on my WTF cycle anyway, CD13 today.

How's everyone else today?

Sorry XP Diege x

Sassy cd4
GG age 42 cd5
BB age 40 cd6
muchlove cd9 (on hols!)
Gum Aged 43 cd114 (on hols!)
40someMum age42 cd 16
Diege age 40 cd2
Hippy aged 44 13 dpo
Curlylox age 46 CD43??
10000ff
lottie
jolls age 42 CD13
italiangreyhound - waiting for May

Erm had to update my age as I'm not 46 thank you very much I'm 43 years young

Sassy cd4
GG age 42 cd5
BB age 40 cd6
muchlove cd9 (on hols!)
Gum Aged 43 cd114 (on hols!)
40someMum age42 cd 16
Diege age 40 cd2
Hippy aged 44 13 dpo
Curlylox age 43 CD48?? aaaarrrrgggghhhhh
10000ff
lottie
jolls age 42 CD13
italiangreyhound - waiting for May

Oh no Curly!! Not guilty (I don't think??!!)
Feeling strangely content on cd 2. Does anyone else feel 'safe' during early part of cycle? No worying about what your temp might be/being nice to dps/dhs/dilemmas about testing etc etc
Really trying to sort last winter's clothes out. Well that was the plan but they need to come down from the loft first..
Hope everyone's ok - let's all be strong and hold together; I'm sure things will be sorted for Sassy when MNHQ get around to it

Didn't mean to sound flippant there - just that I'm sure things are going to be resolved x

curly sorry if it was me, that aged you three years. I would blame sassy and her deleted posts, if she could read this, but feels a bit unfair when she can't come back at me with her inemitable wit. So since it happens that one of my updates was the first one showing the error , please slap my wrists for the mistake!

Diege - thanks for putting the log on, how long do you think the lemon cheesecake will take to defrost, I could do with some now I think.

"Yes, watching x factor while looking for a puppy on the interweb. (figure if i get a puppy I'll get pg too maybe)."
Oh Beattiebow we got a puppy about 12 weeks ago, she's adorable but I'm not preggars but it may well work for you

just popping on to say hi...

can't help but think about SasSus... and hate myself for it, but have just been reading the update both on the CP thread and also the one set up in chat for the MNHQ response.

Am more confused and alarmed than ever... have also just scrolled back to read when GG ribbed SS about getting her cycle length messed up... oh heck we can all mis-count, but it now seems odd.

Anyway - about to get back to trivial stuff, X Factor and my lovely SC... back later xx

I am just gutted because I got all emotional over one poster a matter of months ago and am worrying that it's the same one. It's a wake-up call that mumsnet is WWW

any road up...

one of my dcs went to university yesterday which is very but also [happy] and brilliant and everything I wanted it to be but a bit weepy

1dpo and still think I will give it another go !!

hope all ok let's think +++++

I've also been thinking about the situation with Sassy Jollster on and off all day really . I did think too about the dates thing, but I'm thinking at worst it's a boy who cried wolf scenario, at best a complete misunderstanding...whatever the score, I don't think Sassy will be back
To lighten the modd I can announce that the cheesecake is defrosted, so let the gluttony commence!
Oh and Hippy have you been strong and resisted testing?

I forgive you galwaygirl what's a few years between friends

Jollster hi just read you said "...both on the CP thread and also the one set up in chat for the MNHQ response." I can't find these. I have no idea where to look! I don?t want to be voyeuristic but I am hoping MN will come on and say something about it all.

Whatever may have been said I have no doubt at the moment that Susan was bereaved and although this is a terribly tragic thing she has at least conveyed to me some of the importance of life and made me aware of making the most of every moment!

40someMum I know it is scary to think people may not be who they say they may be but I think whatever turns out to be the case the emotions and bereavement are real and they have certainly impacted me in a positive way, I just wish I could impact Sassy in a positive way but I am sure she has heard it all before.

I am testing again tomorrow, unless AF turns up. I am pretty sure nothing will have happened! I spoke to a lady at church tonight who had adopted two children and it was so positive it gave me hope for the future but only if we really feel it is God's will for us and something we can both cope with (I know that will sound odd but what I mean is if it is not right for us then we have to move on).

All the best Hippy, Gum, Beattie, Galwaygirl, Diege, Curlylox and Sassy.

the chat thread, which includes Justine's posts for Italian...

Italian - I am glad that your church people are able to give you so much hope for the future. I keep hoping for a miracle for you.

40some - my sister just saw her youngest child go to uni too, it is hard to let go, but fortunately for my sister she still has her oldest staying at home !!! Hope you don't miss your dc too much.

Hippy - when are you testing again,,,, not so early now..... test test test.....

In the meantime - please someone else have some of this lemon cheesecake before I scoff it all myself,,, mmmmm

Meant to add 40somemum that it must be tough seeing your children off to uni' - I will be meeting with all my new students tomorrow morning and they are always so nervous/excited. I think I forget that for many of them it's the first time they've been away from home x
Italian, yes I also think that whatever the back story, Sassy has indeed been bereaved,and I too learnt a lot from her.

Mmmmmm...

Jolly thanks

I will leave the lemon cheesecake thanks, I've just gone MAD (MAD I tell you!) this weekend and had pasta, curry, Nan bread, cheese, tiramisu and a fun size crunchy washed down with wine and jelly beans! But not all in one meal!

Oh dear, back on the wagon!!!

After we got back from dropping ds i said to dp ' tomorrow i am going to EAT all day ' am not normally a big eater but i guess it really is comfort!

I am with you italian and glad church was positive for you today...

trying to stay positive here but a birthday is looming!