So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

Sorry I've been crap, but the failed IUI hit me harder than I thought it would and have been indulging in lots of crying and misery.

Wen t to the clinic yesterday, and they have agreed to ket us have IVF on the next cycle instead of trying another two IUI cycles.

So need to take lots of horrid drugs, but FX this one will work.

By the way, I may disappear for ever over the weekend as I understand that being arrested for murder can get you in a little trouble, and I think I might have to kill my builder.

owl I'm using cheapies, too much of a cheapskate to pay for the expensive ones!

Had small meltdown last night, now v hungover and wishing I hadn't had 3 cigars...! Will now go and make chocolate cake for all x

3 cigars!!! I had a wine glass full of last year's home made damson gin and feel rough like a badger's arse this morning.

Dachs tis lovely to hear from you - buggeration about the horrible drugs but hoorah for the IVF as I believe the success rates are much better than IUI? I think it's fair to say that we all have everything crossed for you :)

Please do not murder your builder but do feel free to dose his last cuppa of the day with some heavy-duty laxatives. That'll learn him

Cigars only because I am an ex-smoker and suddenly had violent cravings that I was too grumpy to overcome, but refused to leave the house to buy fags so rooted through my evening bags until I found a collection of cigars left over from our honeymoon five years ago. How sad am I?!
Ooh damson gin...am waiting for the frosts so I can make some sloe gin.

I'm looking forward to the chocolate cake!

I wouldnt mind some of the damson gin too :)

When can you start IVF Dachs?

Bugger waiting for the frosts; I've gone out and picked loads and shoved them in the freezer. The house will soon be awash with gin.

Hello people

Thank you for not being grumpy that I've been out of circulation for a few days.

Bad day.

Builder didn't turn up (then said that he was waiting for the French doors he'd asked to be altered and didn't know the place wasn't open on a Saturday. Lame excuse or am I being harsh?)

Given that we were expecting the building work to have been finished I had lots of other orders arriving today. One of them didn't turn up (from Argos) and I called their customer service number and was on hold for 40 MINUTES!!!!!!! Didn't manage to speak to anyone. Then discovered that their customer service number is only open until 5 (even though deliveries are theoretically until 6), and I called at 5.05.

Anyway, rant over. We spent the afternoon sorting out the lounge even though the building work isn't finished - it's going to look GREAT so am happy. Now eating pizza and watching the X Factor, with a glass of red wine :)

owl - yep success rates are >50% for my age bracket for my clinic for IVF, as opposed to

owl maybe I won't wait for frosts either then :)

dachs sorry you're having a tough time and have had a bad day - fingers crossed for IVF and building work!

Going househunting again tomorrow as DH has suddenly taken against the beautiful Victorian house we were going to buy...

Hey all, just a quick Good morning to y'all!!

Dachs - fantastic news about the IVF lady , fx for you

Waves to everyone else and passes round a lovely tropical fruit juice to start the day on a helathy note (we can add some of Owl's home made gin this afternoon )

Is that.... grapefruit juice, MamaP ?

Morning all. I poas this morning and BFN. Day 29 here so although it's not 100% certain, I feel in my heart that it's not my month :( Off too hospital tonight for anotherscan to try and work out why I'm still soo uncomfy. That is, if I manage to make it there through the tube strike. Bah humbug.

On the up side, had a lovely weekend.

Aw, Womble . Perhaps next month will be everyone's month what with Dachs doing the IVF thing and all.

Hope the scan goes well - is total arse about the tube strike though.

on a helathy note MP??

Hello all, just wanted to say, I shall be vanishing for a week or so as my father is having a heart bypass this week so I shall be visiting him and staying with my hysterical mother.
Anyone else really want this year to be over, in the hope that 2011 just has to be better...? So many people seem to have had a crap 2010.
See you all soon x
PS Wombat sorry to hear about BFN. Fingers crossed for next month.

Yes Aurora I too can't wait for this year to be over so I can get past my due date and hopefully then stop thinking about where I should be in my pregnancy. I'm not even being hopeful about getting a BFP before the year is out. Sorry to hear about your Dads surgery - mothers are a pain at the best of times let alone when they are hysterical!

We need some good news on here so maybe you were too early Wombat (not to get your hopes up but I didnt get a BFP til day 40 last time) and lets start a mantra for Dachs IVF :)

dachs great to hear you can have ivf, the success rates sound very promising. Better than the natural method by the sounds of it so hopefully you will have the desired result soon.
aurora I know what you mean! the first half of 2010 was great for me until the pregnancy. All I think of now is I should have been x-number of weeks, I should know if it's a boy or girl, i should have been buying a pram, i should have been planning my leave, I should have been etc etc etc. I really hope I'm pg again by end of feb, if not the due date will be a nightmare, but I wish I didn't have this imaginary should-be pregnancy still continuing in my head but not my body. Really hope your dads surgery goes well.

Still no af, still bfn.....ultra early would have shown bfp by now I'm sure, so can I PLEASE please have my period? Tonight if possible!

Could someone please explain to me what I have missed about choice of fruit juice?

:) grapefruit juice is on the ridiculous list of things that may help conception (apparently it produces more EWCM) - tis probably all lies though (not that this will stop me trying it this month).

Kat the rules are: if you're not TTC - cycle is so regular you can set your watch by it. The minute you start TTC? It goes bonkers. However I'm hoping for you this is just a bfp that is going to show up late :)

Due dates suck. Another thing that sucks is because mine was 22 Jan I was banking on using it as a quality excuse for not spending Xmas with the inlaws (8 months, can't travel far, etc). Damn, damn, damn. Roll on February, I say.

Aurora you may have toddled off by now but just wanted to say I hope your Dad's surgery goes well & your Mum remains calm!

Hi everyone. Aurora I hope you're Dad's op goes well.

Yep, counting down through the lost pregnancy and due dates stucks. I had my scan last night and nothing to report, which is good in a way, but bad in that I still don't know what's wrong. Ho hum. Back to my GP I guess to ask him to do swabs, but that might have to wait a bit unless I can get an appointment for tomorrow as AF is in theory due in a couple of days.

Aurora hope all goes well for your Dad.

Owl my EDD was Jan 17th and I was using it as an excuse to get out of this sodding trip to Oz to SIL's wedding in a few weeks (would have coincided with entering third trimester and what with it being long haul and the fact my spine is held together with metal, would never have been given clearance to fly)!

I actually screamed at DH last week, ''I hate 2010, I can't wait to see the back of it''!! It was the hormones but genuinely, it's been a bloody hard year all round!

OK, so got blood test results back, good news is progesterone is 39 and anything over 30 is good. However, she failed to help with an explanation as to the shift in ucl and move from Day 14 ov to day 17 and didn't seem to actually care, in fact she told me to go away and if I'd not retained a pregnancy within a year to go back! The lack of empathy was, as you can tell, overwhelming, I suspect she had 3 kids and thought I was a minor irritant to her saving the world of genuine health problems!!! Grrrrrrr!

Passes special Grapefruit juice to Kat

We def need a BFP round here! More SWI girls x

Wow, your doctor sounds CHARMING. I suppose the thing is that day 17 is not a million miles off normal - in that I seem to have settled on day 15 - but I suppose it depends how long the overall cycle is and she may not really have focussed on that bit having only looked at the 17 figure. Good news on the progesterone though.

I wonder if a change of GP is in order? A year seems far too long to be faffing around at our age.

thanks for the good wishes but it was not a late bfp, it was a late AF, which has now shown up in full force. The lateness was predictable almost to the day by the ov kit results. At least shows that they are working even if i had one sort of positive ish one a week before the definitely positive. Luteal phase therefore 13 days, very pleasing. Am planning this months "opportunities" now. Shame it doesn't seem to coincide with our holiday, but at least I think it will be on a weekend.

MP glad to hear your progesterone results were good. Shame your GP is not very nice.

I don't like grapefruit juice :( Think it will still work if I mix equal parts orange and grapefruit? I need all the help I can get with ewcm. Typically, when I was not ttc, a couple of years ago I recall having plenty of it. Not any more....

popped in for a quick lurk...

Kat - do you know about evening primrose oil for egg white mucas? You take it first half of cycle only, stop at ovulation.

I love our two resident lurkers (Nix and MummyA) always on hand with good advice or something to make us laugh, you two are fab x

Kat, boo to af turning up! That's me and you on a similar cycle...perhaps we'll be upduffed by the end of Oct with a little luck (and lots of SWI )

Brain not working yet!! I should have highlighted names Nix and MummyA