We're not obsessing, we're Just Shagging! Part III

[BrassicaBabe]

The 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended)

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at ever opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Resist the lure of ovulation predictor kits, Taking Control of Your Fertility and the dreaded First Repsonse. Knowing where you are in your cycle is entirely permissible though!

Going to the doctor is permitted if you've had a stupidly long cycle but beware of the dildo-cam-scan.

Keep acronmyage to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'.

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Although all most of these rules are well and truely broken!! But we try to chill - honest

Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Shout if I've missed anyone.

Glad I'm not the only one who has noticed we're fast running out of thread.

I managed to bite my tongue quite badly this morning. So now I feel sick and sore. Still have thrown up yet though Will probably talk with a lisp all day now.

Have decided I don't know you in RL cremegg. I only know a couple of people from Adelaide and they are either in Melbourne or Dublin. good to see the JS mentalness is so far flung though

Waves at everyone before preparing to brave the cold fog outside.

Fingers crossed for progress in your appointment today vallinna

Harder I?m only being patient waiting until Monday for my appointment because I keep peeing on digital sticks at £7.50 a go! Any reason you aren?t testing madam?

Looking forward to some POAS mentalness over the next week

Brassica I'm sure I will be able to fulfil that POAS mentalness soon

Is anyone on here a hairdresser? I'm thinking about a drastic change of style (from long to short) but with thick hair I'm not sure what style would suit it

Miffles - that's the thing about MN, everyone thinks they know what is best. Hang 10 with us, all the neurosis hear will have you feeling sane in no time. I know all you want is info and answers from people in the same position but as I have learnt you tend to hear everything you don't need to - all be it in the nicest intentions. If it's any consolation my DH's sperm is borderline (due to pretty much every social aspect of his lifestyle I assume!) Huge hugs.

Thanks for the luck ladies. Feel sick. As in nerves...I am dreading coming out with no progress. Am trying to manage my own expectations. What is 'best case scenario'? I think either coming out booked on to an IVF programme or maybe just trying to induce ovulation with the injections? The thought of doing that and 'missing the moment' or DH's two headed, bent tailed sperm not getting there are too much really.

Appt at 2 - been clock watching since 8:30

Ha ha cremegg, I nicked that phrase off bb :). Shows that way too much furkling is going on in my life.

Poor you NMCB!

Am working from home and This Morning is on TV and there's a couple who had a baby die 29 weeks into the pregnancy and the woman gave birth naturally knowing the baby had already died. Holly Willoughby has lost it and is crying her eyes out. Now I am crying my eyes out ...

Baby-making, even when it isn't successful, turns you absolutely mental.

Hi there all!

Ive not read the huge backlog of posts because my bookmark thing is being arsy, so I've only read the last two pages so far -

miffles - admiring your positivity and your DH sounds lovely and supportive - fingers crossed that things start looking up now you are beginning to understand more about whats going on with you both.

Who is ATM?

What else big news have I missed? Fill me in girls.

As for me, I actually noticed when I ovulated this month - I got terrible period pain type pains and in lower back, felt hot and sweaty, and had tonnes of pant snot, and I mean tonnes. (TMI I know, but hey, who else can I tell)...But sadly, not much JSing; DH is stressed because of a family crisis hes had with parents, so JSing has been off the cards - but I cant remember if we JS'd the day before the crisis. I just may have missed that window though.
What a waste of a huge ovulation and all that pant snot. Im trying my best to not be pissed off (because it makes me feel so terribly guilty), but cant help feeling it inside.
Very selfish. Bad wife/daughter in law/whatever

Sorry, x-post with vallinna. Love and hugs to you :) What you say is so right. Whenever I've asked for advice on other threads people have often told me what their particular experience was as if that is the right thing for me, and quite often it hasn't been. If there's one thing I've learned through all this ttc-ing is that it takes months to get to know your body and what is and isn't normal for you - and when it comes to how you're feeling there probably is no such thing as 'normal'! If I couldn't come on here I'd go insane - with the chemical preg I got so fed up of having to respect the good intentions of well-intentioned people in RL who kept telling me it was sort of my fault for doing an early test, I wouldn't have even known otherwise - and sort of expecting me not to be upset because it wasn't really a real loss. I know they were trying to make me feel better so I didn't say anything, but the strain of being polite was horrible.

At least I could come on here and go wwwwwaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh - and know everybody else is doing the same in their own way and for their own reasons!

Right, going off to pull myself together now. Good luck to all going to the doctors and peeing on sticks, needlesly or otherwise ...

Vallina - missed your post there. I will be thinking about you.
Do let us know what happens.
Sending you a big hug.

:( it's just one long worry isn't it? This ttc business is tough enough, but then until you are about 32 weeks you worry about whether it's sticking/healthy... it was the most stressful time of my life!

Huge hugs to miffles and vallinna good luck for future tests and trials.
brassica and nomore glad to see things are going ok with you both. fingers crossed!

josie I don't have thick hair, but I think it's easier to look after if it's long enough to put in a ponytail - don't do anything drastic!

HTK you sound just like me... I am actually now convinced I could be preganant. :o
I had some spotting around day 27 so, presumed it was the red fecker... but it's disappeared since. I have sensitive nips, have been feeling slightly nauseous at the thought of breakfast (but fine by lunch! :)), and have no signs of af. I have decided I'm going to poas tomorrow morning...
The problem is that because I was sure af was arriving, I went to a dental appointment and HAD AN X-RAY!! so now I'm bricking it. Even though Google has reassured me a little because a tooth-xray is miniscule and practically irrelevant. ARGH - I am stressing out and in denial... but I am officially late. :o

Now another X-post with spareroom. You're not a bad person, you're a true JSer with that mentality!

(PS: in big news, nomorechoc and brassica are both, whisper it, probably, tentatively, up the duff :))

P.S. those grins should be shocked looking faces...not smileys!

Heavens Milano! POA-fecking-S!! And dental xrays have a v small dose of radiation and it?s directed quite accurately rather than ?scatter gun?. So you will be fine!

JosieI recently went from long hair to a bob. Loving it. Go for it! In fact my hair cut was in direct response to AF arriving. It?s nice to have control over some aspects of your own life!

pmsl @ valinna Hang in there. Not long until your appointment now....

at bobs, baldy heads and Freudian-slip s that should be

At work, so super quick post

'Symptoms to date': stomach ache, tired, moody, sore boobs, feeling sick yesterday morning, crying at the news and at two programmes..oh and telling my friend about the news story that made me cry.

All could mean AF...who knows? Don't think it is even possible to have symptoms 10 days post ovulation

p.s. been asked twice this week 'when are you going to have a baby?'

response: I love my holidays and nights out too much to be tied down with a baby

internal response: its been 8 months and an ectopic pg so mind your own f' business.

Sorry...rant over!

baby2b this is the Official Rant Zone. No need to be

Also, you can definitely get preg symptoms 10DPO. That's not to say AF isn't coming too though (8DPO here, sore boobs, mild cystitis I can't seem to shake, and teary. Sincerely doubt I'm preggo though...)

(Whispers to B2B, my symptoms kicked in about 8DPO...)

's at Milano's nervous laughter, Brassica's AF hair and anything else I've been laughing at.

Wishes V'Pod's fanjo luck for the impending dildo cam (or is it just a talking appt?)

Can't believe how sore my tongue is. Almost to sore to talk! Had the most annoying trolley at the supermarket, it just wanted to go round in circles. I couldn't help thinking that the weight of DS and the shopping combined with dafty trolley couldn't be good for my tum. Bought knocked up on DVD to make up for it.

So many emotional viroids. It's a good thing I've been to the shop!

OMG Where to start? I go away for one day and we?re nearly on a new thread

So firstly miffles I don?t know whether to say boo or yeah for your appointment. Of course it?s rubbish that something is not quite right, but sounds like you are getting taken seriously and already have A Plan. This is good :)

Nomore and BB everything is still crossed for you both, all sounding good so far.

Vallinna thinking of you, hope you get the answer or plan you are looking for, whatever that turns out to be

Josie you are being very restrained, though for the safety of your bladder, would it not be sensible to sneak the HPT into the house on Friday night . Of course I realise the PIAR option is more interesting, what with the opportunity to eat the pudding first and all

Harder and Milano - get peeing . What are you waiting for? We need someone to pee to keep us all sane remember! Oh and baby2b, surely you too?

cremegg - yeah indeed for Hump day!

takethat - arse flashing . Whatever next! Love the bitching, the guy sounds like he was fair game to be honest. C*ck?.. Re your story on the news, that actually happened to a friend of mine, horrendous doesn?t begin to describe it. I think it hit her husband harder though, as she was fairly out of it with drugs (deliberately) but he had to watch the whole thing. Life is a bitch sometimes .

SRS the member to which you refer is AttilatheMeerkat. I?ve not put that bit in bold...Personally not crossed ?-swords-? paths with her, but I?m sure it?s only a matter of time.

Who or what else did I miss? I?m reading on my iphone and typing on a word document, to disguise the fact I?m MNing at work! It?s very complicated

In Nervous land, 8DPO along with tt etc and bored of it all? Really no symptoms other than I felt very sick last night, but I had eaten a 3 course meal so not surprising. I was very much in the JS spirit over the last few days. We had sex, even though I was nowhere NEAR ovulation. I drank wine. I didn?t go on MN for a whole day (and am regretting it now, my wrists hurt from the typing ). I didn?t pee on anything, google anything, poke my boobs, examine my knickers, go furkling or think about baby names. For one whole day ? go me

So ideas for the new thread name ? personally I?d like to see Furkling in the title, and maybe a sub-title of ?no kittens allowed?. . Though that?s mean and not actually in the friendly fun spirit of the thread so perhaps we can leave that bit out!

Right now I need to open up MN on the monitor without the Senior Director sitting beside me noticing what I?m doing ?.

If it helps you 2ww'ers I got a BFN at 16DPO. So there is always hope until red fecker arrives!

DH and I always said that when I get pg we won?t tell many people until we reach the safe period, but loads of internet sites say you?re usually fine to tell people as soon as you conceive and make out that the ?risk period? is a myth, but then being on MN and talking to real people about their experiences, you realise that, actually, it can be as hard making a pg stick as it is to get pg in the first place, so you?re better off not telling people!

Thanks Brassica, the length of my hair is the problem at the minute! If I tie it up I get a headache (have neuralgia problems) but if I leave it down it gets on my nerves at work so I end up putting it behind my ears and over my shoulders but it starts flicking out and looks awful if I then let it fall back down, plus now that I have to muck out horsey before work it gets right in my face and ends up windswept and I look like cousin it when I go to work Plus I have some very good pin-in extensions so when I go for a night out I can put them in and have long hair for the night, as I prefer it long for special ocassions, it?s just no longer practical for day to day life.

Milano I will be logging on first thing tomorrow to see your results of POAS!

B2B I hate when people stick their noses in like that! If they have kids it must have been easy for them as if they?d been through half of what some people on here have been through they would never be as insensitive to ask that. And if they don?t have kids, then they obviously have no idea how difficult and heartbreaking it can be. No further comment P.S. hope they?re pg symptoms not AF!

Well done Nervous! Thanks for the idea, but I fear if I have a POAS in the house I may pee on it, saying that, if I don?t have one, I may pee on the nearest thing resembling a stick I am also having terrible trouble hiding my screen from senior admin. She?s lovely but does like to make sure work gets done (which it does by the way, I just happen to be more efficient than my colleagues and get all my work done early on)

OK. deep breath ladies...had a doctors appointment that I have left feeling positive from. I know...!

So, turned up to find seeing yet another doctor. Couldn't have cared less really. one thing I wasn't fussy about was who I saw, just when. Turns out to be the ex-Medical Director of the clinic, and we didn't have to pay for the appointment...me thinks the complaining may not have fallen on deaf ears. He was also by far and away the best person we have spoken to so far. Very down to earth, let us chose the treatment options - honest about everything. Oh and he described ovulation hormones with the aid of a pear tree - we liked the insanity!

Any way, talked up through all the options, being:

1. higher doses of clomid/letrozole - discounted due to my thin lining
2. injectables - discounted in case of OHSS
3. drilling - discounted as I really hated the sound of it versus the success rates after
4. IVF

So, our first born will start out life in a plastic dish. Got to have a period induced again (ironically going back on the pill to do this!) and then the fun and games start with all the drugs....

....I realise I stopped counting as a just-shagger a while ago but can I stay?!

Vallinna Yay on finally finally having a definative course of action. And yes of course you can stay!

Josie I have rediculously (sp?) thick and wavy hair and just LOVE having it above my shoulders. It really doesn't matter how well cut and layered it is when it's long, it just looks rubbish. I also finally found a Scottish hair dresser who actually listened to me when I said I don't use a straightner and actually like it to go curly (had the best hairdresser in Australia). Turns out 'beach hair' really suits me. and it's long enough to tie up when needed (know what you mean about the hair tie head ache). Soo, I definately give my vote for chop it off