We're not obsessing, we're Just Shagging! Part III

[BrassicaBabe]

The 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended)

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at ever opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Resist the lure of ovulation predictor kits, Taking Control of Your Fertility and the dreaded First Repsonse. Knowing where you are in your cycle is entirely permissible though!

Going to the doctor is permitted if you've had a stupidly long cycle but beware of the dildo-cam-scan.

Keep acronmyage to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'.

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Although all most of these rules are well and truely broken!! But we try to chill - honest

Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Shout if I've missed anyone.

morning, everyone!

i'm not allowed to advertise, milanomum, but if you google children's bookshops in sittingbourne, you'll find me (name should be obvious!)

NoMore - i haven't done a dance just for DH, i'd be far too self-conscious for that! but he has seen me perform a couple of times - i joined in with my troupe at the wedding for one dance.

Grump. Grump grump grump.

For all that excitement, the JS was rubbush, DH and I had a massive argument about it and are still not speaking properly.

It wasn't meant to happen like this!

For that reason my favourite film would be Mary Poppins - cos there is no JSing at all!!!!

Off to work hard all day, cleaning a rental flat ready for next tenant. That'll be fun, when the pair of us aren't communicating....

Does anyone else get in such a strop and sulk, that you can't actually work out how to stop and get back to normal? I'm bored with the sulking now!!

Self centred post alert (I've not read any of the recent posts)

I've got a "pink line" confusion. I refuse to use the 3 letter acronymn yet.

I bought 2 cheapy tests this week. Yesterday I PIAR with one, BFN of course at 8DPO.

This morning I got up at 630 when DH went to work. PIAR, put it on the windowsil (the stick, not the ramekin ) set the timer on my phone for 5 mins and checked the stick. BFN. No big deal, went back to bed.

Got up at 0930, stick still on the windowsill, and I've got a pink line. It was in the windowsill in the sun?

I got the yesterday's stick out of the drawer. (I don't throw them away incase DH spots things in the bin. So I stick my addiction the old sticks in a drawer and throw them away en masse.) Anyway, yesterday's stick was still a massive BFN.

Thoughts.

TALK TO ME VIROIDS!!

Right, brassica, after I've slapped you with a ginormous kipper I have two things to say to you.

1. Peeonastick.com, which has become my friend since I have managed to produce a total rainbow of preg test results, will tell you that any positive result gained after the time specified on the test is NOT a positive.

1. Last month, when I definitely was pregnant because Clear Blue digi eventually told me I was, and because I ended up getting very stark positives within the time frame, I began by getting pink lines after I was meant to.

All of this makes me think, cautiously, that if it's very early (and you are testing very early, hence the kipper!) you may get a BFP after the specified time limit. The only way to know for sure is to get a more sensitive test, or to test again in a couple of days.

Big fingers crossed for you.

Btw, you can slap me back. I have a ramekin of piss sitting on my bathroom shelf, and I'm off out to buy the sticks to dunk in it

OMG Brass, I feel SICK. Aaaarrrrrgghh!!! excited squeal Ok calm down, breathe, breathe.

You know what you have to do. Forget this positive test. Test again tomorrow.

Done any more tests brassica? My boobs ache like crazy but I just did a test and BFN. Still early though.

What brand were the tests btw? I find Tesco's the best for showing up early, and they're £3.60 for 2

Thanks taketaht, harder

I know it doesn't mean much. PO-another-S and BFN of course. (Note to self, stop peeing on things!)

Right, got a bleedy dinner party to prepare for. Going for a knobbish-relaxed tone this evening as looking to impress casual aquaintences. In that "What? Nice wine? We always drink 2001 chateauneuf du pape"

Need something to take my mind off things. Not telling DH as tonight might be last decent night on the wine!

for creating the dinner party vibe. We're going out to celebrate a friend handing her PhD in and she's countibg on me getting well and truly trolleyed.

Feel like crap after this cold and with the preg symptoms I had last month, so may do some sneaky spritzers instead. But we'll see ...

I'm really hopeful for you brassica. Sounds like there's a strong chance!

Ohhh Brassica - if you do get on it tonight you probably get a BFP tomorrow to guilt trip you

Not much news here...just lurking

Brassica you silly bisim! Sounds very encouraging, but if that line appeared after 5 mins, then you're just going to have to wait a couple of days and test again.

So to quote the blue bit way up there (points up the page)

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended)

Obviously in this instance you can change the birthday bit for a dinner party.

OMG I'm pregnant!

what????

!!!

Wow taking! Congratulations! More details please! What CD are you? Have you told DH?

The test was one from Wilko's, their own brand I think - Precision. The later BFN was a tesco one.

Keeping in line with the pg symptom and the RL likelyhood in brackets from a few days ago, I've got another two to add:
toothpaste tasted really odd/bitter last night (Cleaner has been using my toothbrush for something unspeakable)
The lowlevel nausea is back (surrounded by food for tonight and slighly paniced by pg thought)

well I feel pretty stupid

Had really bad bloating last night, very uncomfortable - started bleeding this morning, so took trip to A&E and after examinations, they tested my urine and it turns out its negative. The Dr was pretty offish with me, as though I'd wasted her time ... thing is, I'd done 4 tests during the week, 3 different brands, and all showed postive. I had very tender and enlarged boobs, bloating etc. She said I could never have been pregnant, as there would be a trace of HCG in the hospital test still, so it's not even classed as a miscarriage - well it feels like one to me!

I'm devastated. Need to go to my Dr on Monday to see what's happened - he didn't bother to test himself as he said with 4 positive tests, his wouldn't be any different.

I'm now told I'm just having a late period.

We were going to tell our girls today, but instead had to tell them why I was going to A&E - now I have to tell them I wasn't even pregnant in the first place.

Still in total . Not sure why really as we have been having unprotected sex for months and I already have a child, butI'm gobsmacked.
CD 34 of a roughly 32 day cycle. Had no AF symptoms so did a test this am so I could stop wondering and was stunned to see the line appear.
I'm a bit freaked out as have been having a hard time lately with DS1 and things are a bit shit financially. Really scared I'll get HG again. Due end of May. DS will be 3 and 2 months.
I should be thrilled but I feel a bit overwhelmed. Excited and terrified.

You are not stupid crow. You had a positive test. Don't let the condesending doctore dismiss you. Are you entitled to feel as crap as you do.

Oh, yes told DH this am. He's pleased although seems a bit surprised and is, like me, a bit worried about money.

taking CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Breathe... it'll be just fine.

crow that's awful - so sorry you're going through that :( :(

nomore they look great! we aren't quite ready for one just yet, but as soon as dd get's into a bed, i'll be on to you!

Brassica Bless. You've officially lost the plot. But I can't wait to find what happens around 15 dpo... :)

crow - if your own doctor said not to bother testign because his would be the same, then it must have been conclusive.

there's a chance it was one of those chemical pregnancies, right? then of course it wouldn't show up in your hospital test.
:(

taking!!! Congratulations!!!

Don't freak out. You'll be fine

crow, what brassica said. If there's one thing I've learned from all this ttc lark it's that doctors really don't have the faintest clue what is going on (especially as there are so few clinical tests done on pregnant women, for obvious reasons), and that they can be patronising arses. I've read studies saying that morning sickness and food cravings are all in women's heads and all sorts.

When I was pregnant last month the doctor dated me at 7 weeks even though I told her I had only ovulated 2 weeks before and that my cycles were running at 7 weeks. She said, 'I'm sorry, but we'll date you at your 12 week scan. We're not going to go on when you think you might have ovulated.'

I DID ovulate then! And how does she know when the 12 week scan would be if she doesn't take into account my dates? I know they have to be cautious, etc, but FFS!

So anyway, upshot is, ignore your doctor. The tests showed positive. You were pregnant, and you are totally entitled to feel fucking upset. I know how it feels, and you need to cry a bucketload, eat cake for dinner and then for breakfast the next day, and give yourself however much time you need. Really for you.

brassica I think I can see a line in my earlier BFN now too. DH says he can see it but he's not sure if he's imagining it because it's so hard to see and is only visible in certain lights and with a squint. So you can get me a ticket for that crazy train, too.

The question is, to drink or not to drink?

I'm going to try to drink as little as poss.

See you here tomorrow when I'll be hungover and have bruised my arse again, probably

Thank you ladies, it means alot to know I'm not the only one thinking that 4 seperate tests could be wrong.

She was so awful, made out I was lying about the tests - just told me to go back into the room and said 'who told you you were pregnant?' and when I said 4 pregnancy tests, she said the must have all been wrong and made me feel stupid for believing them, as the hospital test is very accurate and sensitive, so I was wrong and that it's just a late period.

So, I had a light bleed the day AF was due, it stopped the next day, even after JSing (which would usually kick start it)had a negative test 2 days before that, then had enough hCG in my system to have 4 postive tests - a week later. But I was never pregnant at all, it was all in my mind, as if I was miscarrying, there'd still be traces of hCG so where did that hCG come from for a week?

I think the Dr's attitude has made it all worse for me. She was so bad - she waved my notes and bloods in front of me in a dismissive manner and said 'I'm not going to even bother processing 'these'' then walked out of the room. I just felt numb and disbelieving of what had happened.

My OH has been great - he let me bawl my eyes out, told me the Dr was wrong, that I HAD been pregnant, he knows it. He put me to bed, run me a bath and cooked me dinner - I don't know what I'd do without him.

So, going to have my sulk to get it out of my system, then pick myself up, dust myself off and put on my shag cape again :)

Oh Crow - that is utterly horrible. That doctor behaved unbelievably badly. Cow cow cow cow cow!! I would really suggest you put in an official complaint. There is no excuse to speak to people in that manner. All hospitals have to have a complaints procedure - you can often find it through the Patient Advice and Liason Service (or something similar).

As everyone has said, you were pregnant and therefore have every right to grieve. It sounds like DH has your back. Take you time honey.

Brassica and Takethat - you are two crazy ladies!! Can't believe you - looking at your tests after the time and getting your knickers in a twist. Will you never learn?!

Congrats taking

So...I was the bigger person and apologised to DH and all was well in the Miffles household. We worked really really hard today in the flat - did a 10 hour day, but had a tasty chinese as a treat for dinner. My fingers are so dry from cleaning, solvents (for cleaning, no other reason!), gardening, etc.

No chance of JSing tonight - log fire or no long fire! But since I don't think I'm ovulating, there's no pressure!!

miffles good work, both for apologising and for using solvents for only the most laudable of purposes!

I am feeling very smug having drunk 'vodka and cokes' (i.e. cokes) all night, except for one real vodka my friend bought me and a mahoosive white wine spritzer (in a pint glass, I kid you not, though not filled up all the way).

So everyone thought I was drinking and, since they were all drunk, they didn't notice I was sober enough to drive home. Friend with the PhD hit the wall early anyway :)

The imaginary line is still there ...

How about yours brassica? When are you testing again. My boobs definitely hurt now . That's not a confused emoticon, that's my crazy face

Night, night. DH snoring v loudly next to me.

((hugs)) crow

(this logging in all the time is pissing me off)