Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part5)

[PrettyVacant1]

Open to all,join us in this corner to support each other,POAS, temp check and reach our BFP goal.
(Fish slapping optional.)

Dachs I guess we are in the same boat then. Was your POAS for Ov or Preg test? if you are preg testing and fancy indulging in a bit of mad optimism, then read on...

"Women who are pregnant tend to get more colds than their non-pregnant counterparts. This is mostly due to the fact that the immune system is slightly less effective during pregnancy. The body has to lower its defenses to make sure that the baby is not rejected. Unfortunately, this allows pregnant women to be more susceptible to illnesses than they would be otherwise."

coldflu.about.com/od/faqaboutthecold/a/pregnantcolds.htm

Velvetcu
If you want my two pennies worth, I'd have a drink too, same theory as the others, I too conceived DS and had a big binge before I found out. If you want to abstain, I always find "I'm on antibiotics, how annoying!" works.

Helloo Pretty, sure you can call me MA - makes me feel all maternal. (can I call you Pretty?)

hello reallygrumpy How are you getting on?

Hello MA i'm mostly ok after mc although I found out recently that one of my friends is pg, she has my due date and when she told me she said they weren't really trying and when she found out she cried for 3 hours because she's not sure they can afford another baby. All of which made me because she knows about my mc and that we've been trying for 18 months. So I'm avoiding her and have said I don't want her to come round to our house to which DH said that I shouldn't be so f**king childish and we had a big row!

I had a good appt with the consultant earlier this week. He was v positive and said that the fact that I'd conceived on clomid and that the embryo had implanted were good signs and the cases that are the hardest to treat are those where the embryo never implants... I'm counting down the days to AF so I can start clomid again and I'm thinking about trying knitter's 3 times a day regime (or at least twice). Sorry, this post is a big ramble and I really should be working...

You can call me whatever you like, you make me feel all preedy, not that I am much.

Thanks for the advice - I would usually go with the "well lots of people binge before they know" line but I had a big binge before I knew last time and in my heart I really believe that that is what killed my little bean.

I know the whole "dont blame yourself" line too but I cant help it.

Also, if I'm not PG then I want to have a bloody good drink!! It's sooo annoying not knowing.

Would you POAS in the morning anyway or not?

velvet if you've got some cheap sticks then can't hurt...

and

Glad you got some good news from the doc ReallyG.

"she has my due date" (she should give it back!)

I can sympathise with the rowing, I recently had a run in with a woman and her labrador in the park because she keeps letting it SHIT on the slide in the play area. After a screaming row and threatening violence (I have been watching too much Shameless recently) I came home and broke down in tears and then realised it wasnt all about her...

I felt horribly ashamed of myself until my DH and my mum started congratulating me on "finally letting it all out" Perhaps it does indeed have to "all come out"... watch out innocent bystanders!

For the record, I dont think its being "childish" if you want to protect your feelings from more hurt and reminders. Stay away as long as you need too, I havent seen my preg sis in law for months! xxxx

Velvetcu Yes I would. If i didnt I would be thinking about doing it all day.

Thank you MA

velvet it's so hard when you think that the mc was due to something you did. Despite everything my consultant said about early mc usually being due to chromosome abnormalities I'm still convinced the 3 mile run I did the day before had something to do with it and haven't been running since.

Wrong person to ask Velvet I'll pee on anything I can get my hands on at the moment.

Grumpy I'm sorry.
You are totally allowed to feel like that.
Sorry, I don't know you very well but people need to be a little more compassionate.
It's not your friends fault but you need time to come to terms with it in your own way.
Good news about the Consultant being positive.
You're right about the tests too, I prefer one's that don't shout and mock.
Well ,one with 2 lines would be good, I'd like one of those please.

I may try again tomorrow Sunday with Loops if nothing changes.
WTF cycle???? Me???? Arrrrrrggggghhhhh!

Go MeMa !! ON the slide!
Euuurrrggghhh!

velvet I'm going to have exactly the same drink/not to drink crisis next weekend as I'm going to a weekend long hen party. I'm thinking of PoAS fri morning and if BFP no booze otherwise v limited going with the pretend they are shorts strategy. If anyone says anything I'm tempted to tell them to fook off and mind their own business, easier than making up other reasons.

pretty sorry you are feeling manky. What type of pasty are you and were you three days old before being warmed up, or have you been reheated 3 timed now? It's just that I'm thinking you must be feeling especially grim if you're on your third reheat and you're cheese and onion....

Have a fab long Selene ladies, I'll be calling in over the weekend durum my breaks from ER :)

Also really your friend sounds incredibly insensitive-I am proud of you for not clouting her one. I am really cross just thinking about how enraged I'd be to hear about her crying.... Your DH's attitude sounds identical to my DH, I think they are much better at compartmentalising then women so they think we are wierd when I think your reaction is completely normal. Maybe your friend will notice the avoidance and realise she was out of line....

MA :):) about your shameless impression!! Hehe I love that programme! I think it is good to have a really good cry now and again, I always feel better after.

PFF This morning I felt like a pasty that had been reheated, eaten and regurgitated then left out in the sun x 3.
More chicken and bacon though.
Still feel 'orrible but at least I've been able to keep things down.
Selene, classy bird you ain't cha.
I'd like to think we are all Godessses.

Where's Cheepz?
Hope she's got the floor sorted and is settling nicely in her noo house.

Hahaha sorry to admit this but turns out that it's my phone that's the classy one!! Although maybe it has a point, reckon moon goddesses that have countless love affairs pretty much sums us lot up!! :) eugh regurgitated and left in the sun??! You poor thing!!

Back to cd1 today. Cycle 3. If someone could update the stats that would be grand.

Will take a break from mn for a couple of weeks in a bid to 'take my mind off things' while we wait for the egg.

Hope to come back and see lots more grads.

reallygrumpy and velvet it's hard when you think something you did might have contributed to the mc(although looking at it from the outside I'm sure it didn't!). But I do sympathise because despite all the platitudes about it being "just bad luck" etc I can't help wondering whether the immense workload and huge amount of stress my knob of a boss was loading on me at the time had something to do with it. Rationally, I don't think so, but I still feel resentful about it. And velvet, I would definitely POAS just to check

Good luck to pretty and loopy and anyone else planning to POAS this weekend - I'll be amazed if you make it to Sunday though!

dachs and anyone else dealing with WTF - hope everything sorts itself out for you soon (or, even better, that we get some BFPs)

getawiggleon - hope you're doing ok after the ERPC

I am feeling really down today, was really hoping to go up to my parents' for the weekend to see my sister (who mc'd a couple of weeks ago who's visiting there) but have got loads to do here and not sure we're going to make it. This was very sadly her second mc in several years of trying for their first child. She was just starting ivf when I had to tell her I was PG and didn't take the news very well, understandably. Then she was PG too and for about a week everything looked fantastic, then I found out at 16 weeks that my baby had died. Three weeks later she lost hers too . We're very close but things did get awkward and I'd love to see her to clear the air and give her a big hug. Life can be so cruel, as we all know.

Anyway, sorry for essay and self-pity, just needed to rant a bit. Will pour myself big glass of wine and cheer up.

Hope you all have a fab weekend x

Btw MA On the slide?!!

i just spent ages typing a message and then the sodding computer crashed and lost it all! :( can't be bothered to type it all out again (it was a seriously long post...) so each one of you consider yourself personally greeted :)

now - i haven't seen much haddock activity recently and i suspect that a number of you are symptom spotting, so join the queue if you require sealife intervention

sorry that you're feeling down izzy hugs enjoy the wine. all self pitiers more than welcome (I need some to come join me on the big squishy sofa or it will get v lonely here with all you lot being sensible and me being the only one moping)

Good grief, I offically can't keep up. PV wish your cycle would stop messing about and decide. Owl liking my mixed name of Moofibou! Mummyabroad hello! Just admit it, my chat on the other thread about cervix lured you here, I know, its hard to resist!

Loopy keep your pecker up, I know its a horrible time. No advice about the spotting as has never happened to me. Laughing at your description, my velcro womb also holds on for weeks upon end with no signs. Hoping this turns out well for you.

A blanket hello to everyone else as I really cannot keep up with what's going on with you all!

Its our first wedding anniversary this Sunday, have a lovely weekend away planned at a hotel with hot springs and a jaccuzzi in the room. Am 16 PDO, just started to feel crampy period pains... WAIIILL!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy
Yeah ON the slide, this woman now represents all evil in the universe for me. I see her once a day and we scowl at each other from a distance. Thank god I have finished series 7 of Shameless or she would be in serious danger of a headbut.

Poor you and your sis, sounds like you could do with supporting each other, can the other things really not wait?

yay - glad to have a squishy sofa buddy.

shame i need to go do dinner. i may not be able to check back in until tomorrow. if the last couple of days are anything to go by there'll probably be about 150 more messages on here by then!

take care all :)

CaribooMoo
oh hello! I was all confused by the name change. Yep, it was the dirty talk that did it.

where to begin, where to begin?!

LadyB never thought I'd cheer for the arrival of an AF but whoop!

Pretty Who is Brian and did you find him??!! hee hee, that made me chuckle, seems your Brain was indeed AWOL!! FX for you that it's good news and not your body playing silly beggers.

Loopy Role on Sunday and the answer we are all hoping for you :)

Hi Mummyabroad, these girls have been a great support to me...make yourself at home...but hopefully for not too long!

Now I feel a little giddy from all this catching up

Izzy & Choccy looks like the three of us have a busy weekend ahead

oh here you all are! just popping in to say hello