Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part5)

[PrettyVacant1]

Open to all,join us in this corner to support each other,POAS, temp check and reach our BFP goal.
(Fish slapping optional.)

Owl I'm embarrassed to admit that I faffed so much this morning that I left home without breakfast and ended up doing exactly that - eating an entire packet of biscuits (that I had in my bag for my desk drawer at work) with a cup of tea on the train to work. Lord know what the other commuters made of it.

LadyG and Nickster I know what you mean about the various emotions. I'm normally quite in control (my DH might say repressed :)) but I have had moments of total madness in the last week - so much anger. I got home late one night, tired and in pain after looking after my mum all day (she's just out of hospital herself) and doing a full day's work to find someone had parked their car on my drive so I had to park mine down the road from my house and lug all my bags in to the house. I lost the plot and wrote a very strongly worded letter which I stuck on their windscreen and proceeded to rage about it for hours! I did calm down enough to remove the note however, as my rational brain worried that it might have been the car of a relative of one of my elderly neighbours and there was some sort of crisis going on, however, when the driver of said car drove it away at around pub kicking out time that night I rather wished I'd left the note on there and blocked their car in with mine for good measure! I have never known anger like it, and although I know it's totally a projection of how I'm feeling about other things it does rather shock me that I am capable of becoming so derranged when ordinarily I'd consider myself to be 'normal' and rational adult

My DP is coping okay. We had the MC confirmed on Mon at 2pm and at 7pm he was on a flight abroad on business for the week. We'd been told it was all over essentially and there wouldn't be any more physical symptoms so we both decided we may as well carry on as normal because cancelling plans wasn't going to change things. Unfortunately, I ended up back in hosp on the Weds on my own because I'd had a lot more pain and bleeding then they expected. The nurse took one look at me and said in her experience 'skinny girls get it worse'. I'm not sure there's one jot of evidence to back that up (pretty certain not in fact, think she was just trying to cheer me up!) but it makes me feel better about my biscuit habit . By the time DP got back to UK on Friday night it was essentially all over and so apart from supplying hugs when requested and needing to support me emotionally more than normal, the experience hasn't been too traumatic for him, he says. Although I think he feels a bit bad that he has managed to be so matter of fact about it and whereas I'm worrying about being emotional, he's worrying about not being. How's your DP getting on?

Loola - thanks for doing the stats. CD 9 for me already. I can't believe it! Glad AF has arrived and you can look forward now. Hopefully your body getting back to 'normal' might help your head follow suit (to the extent that's possible).

Sorry for long post everyone - diversion tactic as I'm meant to be writing my trainee's appraisal...

He cried when it happened. But been looking after me really. But had to go away on business now as well. I daren't go back to work because my emotions are on a knife edge. I have lost it completely twice both at complete strangers who were being dickheads but still. My job can be quite stressful and worried I would not contain myself as usual!

Oooooh. I hate appraisal writing. Good luck wombat

All this talk of biscuits is making me superhungry - I think I might need to pop out and get some.

The car thing must have been really annoying - I'd have left the note on there!

Guess I should get back to work now (supposed to be drafting some responses to some queries for my boss, who is out of the office today but still managing to really p*ss me off and upset me.

Suspect that instead of being a nice easy relaxing week (which I was aiming for after the IUI) it will be a horrible stressful nightmare of a week and I'll end up being really stressed and upset.

Hope you guys are all having better days!

I've ram-raided an offie this morning, so I've got a variety of different wines for all of you, along with lots of chocolate bars. :)

Sorry ladygg - cross posts

Sounds like you're in need of this:

I hope that daytime TV and your DC are occupying your thoughts and keeping your spirits up. I think you're right not to go back until you are ready. I'm 'lucky' in that my colleagues know my mother is in the midst of a health crisis so I've got personal traumas going on outside work (if only they knew the extent!), so they are going a bit easy on me and thankfully I don't have any major deadlines this week.

Dachs I have a couple of mantra for such situations: 'it's only a job' and 'my health is more important' (not that I'm remotely good at managing my stress levels or following my own advice you understand . Hope it gets better soon.

Weird, my Mother been in and out of hospital most of this year too! So I think some colleagues may put my absence down to that although by bosses know what is going on.

Thanks Dachs,

Poor miniG been sent to nursery as usual because I just can't deal with him at the moment. Terrible isn't it. But I don't want him to see me crying all the time as it upsets him. I will get him earlier than usual and we will go to the park I think.

morning!

Welcome LadygoneGaga sorry to hear about your loss, I hope that you find the support you need on here. I have a two year old boy too, conceived and born with no problems at all. I think that made the mc even more of a shock, like you said I just never thought it would happen to me.

LadyBee (if indeed I am right and I do hope so) my body spluttered and floundered quite a lot before pushing that egg out. First my doctor told me "you are ovulating" when doing an ultrasound (still not totally clear what he meant exactly ??) then TWO WEEKS LATER I felt my cervix get soft, 3 days after that I got a postive OPK then 3 days after that EWCM. I have been really stressed about the whole thing which I think delayed ovulation.
Hope your egg arrives nice and noticeably and has the courtesy to wait for DH to get back

Wombat welcome back to the SWI club

owlshoes can you get your DH to have a word with my DH please? We could use a bit of that attitude round here

loola glad you got your first AF my post ERPC cycle is now 68 days long arrrrgghhh!

nickster sorry about the spots, I am covered too. Getting a good facial works but for me that means breaking into my pregnancy/ov test/bee pollen budget and that gets top priority at the moment

Dach Give me a S! Give me a W! give me an I! Give me an M! What does that spell? SWIM!!!

BOA How are you doing luv?

Hello, sorry in advance I haven't caught up on the thread and this is a selfish 'all about me post'

I've been taking clomid and went to the hospital for my D9 scan which showed zip, zilch, nothing. No follies other than the tiny pcos ones that are always there. I cried all the way home on the tube and bus. The one thing that kept me going through the mc was that at least the clomid worked and I got pg but this time it hasn't worked. How am I supposed to get pg when my bloody body won't ovulate???

I've got to go for another scan on fri but doubt it will show anything...

Am off to snivel in a quiet corner....

Reallygrumpy sorry to hear you had bad news at the hospital. If they're scanning again on Friday presumably that means they think you still could ovulate or at least that there maybe something to see then - they wouldn't do it otherwise. Please try not to despair. I'm afraid I don't have any experience of Clomid, but hopefully someone else will be along shortly who can offer some more useful advice. In the meantime .

Hello, can I join in? Am feeling a bit lonely. Just had MC (1st pregnancy), although have to go back to hospital tomorrow as apparently blood tests suggest I am still pregnant although scan shows I am not. Can't wait to stop bleeding and try again - I actually really liked being pregnant.
As a mumsnet newbie I'm finding reading through other people's experiences and suggestions helpful, heartwarming and sometimes heartbreaking.

ReallyG a big hug from me too. Its awful getting bad news, I am so hoping that wombat is right and this is just a downward blip but things will look better at the next scan.

I am afraid I dont know anything about Clomid either. I hope that there are some clomid experts on here. Why not start another thread as well? Maybe there is someone out there who has been in the same situation and can advise. (hope that doesnt sound like I am trying to kick you off here!)

Hello AuroraLeigh sorry you lost your little one. You are in the right place if you have been feeling lonely, there is lots of support on offer over here.

I was also "pregnant" for a very long time after clear scans. Sometimes it takes a while, how far along were you?

I have got my hopes up today. A lady came by from the public health service, gave me a tetanus shot, some antiparasite medicine for DS (downside to living in the tropics) and after taking my blood pressure told me I had the level of a "pregnant woman" ooooooohhh if only its true

Hi Aurora. Welcome, though I'm sorry you have found yourself in this situation. I'm hoping Mamap won't mind me letting you know, there's also a sister thread for those of us who are still yet to become mums because we've suffered MC. If you wanted to visit that too, it's here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1038050-So-near-yet-so-far-Holiday-villa-for-those-waiting

Good luck at the hospital tomorrow. I hope they manage to give you some answers and that things resolve themselves quickly so you can try again.

Ooh MummyA keeping everything crossed for you!!

oh reallyg so sorry to hear that. But it did work once - you need to stay positive (easier to say than do, I know). They told me that I had no follicles when I went for my first investigations and that there was bugger all chance of getting pg ever. But one cycle on, there were follies. Don't give up hope.

There are also other drugs they can give you if the clomid isn't working, so please please don't despair.

I'm keeping everything crossed for you that it goes well on Friday.

Hello to aurora and ladyg. sorry you're here, but here is very welcoming and a nice place.

daschs am excited for your follicles. I think they are responding well to virtual treats

Waves to all, hope you're well. Am off to train!

Thank you all. I was only 6 weeks, so I keep telling myself it's better it was sooner rather than later. Have spent an entire day eating ice-cream and pizza (after months of only really healthy food!) and have watched daytime TV all day. On the upside, have convinced DH to book a week's holiday at the end of the month (before I go and work 200 miles away in October...) Am therefore cheering myself up buying a satin basque and stockings online in anticipation of getting back to TTC. Slightly tacky but still :)

Oh my days, it's been busy here today!
Evening girls!

Hi to Loola ladyG and Aurora, sorry you all find your selves here, but as you can see there is alcohol, chocolate and empathy a plenty. Aurora also noted that wombat gave you the link to the sister thread...please do come along if you need an additional space where the mums to be are chilling in the sun

ReallyG Big hugs for you my lovely and hoping the next scan reveals a more positive outcome for you.

MA you make me laugh so much...can't believe you are still shimey shalleying around with the pom poms! I've created a dancing, chanting monster!! But if Dachs gets upduffed I think we can take a bow for our encouraging efforts of those swimmers

Nicks So glad you found it without losing your arm!! Yes, do examine everyday and you will notice the change as you go through your cycle...it's quite empowering to know your body on that level I think. Besides why should the Gynae's have all the fun

I am on a countdown to my apt with the GP on thursday morning, it can't come soon enough. I think if they do the 'we can't help you until you've had 3 mc' speech again, I might scream and throw a temper tantrum whilst demanding drugs. Or, I could just raid the piggy bank and go to a private clinic and get the Progesterone! £500 or risk a 3rd mc... no brainer really!

Waves to everyone else and hugs for those that need 'em x

Thanks dachs and others. The virtual hugs and copious amounts of chocolate are much appreciated. Maybe friday's scan will be better but I'm not holding out much hope.... I've broken myself imposed alcohol ban with a large glass of red which is making me feel a bit better plus I've got acupuncture tomorrow which makes me feel great.

The kindness and support of people on this thread is wonderful. Thank you ladies!

P.S. Go dachs swimmers! (or should that be mr dachs's swimmers?)

Aurora I dont think there is such a thing as "only" 6 weeks pregnant. Its still a loss at whatever stage I do hope your HCG level comes down fast though. Love the basque idea... now I want one!

So the reason I popped back over here is because I just found this link on another thread.... it should come with a health warning though, anyone on a 2WW needs to think twice before getting involved!

(it takes symptom spotting to a whole new gadgety level)

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/earlypregnancysymptoms/

enjoy your acupuncture ReallyG!

Wombat it's hugely early days - honestly, being crap at work is to be expected for a while yet. My motivation is still really low despite the work trip - it's there in back of my mind 'what's the point', 'surely it's not that important'. I'm also generally very 'in control', I'm sure my DH thinks I've turned into a completely different person this year.

LadyGoneGaga, very sorry to hear of your loss. The blackly comic side is an unexpected thing, isn't it. Despite what it sounds like, we also do our fair share 'oh bugger, I thought we'd done all our sex for the year' moments.

LastoftheOwlSandals I am amazed. Well done your DH.

I have never had a facial. There I've confessed. What happens in it? Do you come out with a noticeably red face?

reallygrumpy, if the clomid doesn't do it this month, will they up the dose for next? Sorry it doesn't look great so far - fingers crossed something pops up for you.

Aurora glad you found us (although sad you had to).

Hello,

I got bored of kidding myself that I am WTTC when I am blatently TTC plus I have realised fertitlityfriend.com can do the horrible maths for me, sooooooo, I have moved myself to the hilarious position at the top of the list! Lets hope I dont just stay there forever and ever!

If anyone new wants to join in, just copy and paste and add yourself in (change everyones CD numbers if its the next day)

WEDNESDAYS LIST

MummyAbroad TTC #2, (MC#1 31 Mar) WTF CD68
StarflowerGirl TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD44
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 2 (post MC#2), UCL 27 - 40 CD41
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28, CD39
Pinkie08 TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD37
Lottiecrump UCL 27/28 CD30
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL 24-28 cycle 7 CD30
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 2 (round 4) UCL28 CD28
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 28 CD 26
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL28 CD24
pippaandpolly
delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL28 CD23
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 1 (round 3) UCL27 CD21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 1 UCL 30 CD20
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 3 UCL41 CD19
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 4(round 7)UCL 28-30 CD18
hairytriangle (Ectopic 2010), TTC#1, Cycle 11, UCL 29, CD18
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD16
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 3, UCL 26-28, CD14
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 4 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD14
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post mc) CD12
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 17 UCL24-9 CD10
pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 29 CD10
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 1 (post MC) UCL 32 CD10
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 2 UCL31-38 CD9
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 2 UCL 30, CD9
Appleblossoms TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL 34 CD 8
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 3 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD7
choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 2 UCL 27 CD7
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL28-29 CD6
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post nmc#1) ucl??? (PCOS) CD2

WTTC
CaribouMoo TTC #2, MC#2 conf Jul 29 BFP!
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 conf 1st Aug, UCL 26
Jollster TTC #2, MC3 conf 16th Aug
Nickstermum TTC #2 MC August
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
batteryhen BFP 18 August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August

FFFFFFFS just typed a mega long response and the F&cking computer lost it - ARGGGGGHHHHH!

CD9 for me already? Blimey AF hasn't entirely gone yet!

Hope everyone is ok and I'm also doing the spunky sperm swim shimmie for all who are swi'ing this week :)