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The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

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bebejones · 06/08/2010 14:32

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

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100years · 04/09/2010 10:41

Hello,

Can I join in here please.

I'm hoping we're going to be TTC at the beginning of next year, although I think we would both like to be trying right now.

I'm extremely broody. Envy

Trying to lose a bit of weight first as I am already carrying too much, having already lost 2 stone I want to lose another 2 stone before trying, there is quite a bit more I need to lose, but I can't wait that long!!!

strawberrypie · 04/09/2010 13:22

Hi 100years! Losing 2 stone is amazing, well done!

bebe you could try planning a really nice day eg nice family outing (which would hopefully tire out DD for later) pub lunch/home made roast, glass of wine? etc then when DH is really relaxed go in for the kill!! (I mean gently raise the subject, sorry!) :)

bebejones · 04/09/2010 13:48

Welcome 100years! Well done on the weight loss! I know how hard it is, have lost 4st this year & now really struggling with the last few lbs! What's your story for waiting? Are you wanting to TTC #1?

Strawberry - Unfortunately DH has made plans to spend most of the day doing work which means his mood hasn't improved! He never gets time to relax or unwind :( That's the problem with being self-employed I guess! Will see what his mood is like later! Hmm

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strawberrypie · 04/09/2010 14:18

bebe maybe you could let your OH know you are worried about him working too hard and try to plan a day off (before your last injection!) and put it in his diary so he has to do it.......or failing that what about an evening out together? Maybe let the ILs look after DD? (I know you don't like leaving DD but you work so hard! Give yourself a little break!) :) :)

(or if none of this works try diazepam in his tea. Only joking! :))

This is totally unrelated but if anyone has any good ideas for BBQ recipes I would love to hear them....my birthday BBQ is getting closer! Also any good ideas for entertainment/games? We will have music and karaoke! I also love games like 'kiss the kellogs' but last time we played this someone had to go to A&E with a fractured thumb! Ooops Confused

Eglu · 04/09/2010 15:23

Welcome 100years well done on the weight loss. I'm sure it will really help you when you do ttc.

bebejones · 04/09/2010 16:03

Strawberry - what kind of thing you want to BBQ? I love kebabs, I buy those fresh ready made meatballs & marinade them & put them on skewers with loads of veg. Also love BBQd corn on the cob & BBQd bananas are super scrummy!

What is kiss the kellogs?!

I have told DH I am stopping my meds at the end of the month!!! His response...'why?' I said it was in the vain attempt that he would change his mind by the New Year, to which he just said 'ok' & changed the subject!!! So it is done! :o He did also say he is worried about me having a relapse over Xmas if I stop them but we have already proved I could have a relapse even if I'm on them! But anyway it is decided & we can move on & I can do everything I can to stay healthy til I get up duffed! :o

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strawberrypie · 04/09/2010 17:02

Great news BEBE!!!!!!!

I'm really happy for you! :)

A little dog had puppies at work today and it was such a lovely thing to watch (apart from her eating all the yukky placentas etc- I'm glad we don't have to do that!)

BBQ- I need a nice marinade for chicken breasts/thighs and also one for prawn kebabs. Possible some nice salad ideas too. I like the sound of the ready made meatballs for kebabing- that would save time and be a bit different.

Kiss the kellogs is a silly game where you have to pick up a cereal box with just your teeth-no hands-from a standing position, no kneeling etc, you rip a strip off the top each time and it gets smaller and harder to do. My OH and his sister are the champions - they must have some super bendy gene! One poor lady toppled over last time and landed on her poor thumb! Maybe scrabble would be safer! Grin

100years · 04/09/2010 17:03

Hi, thanks for the welcome.

Yeah I want TTC (there is no hash key on here) no. 1 and I want to be a bit lighter before I do that, so it's a case of waiting for me to lose some weight before trying. I'm not very good at being patient though and finding it a real struggle to not say oh b*er the weight and lets get on with it, but I also really want to be healthy throughout. Getting bit upset about everything at the moment only because I'm impatient and don't want to wait!!! Grrr I'm not even due on, so I can't even blame my hormones for my outbursts!

We only really spoke about it a few weeks ago, so I'm pretty sure I will calm down about it soon, and then it will almost be time to start TTC!!!

100years · 04/09/2010 17:15

Found it # ha ha :)

Yep I want to TTC #1

I shall go now I have said properly that and be back later

AmandaCooper · 04/09/2010 22:27

Hi everyone! Back from Ibiza Sad and ready to catch up with all your news, but first this:

DH has bought this for the baby!!!

We went to Mothercare today and had a look round everything, talking about what we would choose, etc. DH really excited by video link baby monitor and various buggies but chose the little suit, which is just SOOO cute! I did point out that the LO could come along at the height of summer, but he was not deterred!

Eeeeeek! Grin Grin Grin

jbells · 05/09/2010 07:31

hey everone, welcome 100 years well done on the weight loss its not easy, ive lost nearly 3 stone since having dd and still have 10 pounds to go which isnt going anywhere

AC- welcome back hope u had a lovely holiday, that baby grow is so cute also one of the first things i bought when i found out i was pregnant lol

bebejones · 05/09/2010 09:53

AC - welcome back!!! Hope you had a nice time? Very exciting about the mothercare trip! We had a cream suit like that for DD & a 'dress up' style one of a monkey! (Have just put a pic up on my profile of her in it when she was about 2months old coz it made me go all gooey again!) Best be hoping you get a autumn/winter baby! Wink

Feeling a bit happier after telling DH I'm stopping my meds regardless! Been researching lots into stuff I can do/take to try & stay healthy. I need to not have a relapse before the end of the year I think that is key to DH agreeing to TTC! I know I have no real control over that, but I shall do everything I can to help prevent it!

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AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 11:16

Oh wow Bebe that monkey suit is just adorable, my DH would love that, he has a weird thing about monkeys. I don't know what to make of your latest conversation with your DH. How did he say "ok"? Was it a promising sort of "ok", or a dismissive "go ahead and stop your meds if you insist" sort of "ok"? It sounds like this is a horrible time for him work wise and I can understand him not wanting to do anything that would make things worse for him if things are really stressful. But what I can't understand is why he won't sit down and have the conversation about how he's feeling about the idea of DC2.

What these men don't seem to realise is that we are just going to go on bringing it up until we get a proper hearing one way or another. DH got really irritated with hearing me try to initiate the baby talk - but the only reason it kept coming up was because he refused to deal with it properly.

I would like an Autumn/winter baby, but probably just a little bit later than originally planned, as we want to fit DH's trip to the States (but not to the Far East) in first. Which should just about not bankrupt us!

There's been a few developments on this thread since I've been away. Mrswantstobeamum left just as I was setting off on holiday. I do like to see people graduate, it will be our turn soon. But she is not the only one! Fluffysparkles congratulatons to you on your decision to start ttc. It must be less than one week till your wedding? Are you all ready for it?

And nannyl what can I say? You naughty naughty girl! I can't really see you being disciplined for any length of time given your frankly quite wanton NPP this month! I predict a BFP before too long, probably best seeing as your house must already look like Mary Poppins' storeroom!

Thanks for all the product recommendations btw - I have a list on my phone of things to buy for the baby and I have added quite a few of the things you have mentioned. It is really useful to have the benefit of your vast experience.

On testing, it will be very exciting to test on your birthday but a bit of an anticlimax if it's a BFN. I am sure you had thought of that.

100years and Judypink welcome to the thread, it's good to get to know other MNs who are about to ttc DC1, quite a scary prospect isn't it?! Have you watched hundreds of hours of birth videos first like I have, trying to decide whether you can face it?!

I know what you mean about telling people in RL that you are thinking of ttc, Judy. I have kept it to just people I know on the internet and a couple of close friends I have from another website. Everyone else has a vested interest for one reason or another, I think, unless you need their moral support, such as in Bebe's mum's case, or need to know if they would contribute to the care of LO,it's better to keep it between you, your OH and people who only want you to get pg for you, not because they would like to come round and play with the baby, etc. IYSWIM. I don't want to drag my mum and dad, etc into the disappointment if it takes a long time either.

Eglu funny about your mum's views on DC3! Why does she think that? It's a bit strange, I have to say!

Jbells great news about the mortgage and well done for saving that money - every bit counts. It sounds sensible to me to have DC close together to save on childcare, I imagine there are similar savings as they get older, if they are in the same clubs etc.

Strawberry pie it's funny how you have mixed feelings about it isn't it? I suppose it helps really to balance your desire to ttc and your rational head (e.g. must go to NY first, pay off debt, force feed zinc to DH, etc. lol)

I don't know if any of the other longtimers will agree with me but the trend on this thread seems to be to actually start ttc slightly earlier than originally planned when you join. My original date was December 2010, it looks like it will now be more like Easter 2011 - but there's everything to play for over the next couple of months - we might all surprise ourselves!

strawberrypie · 05/09/2010 12:10

It's good to have you back AC! Hope you had a good hol!

I know what you mean about mixed feelings- in an ideal world, for example we won the lottery, we would start TTC as planned in Jan 2011.

BUT...I think it would be more 'sensible' to wait until we have finished doing work on the house and both OH and I are settled in our jobs. (and leaping into the unknown is scary and a reason to put it off is appealing)

On the other hand I keep thinking....people in much worse situations than ours have DC and manage fine, I'm not getting any younger and finally I JUST WANT ONE NOW!

I'm indecisive about what to have for lunch never mind about things like this. Oh dear.

AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 12:17

I'm really glad to be back on the thread actually I really like having a gang of girls on line to chat to!

Just after I was born my parents moved to a house which needed to be completely gutted and rebuilt. It had no central heating for over a year. I think our generation has for some reason got the idea that you have to have everything perfect and immaculate before any LO come along, as if everything stops on birth day.

AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 12:18

Oh and they conceived my younger sister during the renovation project as well by the way. Not literally during renovating you understand!

AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 12:36

...at least I don't think so...

bebejones · 05/09/2010 12:43

AC - when I told him, his ok was a more resigned sort of ok Hmm Think my mum is planning to 'work on him' when we go away in a couple of weeks! He thinks she would be all judgey coz she has helped us so much over the last year or so, but actually she is very eager for more granchildren!!

I agree that most people seem to leave here earlier than planned...unlike me who has been hanging on way longer than planned! :o

Our house needs some major work doing too, but it's a long term sort of work. Possible extension & new bathroom/kitchen & replastering in a couple of rooms. That's the trouble with old houses! Don't see it happening any time soon so hoping that DC#2 turns up first!

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AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 12:45

When did you join the thread, Bebe? You were on the first one that I read just before the second one started.

jbells · 05/09/2010 13:22

hey all, know wot u mean bout putting things off to have an ideal scenario, i didnt have that option first time round me and dp had barely bin together 2 mins and were both still living with r folks it was stressful but we did get everythin organised b4 DD came along :)now the problem is were buying a house that needs quite a bit of work doing we shud b in b4 xmas but then the whole place needs redecorating plus new kitchen/bathroom but they will just have to be done as and when (unless we win the lottery lol) im asking the folks for carpets for the living room, our bedroom and DD's bedroom for xmas and then just slowly decorate as and when we can, i shud b getting a claim through from when hospital left swab in me so that will definately help but most of it will be paying off some university debts :( i wud quite happily get pregnant now tho think sometimes it gives u the push to get things finished by a certain date

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AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 17:11

I think we've just about come to terms with the not owning a house yet thing, if we wait till we do, it will be too late to have children! It will be nice to have some of your student debts paid off though I expect.

nannyl · 05/09/2010 17:37

hello all, sorry not been on for a while, have had my parents to stay this weekend.

bebe pleased you have spoken to DH and told him you are finishing meds, and didnt get a no way. at least he has time to think about it and realise the plan now

welcome 100years and congrats on all that weight loss Smile, and goodluck strawberry for those last pounds Smile

AC so pleased you have had a lovely holiday and its very exciting that DH is buying baby stiff already Smile (yes i think our loft is a bit full of baby stuff!

Yes, in some ways i dont want to wait to TTC until Xmas, but even having to think that i just might accidently get PG this month, had made me decide not to let it happen again. If i am, i am, but due to weddings and our upcoming holiday i will NOT be sad if im not. also i really dont want a july / aug baby (could just about with may i think Wink) so going to used FAM method (ie contraception on certain days only, from TCOYF; their website is fab and it only takes a minute or so a day to plug in the daily info and it tells you if you are safe that day or not Smile)
Also i have not felt sick at all since, and my boobs are just sensitive as opposed to painful still so im hoping thats a good sign (to not be pg)
Anyway i have ordered a batch of supersenitive PG sticks from ebay, and i think ill test on friday (day 27) anyway. (Oh and i dreamt about getting a BFP last night, and for some reason in my dream it didnt make me happy Shock)

hope i havent missed anyone / anything but OH needs me and i have to go now. will be back soon im sure Smile

AmandaCooper · 05/09/2010 18:38

Dreams are really funny things, aren't they. I dreamt very recently that I was pregnant and was going to have an abortion! I guess it's just our brains processing all the information we've been given about conception and babies. I didn't take anything from my dream, just thought it was weird.

Is the TCOYF website more sophisticated than fertility friend then? That specifically says you can't just reverse the process to avoid conception. I'll have to have a look. Persona is proving more elusive than I expected. I had just got to my third AF after stopping the pill and was about to go with it and I had to take some antibiotics - and now I have to wait for another 3 AF visits! The baby will be here before I even turn the blinking thing on!

Whywait I just realised I must have xposted with you when I came on last time, sorry. I had a lovely holiday thanks. I don't think we really talked about ttc while we were away actually. The Mothercare trip when we got back was quite a breakthrough though, DH got quite interested when he realised having a baby would involve purchasing a lot of expensive gadgets - in fact he actually said that!

I know what you mean about all the info, research material etc, but do they seriously expect us to undertake ttc lightly, considering what it involves for us? It's not like we just take a trip to the shop and pick out a baby for goodness sake! On the subject of research, have we all seen the epi no?

bebejones · 05/09/2010 19:13

Just went back & found the first thread!!
This is my first post from over a year ago!!!

bebejones Tue 18-Aug-09 10:09:29
Just started my own thread then discovered you guys!! Can I join?

DH and I are planning on TTC very early in the New Year (sort of depends on AF!!). The wait is killing me! 4 1/2 months and counting! Everyone we know seems to be having or have just had babies! Our DD just turned 1 and we want to have a couple fairly close in age, just personally I could not cope with 2 under 2!! Not told anyone we are planning on number 2 at all, probably won't tell at all in RL! Not entirely sure how it would be met IYSWIM!

Good luck to all those TTC or starting to now!

Shock :( Told you DH keeps changing his mind & if we had done it as planned in that post things would have been a million times easier!

Will post again & do replies in a bit when DD was in bed!

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