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The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

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bebejones · 06/08/2010 14:32

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

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jbells · 29/08/2010 19:36

tried to have a chat with dp today bout when he would consider trying agen, didnt go well he shrugged me off and sed we can have a proper conversation about it once we have bought house and are settled in

strawberrypie · 30/08/2010 09:24

weigh in this am and I have lost 6lbs since I started the health kick 3 weeks ago....yey! I lost 1lb this week which was ok as we went out for an Indian meal and then for cocktails for my friend's B'day this weekend :)

Have a good Bank Hol everybody :) Hope the sun is shining where you are!

bebejones · 30/08/2010 09:49

Well done strawberry! I'm slacking on my diet. Have been very bad over the last few days & today won't be much better! But have somehow not put any weight on so am happy with that! :)

Got a busy day today & thankfully the sun is shining although it is still a bit chilly!

Hope everyone has a lovely day :)

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Eglu · 30/08/2010 17:54

Well done on the diet front Strawberry. I've been battling with half a stone since November last year!! I can do it, I'm just not motivated enoguh.

jbells · 30/08/2010 18:15

wow 6lb well done, ive still got 10lb of post pregnancy weight to lose 16 months on lol altho i did gain 3 and a half stone while pregnant i just cant find the motivation to lose last bit even tho i moan about it all the time

strawberrypie · 30/08/2010 18:22

Hello guys, I think I am going to have to put back TTC until later next year. We have been looking at the finances and the things that still need to be done to the house and decided that it might be best to wait for a little longer. Hopefully when the house and garden are sorted things will be full steam ahead again :)

I suggested this and OH agreed, he then did a (hopefully) jokey wiping sweat from brow move! TBH I don't feel as dissapointed as I thought I might....does this mean I wasn't as ready as I thought? Anyway I will still be posting but the OV sticks will have to wait in the drawer for now! Confused

strawberrypie · 30/08/2010 18:29

Bebe, eglu and Jbells, thanks girls! The last little bit of weight is always the hardest to shift though. I am trying to stay motivated but it's not easy. My b'day party in 3 weeks is keeping me on track at the moment, I would like to lose a bit more before then :)

JudyPink · 30/08/2010 21:01

Hello all,

Hope you've all enjoyed your BH weekend! Thought I'd join this thread as we're waiting on TTC with DC1 till around May next year - thinking of coming off my pill in around February though and we're about to burst with the excitement! Like you lot, we're desperate to tell everyone our plots and plans - but in reality you kind of have to keep it on the lowdown - or do you? How have you first timers coped with the massive excitement?!

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bebejones · 31/08/2010 09:43

Welcome JudyPink! The only person who knows I want another baby is my mum & that's only coz she keeps asking! We didn't tell anyone we were going to TTC 1st time round.

Strawberry - maybe waiting a little longer is the right thing to do if you don't feel you are ready

Had a super busy day yesterday & am completely knackered today. Got really bad earache & a sore throat so hope I'm not coming down with a bug :(

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nannyl · 31/08/2010 09:50

Hello all
Hope you all had a good bank holiday weekend.
I had friends from down South to stay and we had a fab time from the moment they arrived until the second they left Smile

Welcome to judypink and eglu, and waves goodbye to mrs.... how exciting that you are now TTC and no longer waiting. Am very Envy, but wish you all the best Smile keep us posted.
Hiw exciting whywait about your last pill.

Well done strawberry on that weightloss. and V exciting about Ov sticks, thermometer and TCOYF. It all felt much more real to me when those were in my bedside drawer

Am slightly confused with OH at the moment... We had said we would be VERY careful now not on the pill, and quite simply many times we wernt Blush (but i was not worried cause TCOYF made it clear that those times werent particularly risky anyway).. but then on Fri night i said to OH.. "Im pretty sure ill be ovulating imminently"... and as i was falling asleep, he woke me... and um TMI, we wernt careful again (but as I want a baby now and am not so worried about waiting, i went along with it Wink), and then the same on Saturday morning Blush and on Saturday, i got my positive on OPK... and my temp went up yesturday.
Now rationally i know i cant be pregnant yet, cause even if i was the egg wouldnt have stuck to the wall etc, so although i may have a fertile egg in me, my body wont have realised and released any pg hormones yet, but as of last night my boobs really hurt, were really sensitve and painful to touch (still are) and this morning i woke up feeling really quite sick, but feel better now.

After Sat morning OH made me (well us both) promise not to be so risky again and i agreed.

Just a little confused now, but im sure it must be me imagining it.

Have sent OH to work today with TCOYF to photo copy the charts for me, so going to carry on charting, (on paper as well as excel!) and hope sore boobs stop soon!

and tomorrow, Septmber the 1st OH starts on his zinc Smile, so one more step closer!

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nannyl · 31/08/2010 11:07

bebe hope you feel better soon. (we cross posted so missed you off my list!) I hate feeling like that. Rest as much as you can take paracetamol and hope you feel better soon. X

Whywait, I Dont think i ovulated earlier as OPK said it was +ve on Saturday, (was feint (ie -ve) Sunday, and no line at all yesturday, so pretty sure its correct)...
I dont think ill test until day 28, as not a lot of point, but unbelievably and unexpectedly as pre-pill i had 30ish day cycles, i ovulated on the "typical" day 14...

Will be studying my temperatures as according to TCOYF 18 high temps in a row = being pregnant, and also temp drops a bit just before your period starts, so in about 12 days times if it isnt a bit lower then previouse 2 weeks, maybe i'll test then as that would suggest AF is not on its way...

Im VERY excited as i have just got a beaba baby cook steamer blender RRP £90 brand new as well as the babycook portions RRP £16 for a fiver in my bargain charity shop Smile I have used these many times nannying and they are fab, so just had to snap it up while it was there...

literally unused, in box, complete with everything Grin

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FluffySparkles · 31/08/2010 11:35

Hi Ladies,

Apologies for being such a useless poster! Have been caught up with wedding stuff and although I've been reading this thread I haven't had time to post.

strawberrypie congrats on the weightloss, I managed to lose and stone and a half for my wedding and it wasn't easy, I could do with losing a little more but with two weeks to go I think I've left it a little late!

bebejones I do think there's something going round so hope you feel better soon!

nannyl how exciting! I've read some people feel symptoms from the minute they conceive!

WhyWait oooh last pill! I came off mine in February and apart from one strange cycle of 45 days they settled down pretty quickly. It's nice letting your body do it's own thing!

As for me, this is a farewell post. Me and DP went out for a meal on Friday so celebrate 2 years together and he basically said he didn't want to wait until the Jan 2011 to start trying. I was suprised as I thought I was leading all this and he was going along with it but turns out he's pretty eager! Grin Since then we haven't been careful but it's the wrong time in my cycle anyway. We've stocked up on Pregnacare & Wellman Conception and I guess we'll see how it goes. I still think all my points why we were waiting are valid and to be honest I wouldn't mind if it took til the NY but also am so excited we are going for it and DP is so on board and I want to be preganant NOW!!

I'll be hopping on the June bus, think I might see mrswantstobeamum and slowshow there and I'll always keep an eye on this thread and see how you're doing

Ta ta

nannyl · 31/08/2010 11:38

how exciting whywait.

Im a bit mad and have loads already, a stash of cloth nappies (lollipops) a moses basket, lots of little toys, and some lovely black and white baby books
I also got a baby bouncer same as this but farm animals last week from charity shop (£1 so another bargain). Still boxed and immaculate like new!!!

my bargain charity shop had a lovely (used but still good) mamas and papas luna pushchair for a fiver last week Shock, didnt get it as i know what pushchair i want (not that one) and want my buggy to be brand new, but if i ever see a mountain buggy or nipper 360 there then i will get it as a spare for the grandparents!

Perhaps as a first thing you could by a baby comfort toy such as a taggie ?
I just cant wait to be pregnant now!!!! am getting bored of waiting!!

Good luck finding TCOYF in your library, my library didnt have it Sad

nannyl · 31/08/2010 11:42

fluffysparkles how exciting.

Really happy for you Smile Have lots of fun trying and dont forget to update as all as to how you are getting on. Good Luck X

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nannyl · 01/09/2010 09:40

whywait im probably not the best person to ask about travel systems as i really dont like them much!
It is important for babies to lie flat, so IMO, unless a really quick school run or something its better to get baby out of car seat and lieing flat.

Having pushed loads and loads of buggies, it amazes me how difficult some are to push / use compared to others. And i think its only when you have pushed an easy to push pushchair that you realise how much more difficult others are.

You also need to consider where you will push the buggy. If only ever on pavements / shopping centres, you can get away with much smaller wheels than in the woods / on the beach etc.

I also dont belive there is a pushchair on the market that pushes well AND is small enough in the town AND fits comfortably a 3 year old (even if they are walking they are likely to use a pushchair occasionaly on a big day out or if poorly etc)

I know so many people who get travel systems and get rid of them by the time the baby is 1 year old as they are big and bulky and NOT that easy to push.

If you want small you could look at the bugaboo bee (which works with the maxi cosi car seat). Very small and fine for pavements / shopping centres / busses and tube.

Quinney zapp is also super small, and can be used with maxi cosi car seat, BUT it doesnt lie back and babies only option is to be in car seat until 6/12 and then seat wont recline.

Not sure if the quinney buzz will fit in a polo, (probably will if you remove the quick release wheels, but trust me that will be a pain and get annoying very quickly). It might... thats an ok buggy, pushes ok ish, and you can get an all terraine front wheel, but still does not push off road nearly as well as a mountain buggy. Also a 3 year old wouldnt fit well in the buggy seat.

Personally i want a mountain buggy or nipper 360 as my all terraine buggy (I live in the country and being easy to push off road is really important to me)... these are the easiest to push buggies you can buy IMO, and once you have pushed them wont want to use anything else. Or else you could try the Jane power track or slalom (but they only fit Jane car seats that dont score so well in crash tests,) or even the proper quinney 3 wheeler of road pushchair.
Disadvantage is that these only forward face, and they are big and bulky...
I also want a Maclaren Techno XT (or XLR which is the new one that takes a coccoon so much more snuggly for a new born baby, and you can fit a car seat on too)
I LOVE this buggy. it fits a 3 - 4 year old, and where its lighter, although it doesnt push brilliantly on proper off road country side, but it can be dragged!
(My bro in laws sister asked my advice as they want a SMALL buggy and to only ever buy 1, i recommended this one, they have it, and are very happy, baby now 9/12)... i think with this you are compromising when they are tiny, but much more practicle for most of their lives!
Also dont get an own brand equivalent of techno XT... my cousins had that and although it looked pretty much the same it was so much heavier to push.

I think you need to go to a pushchair shop and see what you like and what suits you... also if possible borrow a 3 - 4 year old and try pushing with them in it.... even see if the straps fit at all, cause so many dont!

So how are we all this morning? I still have extreamly sensitive boobs, and felt nauseous all day yesturday. Felt "strange", but not "ill", and last night me and OH had the conversation about what if i was pg Shock. We concluded just wait and see and if i am its meant to be... Confused. I think i dont want to be yet though, i want my October baby!! I just dont know what i want, but im certainly not as excited as i thought i might be... i thought i had a good few months of freedon, and have 2 weddings in the next 6 weeks, one of which im a bridesmaid, and if im not drinking it will be VERY obviouse why.
Also rationally i'm sure its still far too early, but then last night i googled and found lots of people who had the same symptoms as me, very very early, like me. (not to self do not google lol)

On a different note i have found taking charge of yuour fertility have a website here its fab and you can do all your charting there. (no worrying about drawing cover line in the right place etc) Its fab, and having plugged all my info in today is my 1st "infertile" day. Showed OH and i think he believes me that now we are safe to not need condoms Grin (which neither of us like!)...

Anyway i hope everyone is ok and will catch up soon.
Today is the last proper day of my summer holiday Sad
Have a staff meeting tomorrow afternoon (just pre-prep and nursery) and a full boring staff meeting all day Friday... Very dull as most stuff is relevant to the main school age children as opposed to the 3 year olds! Then the children come back on Monday!

Eglu · 01/09/2010 10:40

nannyl - do you think your OH will find it easier to have an "accident" and be happy about it rather than actually trying for a baby?

Soory, don't know your history as to why you are waiting.

Judypink - I have nenver told fmaily particularly that we were ttc. With DS2 some firneds knew as it took a while, and everyone and their Auntie seemed to get pg during that time. This time some friends know we are thinking about it. I am most definitely not telling my Mum though. She beleives nobody should have more than 2 children, and will have a total cats bum face at me having another one.

nannyl · 01/09/2010 11:16

Eglu...
I dont think he will find it easier, or harder... we will just go along with whatever happens.
In a way i was really looking forward to using my CBFM and saying "yay its a day when we must start trying" although perhaps that leads to stress to "perform"? I dont know.

Either way he will be really really happy. A few weeks ago it was me worrying 'what if i dont get pregnant' what would be the reason?... (we havent tried, i was just thinking what if... BUT we are both fit and healthy so have no reason to think we wouldnt but then i guess you dont know until you try)

The reason we were waiting was quite simply i want a small age gap, want children 1 school year apart, and not in july / aug OR Xmas time, so October, followed by feb - may gave us time for that....
thats it really...I have looked after so many different age gaps, i decided that was my favourite, thats what i wanted, explained that to OH (back in April), so we decided thats what we'd aim for. OH likes to stick to plans, so thats why we are waiting to try!

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Eglu · 01/09/2010 12:36

Thanks for the explanation nannyl. Hope your planning works out well for you. I know what you mean about avoiding certain times.

We are in Scotland so avoiding August is not an issue for us. It is more avoiding Jan, Feb for that reason.

I am avoiding Aug, Sept as that is when DS1 and DS2 were born. Don't want all the birthdays together, and also December and January as too close to Christmas.

nannyl · 01/09/2010 12:42

whywait, has i have done my OPK tests i am pretty sure im not ovulating right now Smile
I had my LH surge on Saturday (day 14 Shock) and they were as -ve as could be on MOnday (feint line on sunday)

My temps have also been just like in TCOYF, as has CM . Went to morrisons this morning and to me, the cleaning aisle smelt so strong i could barely walk down it.... and i still have nausea which i have had almost constantly since i woke up yesturday morning...
I have put all my info into the online charts on TCOYF website and they conclude the same as me, (ie when i ovulated) Smile

I really hope im not pg, (want to go to weddings and on holiday in October while not pregnant) but i cant help wondering if i am. Hmm
Ironically the day i do my pg test (unless AF arrives early) will be my birthday, so wont forget the date!

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