The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

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Will go get the list.....

We all have days like that jbells I know I do! Hopefully tomorrow will be better!

Js you are going great guns with the running! ....London 2012 watch out!

I wish I could say something that would help you amanda. I'm rubbish at advice :( but you are not alone and you can always share your feelings with us.

bebe I'm crossing my fingers for your chat on Friday! I really want you to be a TTC buddy come Jan!

ps nannyl.........I'm still about your breakfast in bed! I'm hoping that if I do have children, one mothers day when they can reach the toaster they will do this for me because no-one else ever has!

thanks Strawberrypie and PJD, im in work tomoro so prob wont be much better but atleast cant argue with dp lol

Sounds like youve had a lovely day pjd, how old is your lil one?

strawberry, thats the time i hoping to ttc :) if my dp sways to the idea

Jbells - never tried the OV sticks either, but thought I'd give them a whirl! :o Sorry you have had a rubbish day, I hate days like that!

JS - even the thought of all that running makes me tired and achey!

Strawberrypie - no one has ever made me breakfast in bed either! :( I am so hoping I will be TTC Jan coz Id love to have some 'friends' when I do!

Hoping DHs week improves coz if today is anything to go by I'm just going to be all upset again come Friday's talk! Positive financial/business thoughts please!

thanks bebe, lets pray to win the lottery then finances wont b a worry :)

Funny that's what DH said!

I've been trying to come up with things I can do to earn a little money. DH started to comment saying I'd 'sell anything to have more money for a.....' and stopped himself! Hadn't even crossed my mind, was just trying to take the pressure off him a bit. Mostly the big financial worry is the company (he is self employed) things are just so up & down :( So I know deep down that he is right to be cautious about TTC but it is very very unlikely that things won't be better in a years time!

Looks like I've got a lot to catch up on!

Bebe, I'm sorry to hear that your talk with DH didn't go as hoped. Sending good vibes for the next round on Friday! Your degree sounds really interesting. I agree with the comments that you are young and have plenty of time to put it to use, or to re-train if you want.

Amanda, honestly, I think that most women, at least to some extent, go through the same thought-process that you are now. I think it's really healthy that you are talking these things through with DH. I also think it will be great for you to be able to talk this through with your RL friends who have children - you may be surprised to hear that they struggled with their own decisions (even if it doesn't appear that way on the surface). IMHO, it would also be good for DH to talk to RL friends who are fathers, especially if he seems to be afraid that having a DC would mean his life would be over.

Madame, congrats on the talk with DH! It must feel so much better to know that he's on board with TTC.

Notasize, does this mean that you'll officially be TTC as of your holiday? That makes it a conception-moon!

JS, it sounds like you also made good progress with the DH on the TTC issue. Well done on the fitness kick, you are putting me to shame!

Nannyl, you've made me want to run out and start buying children's toys and books!

WhyWait, your course sounds really interesting. I empathise with you on the workload issue though!

Quod, congrats on your decision to come off the pill!

I've had a very busy week at work so far...one more day in the office and then two days off to work on the dreaded dissertation. Two weeks and counting...

Jbells, he's 21 months, so a very cute stage. Have totally forgotten what the newborn stage is like, I may find it a shock to the system whenever it happens again!

PJD - that is a very cute stage! :)

Mrs - just think of the relief when you have finished it and handed it in!

Maybe I need to get my DH to spend time with some little babies again, that might nudge him in the right direction He was cooing over cute babies on a formula ad last night! If he really didn't want anymore DC then he wouldn't be wanting me to hang on to all the baby stuff!

Got another busy morning today. Off to do some shopping then need to finish making a tutu for DD! Got some work to do for DH too which I keep putting off!

Looks like everybody has had a busy day - drowning in paperwork here but on the plus side, I have been contacted by a recruitment company about a role in Bristol...... not perfect but it'll do for now. Got an excel test to do tonight when I get home and then hopefully it's interview time. keep everything crossed for me!!!!!

Fingers crossed JS!

Have to say I really really appreciate all the nice stuff people have said in response to my outpouring the other day. I always had the impression - wrongly as it turns out that I had to nail my colours either to the "waiting but full on wanting to go for it" mast or to the "dithering" mast - although I have to say I don't really think of myself as a ditherer. It's more a question of when.

Anyway you've all been very supportive, as I should have known you would be - and I feel much better all round, particularly having been listened to by DH finally. I shall be sending him round to have tea at the Whywait's house and also for a night out with Mr Strawberry Pie!

Bebe I really feel for you, and for everyone who is struggling to get their OH to see the wisdom of ttc DC2. It makes such a difference to the timing, you must be really anxious to get a move on.

JBells have you and DP managed to patch things up now? It must be stressful having a poorly child. Have some more calorie free virtual chocolate cake! JS it is really very good of you to spoil us like this!

CD14 and no temp rise yet - bother! My thermometer broke at around this point last month, and it took ages to get a new one (had to order it online in the end) so two months on from stopping the pill, I still haven't found out whether I'm ovulating.

I am now more convinced than ever that I did the right thing in coming off the pill early. As I'm still very unsure about interpreting my fertility signs, I'm glad I'm getting plenty of practice while it doesn't matter too much.

Good Luck JustShagging!

I am so impressed with the dissertation and diploma work going on mrs and whywait! You must be very disciplined....at least the end is in sight for you mrs :)

bebe You could set up a children's fancy dress making business from home! (unless doing the tutu has put you off!)

Hope today has been better jbells :)

Good to hear you sounding better amanda, I can't wait to come off the pill and see what happens- it's funny to think that you can be so in the dark about what your body is up to unless you really look for the signs! Are you looking for EWCM and things too?

hey everyone thanks for all your kind messaged today has been a better day :) me and dp have made friends well were trying, and dd was bit better today still not great but cough was a lot better, work could of been a lot worse and also managed to get a wash and blow while i was there :) tonite may even treat myself to a chinese, even tho i stuffed my face with maltesers yest while feeling sorry for myself lol

pjd are lil ones are only 5 months apart my dd is 16 months definatly getting a lil personality on her now
AC thanks for chocolate cake hope your doing better with the thermometre :o

JS hope excel test and interview goes well fingers crossed for u

BEBE no exactly how u feel bout finances i am in same boat but also know that almost definately by end of next year things shud be better, you will have to put a pick up of the tutu once youve finished making it, i have always wanted to do a clothes making course or something similar, would be great to design, make and wear something

Hi all!

Glad to hear you're feeling better about the whole thing Amanda I think having a baby is such a huge thing, and to a certain extent it's assumed that women want babies, so it's hard to question it and to say that really you're petrified unsure! I know I want kids, and I'm sure I'll be a good mum (as much as I can be!) but I'm still not all that excited about the idea of being pregnant and having a newborn. Having children, on the other hand, I think will be fun

nannyl hope you're having a good week with your friend!

js good for you with the running :) Hope you can keep it up - I always find that keeping a log of my best times gets me competitive with myself and spurs me on! Good luck with all the job stuff too :)

whywait sounds like your hb is on board with ttc now!

bebe how exciting about the ov sticks - they've always seemed really expensive to me and so I've never tried them. But sorry to hear your hb is still faffing about making a decision.

jbells hope your dd is feeling better now, it can't be nice :( I'm sure I'll be feeling awful when my kids are ill!

pjd your son sounds very cute after the seaside trip!

strawberrypie you should demand request that your hb makes you breakfast in bed!

mrs good luck with the dissertation - hope you're not having to work too hard.

Things here are good - been keeping up with the gym trips (although have constant achey muscles) and am managing reasonably well with the caffeine cut-down. All last week I was craving coffee at work, but this week I feel much better and not quite so desperate! I also realised that I have a large bottle of amaretto that really needs drinking, so I am going to have to get through it pretty quickly if we are going to start in Oct On the baby front, HB was looking up baby names last night. Although he kept suggesting awful names He's working late tonight, so I'm off to eat pizza now!

Strawberry Pie yes I've been trying to figure out whether I've got egg white or not, and whether my cervix is soft or hard, or high or low, or open or closed, as well as taking my temperature every morning.

But I think I'm symptom spotting - my chart is all over the place. Today I decided my cervix definitely felt different from normal (sorry if tmi esp if anyone is having their tea) but maybe I just want it to be cause it's CD14 today and I am anticipating a change? I am worrying about not ovulating.

Whywait you gave me an idea - I asked DH about who should be godparents. He was quite happy to consider the question in the abstract and actually came up with a sensible choice! We've had names chats before Squirrel, I love debating over this! What names did he come up with? Were any of them acceptable?!

AC so pleased to hear that ?coming out? as a non-ditherer on here has helped you. I also have days where I think to myself:
?what if it changes us so completely that we don?t recognise ourselves?? but then I look at friends who have had children and they have all altered slightly but it?s always been for the better and they seem so genuinely happy and content with their lives.

JBells so pleased to hear that things are improving with your DP ? Not sure how I managed to miss that initial post [ bad threadmate emoticon] Having been quite blasé about the excel test, it was bloomin tricky. I am a lazy excel user and have developed many shortcuts over the years, none of which are recognised by the online test ? oooops! I fear that I won?t be making it to the interview stage on this one!!!

AC damn the thermometer and OKPs! I had a semi positive OPK on CD12 and then a fully positive one again on CD18 WTF !!?!?

strawberrypie thanks for the good luck dance ? as an aerobics virgin I have no idea what a ?spotted dog? looks like. Can someone please explain?!?!

squirrel007 I completely feel your pain on the horrible names front. My DH has some awful ideas on what our children should be called. I can see I?m going to have to rein him in when we get to that stage what names did he suggest???

Goodmorning all....

so much to catch up on My friend is having a day climbing / gorge walking in the peaks today so i have time to catch up a bit (I dont do gorge walking so am here cooking / baking / ironing etc etc instead)

bebe, if your DH wanted 5 kids then fingers crossed once things get better at work, then perhaps you too can TTC after Xmas?

jbells hope your DD is better now. (I too hate seeing poorly children when you cant magic them better

pjd sounds like you had fun at the beach.... I LOVE spending time with kids on the beach, one of my families i worked for had their own private beach, i always lived and worked RIGHT by the sea, and now i have moved i am about as far as you can get from sea

JS wow you are doing really well with all that running

mrs good luck with dissertation... such a weight off your mind once its finished, bound and handed in

AC we can practise interpretting our cycles together... i got a huge temp rise on day 2 this month, but these last 3 days back at a lowish temp.... last month there was NO pattern at all, but then i was still on the pill, so i am assuming thats why... my temp is anything between 36.3 and 36.8
I too am pleased to have a few months to learn.
Havent even began the high / low cervix stuff etc. maybe i can start trying that next month (after i have read about it so i at least know what to look for)

squirrel well done for the gym And its great fun thinking about baby names. We decided ours a while back, before we had even planned to TTC... but when the time comes we might change our mind, who knows... was tricky and many of my favourite ever names, OH hated, one of which was his ex's name so that was out!!!

We had an interesting night last night... we had found out through the facebook grapefine that OH's ex is now pregnant... she is also as single as single can be, and no offence but seems pretty hopeless... It led to some lovely heart to heart discussions between me and OH about how he wants a baby with me, only me, and is so so glad that it never happened (cause he never let it) with her, and how he thinks its hilariouse about her situation, etc etc (but feels sorry for the guy and the baby)
anyway it made us discuss having children even more, and i know he wants children and so do i, but i thought I wanted them the most, and he was going along with the timing to make me happy, but after last night i realise he wants a baby at our planned time as much as I do...
last night I wanted to just TTC NOW... but OH wouldnt let me... i still have to wait til after Xmas, but i guess he is right, i think its even more important now than ever to have a child in a different school year to his Ex's, although im pretty certain they wont be at the same school anyway...

Here's hoping i dont have to bump into her at toddler groups, (or hospital etc) so another good reason to wait a few more months!

Right off to the local market and then for my pre-lunch time swim now... probably wont have anytime to catch up on here til Monday, but will try and have a read when i can

hello whywaitwell done for getting course work done good luck with your results

have fun pretending to work

am here sharing the wait via facebook with my ex charge who has just got A Level results.... makes me feel really OLD, as i met him just weeks after i had done my A Levels!!!

Morning all!

WhyWait & strawberry - not making a 'proper' tutu for DD, just a skirt part with elasticated waistband. Not alot of skill involved! :o Am currently embarking on a 'project' to use up all my bits of fabric rather than throw them out. Am making cushions, bags, toys etc. (Like this sort of thing) Will try & sell them but if nothing else they will make good gifts for xmas! :o

WhyWait - I feel like that everytime I find out that another friend is expecting. It's really hard when it's all you want & no one knows!

Nannyl - that would be a nighmare bumping in to her in hospital! Very exciting that your OH is so keen!

AC - This charting lark isn't easy is it?! I have trouble working it out too, hence the OPKs to help me clear things up & work out if I'm interpretting things right!

Jbells - glad you have 'made up' (sort of)!

Please everyone share the 'horrid' names that your OHs like! I need a laugh! :o

Blimey, good going everyone on a fitness kick - I'm so impressed with people who can run JS - I just end up in a panting sweaty mess. And as for giving up caffeine, I'm currently sticking my fingers in my ears and going LA LA LA LA at the suggestion that I might have to do that at some point!

I have started going to dynamic pilates which is quite hardcore (for pilates!) and makes you ache in places you didn't know you had, but has totally sorted my long-term lingering back pain out. You lot are keeping me inspired.

AC I think I'm going to be joining you on the frustrating path of trying to interpret fertility signs this month. I'm not planning on taking temps, more just keeping half an eye out for egg whites etc. Thought I was going to have to do it all by stealth so as not to freak out DP (!) but strangely he turns out to be totally fascinated by the fact that you can tell when you're ovulating from various signs (I was explaining it all to him the other day, he is a bit of a biology geek deep down). He even said 'I can totally understand you not wanting to take the pill anymore if it means you can't tell what your body's really doing', which did mean a lot to me.

Right: got to get some work done! Have a good day all.

Well, my hb was suggesting Ozymandias, Mephistopheles and other crazy historical names which I have blocked from memory I think he was joking...

Girls names are easy I think, but it's harder to come up with an interesting yet not too obscure boys name.

squirrel at those names

agree i had loads of favourite girls names, enough for quads, but only 1 boys name (that i have already told my sister is mine regardless of who has a boy first) and thankfully OH likes the boy name too

Squirrel - are we married to the smae man?? My DH also likes historical names.....

Constantine is one of the few that I haven't blacked form memory but there were some truly horrific ones that were suggested!! I'm already making a list of names I like (when I read a book or speak to someone I know with a nice name I add it to the list) Have also been checking up on the popularity of said names....... and yes - I do realise that makes me sounds insane!!!!