If Carlsberg did threads.....this would probably be the best thread in the world! Return of the first time frolickers - home of pornstar cocktails and lots of lovely ladies, come on in and join us

[MrsWajs]

Oooh I did it!! Here's the shiny new thread...

For anyone trying to conceive their first child, everyone's welcome.

Oh and ERTD will now be known as FERTD, I'm sure you can figure it out!!

Wednesday's List

evilgiraffe TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 28?! CD187
Saor Alba TTC #1, cycle 2 UCL32 CD37
Crazybutterflylady TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL30, CD34
Mrs Wajs TTC#1 cycle 11, UCL 29-33 CD32
Pinklady76 TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL ?, CD29
IfAtFirstYouDon'tSuceed TTC#1, Cycle 4,UCL 28, CD28
Alien06 TTC#1, Cycle 1, UCL??, CD26
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 12 UCL32 CD25
RaspberryTipple TTC#1, Cycle 1, UCL ?, CD23
LankyLegs TTC#1 Cycle 10 UCL 27-29 CD22
cookiemoo TTC#1 Cycle 17, UCL 27 CD22
TomboyWife TTC#1, Cycle 8, UCL28, CD20
GardenPixie TTC#1 cycle 8 UCL30-35 CD20
Womanlytales TTC#1, Cycle 5, UCL28-33, CD19
FelicityFlick TTC#1 Cycle , UCL 32-33, CD16
Florin TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL ??? CD15
Karstan TTC#1, Cycle 2, UCL28, CD14
stegasaurus TTC#1 cycle 16 UCL? CD12
highheelsandequations TTC#1 cycle 13 (ish) UCL 32+ CD11
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 14 UCL33-39 CD6
Ariesgirl TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 29-32 CD6
cherrycobbler TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL 32 CD2

Not counting days
Kaloki (39 days to Wedding )
Bellaby
Miffles
Kurlyvoice
Chalky3

Waiting to TTC
Calyx
Sevans
CaveMum
calligraphy82
hairytriangle

Recent Graduates:
Seablue BFP 1 May
Oneof8 BFP 18 May
Aly323 BFP 20 May
applecharlotte BFP 29 May
papertiger BFP 31 May
Wannamummy BFP 1 June
Pipsicles BFP 6 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Superpenguin BFP 1 July
Haloflo BFP 22 July

We all seem to have similar stories... my SIL and her hubby were very much of the "we'll never have kids, we love our cats" camp then lo and behold she got pregnant. And the ILs were all gushing about it, we even had to schedule our Christmas around her feeling poorly/tired/hot/cold.

We weren't trying then but it still massively p1ssed me off, especially because during the planning of our wedding it was all "well SIL did this so you should"... errrr no. That makes me want to do it LESS. I know the same thing will happen if I get pregnant. She will suddenly be the gospel of all things babies.

UH.

Grr, don't you just hate people who suddenly become experts, lets just hope that this Christmas will be planned all around you crazy.

Must get off the computer and do something useful, if anyone sees me here again in the next few hours slap me!

Gardenpixie, go for it, I introduced my teenage cousin to cheap and nasty rose wine a few months back.

Highheels, I'm sure it'd go well together, the secret of the punch is to serve it warm and add sugar to it until it's palatable anyway so nothing venured...

crazy Aforementioned prissy selfish cow is like that, we got married before she did but she refused to take any advice from me, but she got pregnant before me so all I'm going to hear is this, this this and this which she did which I should do, she's already taken to commenting on her friends' pregnancies.

toriajayne my SIL is a bit of a clingy mother... she clutches the baby monitor like it's going to sprout legs and run off while the baby is hysterically crying upstairs and she won't be able to hear it. She also took the baby off to bed just as I got my camera out. 2 days running! I thought maybe she was going to drape a muslin over his face a la Michael Jackson. Needless to say I took it personally

I console myself with the fact that I. WILL. NOT. BE. LIKE. THAT.

One of you may need to remind me of that if/when the time comes...! :)

x

Oh no it's game over for my working at home day. I've just discovered Goran Visnjic is in "The Deep" on iPlayer

And crazy I agree with Highheels, here's to Christmas 2010 being about all of us and our bumps, not about annoying ILs

crazy, are they the same person? When he was born we were staying with the ILs who live next door to her parents, DH went to help them out as baby was early and we ended up wrapping Christmas presents, putting together the cot, doing their Tesco shop, the list goes on. The first time I saw her (a few hours after she'd come home, baby was about three days old) she was clutching the child like he was going to escape from her grasp, would let no one else touch him and then shut him away in his moses basket when her family came to visit. A few days later again we were visiting at night. Her OH was doing the night feed while she was catching up on sleep and after he'd been fed and changed he handed the baby to me. She got up for something and came through and I swear, from the look she gave me you'd think I'd have been putting tomato ketchup on his head and sharpening my carving knife...

HAHAAAAAAAAA I just spat my drink out on my keyboard!

It's crazy isn't it? I do hope I won't be like that. I have commented on enough people being mental that I think my friends or Mr Crazy would have a quiet word if I was.

:-O doing their Tesco shop!

...and yeah, here is to all of the FTFs having Christmas bumps CHEERS!

Hi everyone, I've just been catching up as I haven't been on here over the weekend.

For everyone who is feeling guilty at being jealous of other people being pregnant, I had a miscarriage when I was 18 (25 now)with now DH, and about 2 weeks later found out DH's sister in law was pregnant and it nearly killed me! It has taken me years to get over it and stop hating disliking my poor nephew. They now have 3 kids and his sister has 2 so there's 5 of them altogether, makes me feel rather inadequate at times and I hate when ILs go on about how fantastic the kids are!

I think I must be in the 2ww now as ovulation period seems to be over. Fingers crossed! I've been wanting to eat everything in the cupboards for three days now and hoping it's a sign! (I realise that's ridiculous).

Completely mental. I also have the I. Will. Not. Be. Like. That. mantra, and if all else fails DH would slap me if I took it up hehehe. As for doing the Tesco shop, DH has a few faults, one of which being that the sun appears to shine out of the arse of his mate

JosieSmith That must have been awful for you. Fingers crossed for this month.

Thanks Toria. I'm over it now but it's taken a while! Especially as I moved out of my house as it was so hard for everyone and my bro couldn't even look at me (we'd only been together a month too). It was an awful time that I do not talk about to anyone, not even DH.

Anyway, we're only half TTC really at the minute as I'm having such a good time with my horse this summer and I'd have to give most of it up if I was pg. It's always been my dream and now I have it it looks like I might have to give it up, but only for 9 months, maybe a little more, then DH can look after baby and I can get back into it, so if it does/doesn't happen this month, either is ok for me.

josie that's really sad, I can't imagine how awful it must have been when other people were pregnant around you. Poor love xx

toria do you think chocolate eclairs (the toffees not the cakes) count as healthy and bone growing? I have a pack here that I can't stop eating

So sorry to hear about your mc Josie, especially so close to finding out about your nephew. I had a mmc about 7 years ago, I don't know if I will ever fully feel that I have got over it.

Afternoon girls,

MrWajs & I are feeling a lot better today thankfully!! Still a bit bleugh but at least we're not throwing up now!

So how's everyone else? Sorry I haven't been keeping up very well lately, there's just too much chatting going on hehe!!

Still no FERTD for me, which makes me about 6 days late I think...! Still not entirely convinced I'm pregnant - don't have any symptoms other than missing FERTD and I've been 2 weeks late before now which was just due to delayed ov.

Anyway decided that waiting 2 weeks to test again was a bit too long to wait so might try again this Saturday.

josie what kind of horse do you have? I recently went riding again for the first time in about eleven years and loved it :)

crazy Totally. Loads of calcium and antioxidants and other good stuff in chocolate and toffee. Just like in the large slab of cake I just had with said milk. Honest...

Hi MrsW glad to hear you are feeling a bit better AND no sign of FERTD

I think Saturday is a good day - how exciting!

Glad to here you're feeling better MrsW, no FERTD is a good enough sign I think! Fingers crossed for a BFP on Saturday :)

Glad you're feeling better MrsW, fingers crossed for Sat :)

Has anyone ever read this, or heard any reviews?

I might be being a bit daft as we are only on cycle 2 but it looks like it might answer questions I have and stop me overthinking. OR could have the opposite effect!?

Toria she's an arab, beautiful but quite highly strung! I've just taught her to jump and we're doin hunter trials in october for the first time ever for both of us, which has always been my dream so a bit sad to give it up but it's not the end.

Can I have a mini rant about people who keep telling me that because I'm just married I shouldn't be ttc! Everyone says we should have time as a couple first, but they forget that we've been together for 7 years already and they make me feel like I'm chopping my arm off or something! I'm trying to have a baby, yes it'll be hard, and yes we'll struggle, but we'll also have our very own son or daughter, and it's not as if I have to choose between having a marriage or having a baby!

Hmph, rant over, thanks!

Josie I know what you mean... the thing is you will still have time together on your own as it's not an immediate thing (sadly) - you can't just press a button and the stork comes the next day!!

7 years together is more than time enough. Just tell people to mind their own business. Or say "it's because DH is a bit boring, I need something new to keep me occupied or I might run off with the milkman"... that will shut them up

Ha ha crazy I think that will definitely do it! Both families are ok with it, it's just one friend in particular who I happened to mention it to and she can be a bit judgemental at times and said that I shouldn't be pushed into it by people just because I'm married, and to tell DH that it means a bigger change for me than him! She obviously doesn't know me very well as I can't be pushed into anything, least of all having kids. I just really wanted her to say yey, that's great. Shame, maybe eventually she will.

And I take offense at her implying that DH is pushing me into it! He would have had kids the minute we met and he's waited very patiently all this time so leave him alone! Blah sticks tongue out

The thing is, for all she knows you got married BECAUSE you wanted to have kids and thought it would provide a base for it*

*not that I personally think you need to be married to have kids, but hopefully ykwim - some people do marry JUST because they want kids

Can I be mean and ask if she is single??

No actually she's been married ten years and has a one year old! I keep meaning to ask her if she regrets it, because she's obviously trying to put me off. I'm trying to get through to her that although it wasn't right for her to have kids after getting married, doesn't mean it's not right for me.

Though in her defence I've been very child un-friendly up until say the past year so I can see why she might think I've been pushed into it, but she doesn't know that I've been building myself up for it for the past year, and have really just been waiting to be married before ttc. I don't think you have to be married to have kids either but it was just the way we both wanted it.

I guess you just need to take deep breaths and hope she stops making assumptions. Nowt as queer as folk :)

I am off home now (just as the rain starts again!), hope you all have a lovely evening xx