Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part4)

[PrettyVacant1]

Hello and welcome to all.
Grab your OPK and stash of POAS' and join us on this quest to many a BFP.
This ones going to be lucky!

moof honey, I'm so sorry, my tummy lurched when I read your message. Life really fucking kicks the shit out of us sometimes it's so unfair. With regards to medical management I don't know much about it as I've never had it but my last mc I opted to let it happen naturally (I was 6 weeks+3 days) and never again. I'd opt for the ERPC every time just to get it over with if you know what I mean, but like cheepz said you've got to pick what feels right for you. Please look after yourself. Thinking of you xxx

Moof
I'm so sorry for you, words can't really express it. Big hug for you xx

tigger you sound like you need a really big squeeze.

Must be so incredibly frustrating to have this test constantly delayed - it's not as though it's a beautiful experience that you're looking forward to, so I expect you have to steel yourself for the prospect of it each time and then they go and move it.
The added factor of the implications of bleeding caused by it, and not being able to get hold of your rabbi for advice. Arrrrgggghhhhh.

That's such a difficult conversation to have with your DH as well. For what it's worth (and not that I've actually been faced with the prospect), but I wouldn't take any thing that is said by either of you while you're in the middle of testing/waiting/trying as being set in concrete. There's too much riding on it to be take a 'I would never..', 'That's the end..' type statement at face value, I think you should treat all of that as a reflection of how incredibly frustrated, angry, and afraid you must both be feeling right now and not as a definite plan of action. Give yourselves the options to change your minds is all I'm saying.

Oh dear, some really hard times for my ladies here.

Oh, Tigger, if you can't get hold of your rabbi to talk to, is there somewhere else - an advice line or online something that you could discuss the issue on?

And very well done on the interviews and the nanny situation. I felt proud that I'd managed to send a few emails today, you're putting me to shame

So sorry moof

FRIDAY'S LIST

(add yourself (back) on when you find us!)

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD31
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD29
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD22
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD20
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD20
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD17
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL31, CD?17ish?
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD10
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD6
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD6
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD5
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD2
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD2
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 2 UCL26-28 CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22
Moofold MC#2 conf Jul 29

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

Just a wee adjustment to mine.

So sorry to hear your news, moof. .
This whole process really does suck. Sending big hugs your way, hope you have good support.

loopy, oh no. That's disappointing. ((hugs))

Morning all x

Such sad times on our lovely thread. Nothing to say other than moo, you know where we are honey, and tigger, so sorry you're feeling so low. Sending you both lots of love and gentle squeezes x

FRIDAY'S LIST

(add yourself (back) on when you find us!)

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD31
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD29
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD22
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD20
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD20-23?
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD17
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL31, CD?17ish?
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD10
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD6
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD6
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD5
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD2
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD2
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 2 UCL26-28 CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22
Moofold MC#2 conf Jul 29

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

Quick adjustment to mine as well.
I need a good slap with the haddock, but thankfully my other cbd is still in my tray at work, and I'm not working till next thursday, by which I should be either CD26 or CD29. Only got 2 duofertility tests, which are only 25mU, I think.

I'm meeting up with one of the (pregnant) girls from my PN group, and I know all she's going to be talking about is the other girls newly announced pregnancy. It's not that I'm not happy for her, but at the same time I want to cry every time I think about it, for myself. And now it's plastered all over facebook, on about 10 different profiles, so there's almost no escaping it.

On a happy note, my wedding dress arrived today and me and my MOH went for a fitting. it needs taking in by about an inch because swimming has actually worked miracles for my tummy, but other than that, it's perfect beyond belief.

Moof I'm so so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself.

tigger good luck getting the test organised, really hope that next month everthing comes together for you.

Ivy Consider yourself haddocked.. although saying that do you need it with the test at work? Congrats on the wedding dress, and on losing weight. I could do with some exercise myself.. like that's going to happen.

As for me, the above list is wrong... I am CD32, can't be bothered to adjust it ATM. My period is 4 days late by average cycle length, 2 days late by when I think I OV'd, but BFN this morning. And I have been having cramps for the last 2 days, and v v minor pink/brown spotting. Def a WTF cycle... I either want AF to start properly, or some decent preg symptoms to appear, as I don't have any. Have friends over for a party tomorrow, if I still test BFN then I am drinking, even if AF doesn't turn up.

Ooooh how lovely Ivy, what's it like? Swimming does sound wonderful. I used to live in a flat that had a gym and a swimming pool on site. Did I use it? very rarely. What wouldn't I give to have such easy access now

I'm starting to vaguely contemplate the whole losing weight doing some exercise thing while I wait for my body to get back into the swing of things. There's absolutely no reason why I couldn't buy a pair of running shoes and head out the door once DH gets home, and I'm sure it would do me good. If not that, there must be something I can fit into my day.

Loopy, sorry about AF, was that your first proper try since your MC? Hope you've got some good hugs lined up, I think those first ones are really tough.

I had a little melt down in the shower today (I seem to do a lot of my crying in the shower, why is that?) - it was to do with the prospect of sex again. I know last time I found getting back into the saddle (so to speak) very emotional, and tbh I'm not looking forward to going through that again.
Poor DH - faced with someone who cries at the prospect a shag one day and who will eventually get pissed off that we won't be having enough sex (sigh, the joys of ttc).

I reckon I'll just tell him to use condoms the whole of August though - then the pressure is off us both. Went to hospital for scan check up today and I've got the all clear AND the nurse did put me down for some tests. So early September me and DH have to go and get some blood tests done and then she reckoned it would be closer to end of October before I saw a consultant because of the wait to get some of the results. Am not sure what to make of all that - am still digesting it.

Moof, am thinking of you.

Finally, there were some new ladies joined yesterday PenguinsMummy and Waterplate. Nice to 'meet' you. WP, sorry that this is your first experience of pregnancy - I miscarried my first, reasonably early, then went on to conceive my DS a few months later. It's difficult and worrying - not knowing when/if you'll get pregnant again and then all the worry about another miscarriage. Have courage and be kind to each other - we're here to help you through.
PenguinsMum how old are your daughters? Really sorry for your loss, it must have been so upsetting to have it start just before the scan. Wobbles are totally to be expected - and can crop up anytime. No one here expects anyone to be 'over it' just because x number of months have gone by. Good luck!

Moo I'm so sorry. What happened to you and LadyBee is my biggest fear at the moment. So sorry that you're both going through this. It is so utterly unfair.

BTW Knitter - you out there somewhere? I was thinking of you today while I was at my EPAU getting checked out. Hope you're starting to recover.

Hi everyone, thanks for all your kind words and thoughts. I was at the hospital this morning and have decided to go for another ERPC, which will be on Monday. Just need to get through the weekend then the healing process can start.

They have also referred me to a recurrent MC clinic, even though this is my 2nd MC. Initially they said they would only investigate after 3 but then changed their minds, no idea why. I had mentioned I was concerned that both MC seemed similar, around 7 weeks then my body continues to believe all is well.

Bee have they told you not to TTC until you see the consultant then? Good to see you got the all clear today x

Hope everyone else is good, and Tigger is doing ok x

Hi Moof - glad that your wait for the ERPC isn't too long, the weekend will be hard but at least I hope you can disappear and be by yourself when you need and come back for distraction/cuddles when you need.

No, they didn't say anything specifically about not ttc, but I thought about it on my way home and decided to definitely wait until the bloods had been taken. I think me and DH need a break anyway, and it'll be nice to be able kick back and drink relax in August.

I'll see what happens with my cycle after that, and will make some decisions. Although I don't want a long wait to get pregnant again, I'm quiet scared of getting pregnant before we find out if there's something wrong that needs treatment .

quite not quiet

Moof I'm so sorry, I just checked in and saw your news. Absolute utter crapness. Big hug xx

Moo I am sending you big hugs, I am glad you don't have to wait very long and that you have been referred, that is really positive xxxxxx

Big hugs to Ladybee too - I totally understand the crying in the shower, I think it's because you can just let it all out. xxxxxxx

Big hug to you Moof glad it's a short wait and that you've been referred.

and hug to you too Ladybee

Still no AF for me but lots of cramping over the last two days so it's on way - and a BFN last night on a first response.

Moo I'm so sorry.
Just saw now.
I'm so very sorry.
I'll speak to you on facebook sweets.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Help, I had a MC 2 weeks ago, at 7 weeks I know I should wait but I keep thinking I might miss a good egg. Convince me to do as i'm told by my GP, acupuncturist, DP. The devil on my shoulder just wont shut up telling me to get a move on cos i'm too old to wait.

Moof I'm so incredibly sorry for what's happened. Hope you're able to survive the weekend without it being too indescribably awful (which is a big call, I know). I think what's happened is everyone here's biggest fear, as most 'normal' (non MC) people think that once you've seen a HB, all is OK.

Birthdoula sorry you find yourself here too. Why has the doc recommended you wait? Often it's for dating purposes rather than any 'medical' reason - although I, along with plenty of others, also found my first period after MC v light (prob v think womb lining) and I don''t think I OV'd, so waiting wouldn't exactly have hurt my chances!

morning all
grey and misty on the south coast today... forgotten what a non-sunny morning is like...?

Sorry have been quiet - finally exchanged contracts on house sale, and trying to find a rental. Some truly HORRIFIC properties out there...

Hope everyone doing ok - some tough times at the moment.

birthdoula welcome and sorry you're here. FWIW I didn't wait after my first MMC and it took 3 cycles to fall pg again - and I was a bit messy emotionally in this time.... think also as I had had an ERPC I think my cycle was a bit screwed as the cycle length was all over the place. Had another MMC, but MC naturally awaiting surgery this time. Started seeing an acupuncturist who advised waiting a few cycles which at first I was very anxious about (had just turned 42 so the ticktock in my ear was blimmin deafening). BUT I agreed to do as she said, and when I got the green light, I got pg first cycle. Am 10 weeks on Monday. Haven't had any reassurance scans yet so of course have lots of worries that this won't be plain sailing either, BUT hope this one IS a good egg. You must do what you feel is right for YOU. Just wanted to say that sometimes waiting is a good thing (would never have said that a year ago!).

sorry meant to add a special squeeze for Moof this weekend x