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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part4)

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PrettyVacant1 · 27/07/2010 19:43

Hello and welcome to all.
Grab your OPK and stash of POAS' and join us on this quest to many a BFP.
This ones going to be lucky!

OP posts:
delilahbelle · 29/07/2010 09:43

Knitter this is a lovely thread, hopefully you stay here will be short (in the nicest possible way)

Viv Pretty I am hoping this WTF cycle of mine sorts itself out... had hoped for a cycle buddy this month but it looks like it's not going to happen, grr.

Hopefully weddings.. mmm... Hoping you will keep us updated with regular dress photos.

Hi to everyone else I have missed... I need to do some work rather than spend the entire morning on here...

lucysnowe · 29/07/2010 10:24

Hi all

will add myself to list when I can remember which day I'm on...

coming near to what would have been my due date so not at all happy today.

Fingers crossed delilah!

northerngoldilocks · 29/07/2010 11:44

Hello all,

I'm still lurking, was trying to decide whether to add myself and have decided it really is time to add myself to the 'grads' bit of this list, even if I'm not quite ready to post on the other thread. As Magic very sensibly says, its not going to change the outcome!

Hopefully - keep us posted re wedding dress progress, Viv and Pretty, sorry last cycle wasn't the one but fingers crossed for everyone this time - although guess that the lesson learnt is to shut the curtains when SWI........

Updated list:

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD31
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD28
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL26-28 CD26
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD21
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD19
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD19
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD16
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL??, CD?12ish?
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD5
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD4
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD1
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22

RECENT GRADUATES
(the BIG grad's thread)
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
Moofold BFP 26 June
SarahMia BFP
Northerngoldilocks BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

hairytriangle · 29/07/2010 12:56

Hello - sorry about not name checking but sorry RTD got some of you and wave to everyone else and hello Newbies!

I'm on CD 28, and not had usual AF symptoms. A little bit of light cramping last night, and nothing today . AF should have been here this morning (usually happens overnight). I'm pee'd off as I am holding out some vain hope I could be duffed (will test again tonight if no sign) but most of all I WANNA USE MY NEW MONITOR GADGET!!! and I need AF to start (if it's coming) to be able to set it!

Don't know if I mentioned but last reflexology I got sharp stabbing pains in right fallopian tube area, so maybe things are clearing (but I'll not know until I've been looked at by the obstetrician).

women's bodies - what a pain in the proverbial

PenguinsMummy · 29/07/2010 13:19

Hi. Would you mind if I joined in too please . I miscarried on 14th June the day before my first scan and am still a bit wobbly about it all. I am TTC #3 - have two DD's. Recently finished my WTF cycle and DH and I are now trying again.

My stats are TTC#3, cycle 1, UCL 25, CD9

youremindmeofthebabe · 29/07/2010 16:19

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD31
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD28
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL26-28 CD26
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD21
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD19
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD19
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL 31, CD?18ish?
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD16
Penguinsmummy TTC#3, cycle 1, UCL 25, CD9
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD5
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD4
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD1
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22

RECENT GRADUATES
(the BIG grad's thread)
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
Moofold BFP 26 June
SarahMia BFP
Northerngoldilocks BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

Ooh, I did a stats list!! hope thats right!

hairytriangle · 29/07/2010 16:23

welcome PenguinsMummy sorry for your loss, pull up a chair

Great listing there youremindmeofthebabe

I've had my hospital appointment about my blocked tube - 17th August

and still no sign of AF.

youremindmeofthebabe · 29/07/2010 16:42

Yey for appointment hairy that's good news!

And a yey for no AF yet, whilst we're on it

Cheepz · 29/07/2010 17:52

You can all stop panicking - I am here and on the proper ttc list woot woot

hello all and newbs xxx kisses all round

sorry to viv and mrspv thats a bunch of arse

THURSDAY'S LIST

(add yourself (back) on when you find us!)

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD30
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD28
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL26-28 CD26
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD21
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD19
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD19
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD16
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL??, CD?12ish?
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD5
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD5
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD4
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD1
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22

RECENT GRADUATES
(the BIG grad's thread)
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
Moofold BFP 26 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

LadyBee · 29/07/2010 18:10

Phew!

And where is that emptyshell? Cooeeeeee, over here! Tea's on!

LadyBee · 29/07/2010 18:12

Oh BarrenB & Saffron you are here!

StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 29/07/2010 19:26

I'm having another stupid day today. Keep thinking to myself that I could be CD22 instead of CD19 because last RTD was all just spotting, but I counted from the middle of it.... and been cramping like mad today, and feeling sick, and reallyreallyreallyreally want to POAS. Where IS that fishyfish?

I'm so sad right now, all of my postnatal buddies with DS are pregnant again, the last one announced that she was today, and that she would have been due only a couple of weeks after my mc-pregnancy.

sorry for not name-checking, really don't feel up to it right now.

Moofold · 29/07/2010 19:34

Hi everyone, got bad news today. Had been feeling decidely anxious after the small for dates news at the scan last week. I was driving myself insane and couldn't wait until the next scan next week so booked a private one today. Unfortunately worst fears confirmed, no heartbeat anymore. I think I knew in my heart all was not well, not a jot of morning sickness. Although it wasn't a shock its still hard to deal with, haven't stopped crying.

As we were at a private hospital we need to go to EPU tomorrow to get re-scanned (awful thought) then talk about what to do. Last time my MMC was found at 12 week scan and I went for the charmingly named ERPC. Consultant today said he thought medical management might be suitable as bean so small. Does anyone have any experience of this to share? I need to decide at 9am tomorrow. I am loathed to wait since my stupid body didn't tell me for over 4 weeks last time so think I may need intervention.

Fucking devastated. LadyBee can i come recouperate with you? If anyone is doing the list tomorrow could you take me off the grads and onto the WTC bit? x

Magic8ballhastheanswers · 29/07/2010 19:48

Moof have sent you a msg on FB. I am so so sorry xxx If you lived near I would be round like a shot with chocolate, hugs and wine xxxxx

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StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 29/07/2010 20:00

Moof I'm shedding a tear or five for you. ~hugs~

Cheepz · 29/07/2010 20:16

Moof write me on FB if you want to chat anytime - didn't want to say before as didn't want to worry you or jinx things but I had early scan with HB at nearly 7 weeks - I knew I was at 7 they measured at 6, noone noticed it was small at the time although she said 6 I assumed she was wrong. Had later scan at 9 weeks and no HB any more baby stopped growing at 7 - 8 weeks - they reckoned soon after the first scan. The obstetrician at the second scan said because of my history they should have done more checks at early scan because of size issue but who knew! I will know for next time,

Anyway - because my scan was at EPU didn't have to go again but opted for ERPC as soon as possible because I needed closure and I didn't know how long it might take to happen naturally, although I did start spotting more heavily while waiting for the op.

Choose what feels right for you babe.

So sorry
So sad

So common but noone ever tells you that

tigger15 · 29/07/2010 20:36

I see I need to add myself to the new list - is it a hint to leave?

Barren thanks for the info but I think it was someone else who asked.

I've been going through a rough few days so haven't felt much like posting.

I'm still trying to get an hsg booked but they keep on cancelling the clinics they say they've booked me in for. You can't have sex before it or for a few days after and at the moment they think it'll be either on Monday or Thursday or possibly next month. In addition, there are religious issues linked with the bleeding which may result from it that means if I don't manage to lose any chance on this cycle by medical means I'll lose them by religious ones. I've been trying to get hold of my rabbi for a week on this and he's been very hard to get hold of which has just made the whole thing more stressful.

Then when they said it might be next month (but they wouldn't know until it was too late to tell me for this month meaning I would miss 2 cycles) I told dh that this was the last test I was prepared to do because if they don't find anything with this then I don't think there's anything else they can do and the next stage is intervention. So I told him I wasn't prepared to go down any of IVF IUI routes because it's hard enough keeping my diabetes under control as it is let alone with another lot of mad hormones knocking around and I would consider adoption. At which point he said he'd never consider that and we'd just have to be satisfied with one child.

He then foolishly offered to take on things for me (ie healthwise which is impossible and I know from a previous argument he's not prepared to do any of the things I need to do diet wise to keep in control in sympathy- he misinterpreted a request to cut down on alcohol and caffeine and said his life would not be worth living if he had to do what I did for 2 1/2 weeks of each month). So I pointed out this morning that he couldn't even be bothered to chase our rabbi for an answer and left it all up to me. He said he didn't have time so after I made some rather caustic remarks he spent half the morning trying to sort that out.

I've done all my job interviews and have a recruitment consultant trying to claim credit for one I got entirely by myself because they sent my cv to the company without my authorisation. They also sent me for a position in another company telling me it was for one job when it was really for another and putting misleading and inaccurate information on my cv.

On the positive front I do appear to have found a nanny.

Anyway I just want to break down and disappear for a while so if you don't see me this will be why.

Hope you're all doing better than this.

Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD9
delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD30
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD28
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL26-28 CD26
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD21
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD19
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD19
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD16
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL??, CD?12ish?
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD5
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD5
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD4
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD1
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22

RECENT GRADUATES
(the BIG grad's thread)
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
Moofold BFP 26 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

Muser · 29/07/2010 20:42

So sorry to hear your news Moo.

Tigger that must be awful being mucked around on the HSG appointment. It sounds like things are generally tough at the moment.

Just updating the list to make sure we've got the most recent one, as I think Tigger added to an earlier version.

THURSDAY'S LIST

(add yourself (back) on when you find us!)

delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD30
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD28
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL26-28 CD26
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD21
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD19
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD19
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle WTF UCL 28, CD16
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle WTF, UCL??, CD?12ish?
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD9
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD5
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD5
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD4
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD1
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD1
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22
Moofold MC#2 conf Jul 29

RECENT GRADUATES
(the BIG grad's thread)
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July

tigger15 · 29/07/2010 20:44

Hi Moof just saw yours. I'm really sorry to hear that. I had an ERPC after waiting 3 weeks for it to come out. It was not pleasant but equally the natural way can also be very unpleasant. Try asking them if they can give you medicine to help your body miscarry. It's some sort of ulcer medicine and not every hospital offers it routinely.

I had the ERPC under GA but they initially offered it under local but then took it back after they got worried by my diabetes (long and frustrating story about how I wouldn't be able to control my diabetes under local but in the end had to do it under general when I was completely out!!). They send you home quite soon after even with a GA. You'll need at least 2 days to recover both physically and emotionally (the latter will take much longer). Don't feel pressured into doing anything.

waterplate · 29/07/2010 21:30

Hi all
I just miscarried this week, my first pregnancy. I was only 6 weeks and a few days but still very upset! DH and I getting used to the idea now though. We'll be starting to try again as soon as we feel ready (won't be long!) I had a private scan last night and NHS scan is tomorrow to confirm the neat and tidy and sadly empty uterus seen at the private clinic.

Wasn't very private - the receptionist tried to come in while I was legs akimbo on the bed!

So, looking forward to chatting with you all

batteryhen · 29/07/2010 21:42

moof I am so so sad for you. Life is shite, and there is no other explanation. I had to write as you asked about Medical Management. I had this - I found I had no heart beat with my twins at around 6 +3. The hospital really swayed me into medical management ( I wanted surgery)- again because my beans were so small. The procedure itself is not too bad, but was quite painful (but manageable) Get the painkillers on board - accept whatever they give you. I didn't expell all that I should have, and because of that I bled for 9 weeks in total ( retained 'products')- however there was another lady on the ward who had done 'everything' by lunch time. If I had the choice again I would go for surgery - but only because it took me so long physically to get over it - I couldn't move on emotionally. It really is up to you my love, its a personal thing I guess. I just wanted to share with you xxx whatever you choose, it will be the right decision for you xx like Tigger said - it is YOUR decision, YOUR body. Make the choice that YOU feel is right. xx

tigger rubbish time for you too, I really hope things start looking up soon xx

Sorry not to name check everyone - will do tomorrow xx

randomimposter · 29/07/2010 22:37

Moof - am so so sorry. Words don't really cut it. Thinking of you xx

LadyBee · 29/07/2010 22:41

oh no no no no Moof - I'm so so sorry.
I knew you'd be desperately worried after your scan, especially with my terribly-timed post after yours on the other thread. I can't tell you how much I was hoping you would turn out to be one of the ladies who got to smile and clutch a picture after their follow-up scan.
Oh you poor poor thing, come here and bury yourself under my duvet.

You know what your previous ERPC was like to recover from. I expect medical management would make you go through what I've just been through - a mini-labour. My impression (totally unscientific) is, that lots of women do seem to not empty everything if they haven't already started some spotting - so end up with an ERPC anyway. I guess that happens with natural MC as well, but if things aren't already coming away when you provoke those contractions, I guess maybe there's more chance of something being left?

Saying that, and having gone through the pain - I do feel that having gone through the physical process has helped me a little to accept what has happened. In some ways the level of physical pain echoed my emotional pain and having felt it build up and then pass (it was about 1-2 hours at its worst), was almost cathartic.

You have to do what you think is right, but actually don't feel rushed into making a decision. Could you get it confirmed at the EPU, talk through the options and then go away and call to book in, in a day or so once you've had some time to think?

Oh sweetheart, I so wish I could wind back the clock and make you have a different ending to this story. This is not how it is supposed to be. So very unfair.