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Christmas cards for school friends? Whole class or not?

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motomoto · 10/12/2008 15:41

Haven't even thought about it yet and have just realised we break up next week - close friends or whole class?

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cherryontopofthexmastree · 10/12/2008 15:54

my boys just send to their friends- there are loads of kids in the class.

Majeika · 10/12/2008 15:54

None!

If they want to say happy christmas then say it.

Save time, money and trees...............

NomDePlume · 10/12/2008 15:55

DD send to everyone in her class. About 27 kids.

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motomoto · 10/12/2008 15:55

yes, tempted to do same, Majeika

what about your friends/family, do you send them?

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Mercy · 10/12/2008 15:57

Just friends here (plus teacher/TA/Nursery nurse)

WhereTheWildThingsWere · 10/12/2008 15:59

All 29 in class and eight teachers, assistants and dinner ladies.

'I don't want anyone to be left out mummy, they might feel sad'

fruitful · 10/12/2008 16:04

The first year (nursery, year before reception) I just let her send cards to those whose names she could actually remember. And I made her sign her own name. It all seemed a bit excessive, Christmas cards for zillions of children who can't even read them.

Then I saw how much pleasure they all get from receiving the cards.

So yesterday dd (now in yr2) sat and wrote cards for every member of her class and some friends from other classes. And I sat and wrote 22 cards to every member of ds1's nursery class. And signed his name, cos he can't. He's going to post them in the school postbox and is very excited about it.

They get more cards than I do.

babyloveschristmas · 10/12/2008 16:05

Whole class here too and some from the other class plus teachers and t/a's! I have drawn the line at my DD pre-school - sending one to the staff and thats is it.

Majeika · 10/12/2008 22:23

nope - i send none.

No one really likes them, no one would fall out with you if you didnt send one and it is such a faff at school sorting out cards....

and i am being eco friendly.......

piscesmoon · 10/12/2008 22:29

Just send to friends. It is really weird to send to everyone IMO.

roisin · 10/12/2008 22:33

My boys have always sent as many or as few cards as they wished. They always had to write them themselves, even when they were tiny.

Sometimes (often) they send few or none, sometimes lots. This year ds1 (11) has surprised me by wanting to send loads of cards to all his new friends at secondary. It's surprised me, but is nice I guess, shows his social side developing for once!

piscesmoon · 10/12/2008 22:39

My DSs don't like writing. The youngest refused to send any-he said he couldn't see the point! I always left it entirely up to them.

samsonara · 10/12/2008 22:47

Have just written them for dd's nursery, all 29! she was so happy to have got two this week, they do enjoy it and they do know who's who in class. I hardly think it's saintly greenwise not giving a class of children christmas cards when most of the packaging that come with christmas pressies and food etc is worse per family. I don't think it's weird to send them to everyone just good will and thoughtful, but if you don't want to ofcourse you don't have to but it doesn't make those who don't weird at all.

kyrasmummy · 11/12/2008 00:57

Seeing how much my DD has loved receiving them from the postbox at school, i did them for the whole class, only 16 though, teacher, ta and a few girls she mentions from year 1/2 she's in reception, i haven't sent any to DS's nursery mates yet

triggerfish · 11/12/2008 01:27

my dc send them to everyone in their class or nursery as I couldn't bear the thought of someone being left out. They get so much pleasure from posting them and receiving them. It may seem excessive, but for the children who may not get many, at least they aren't forgotten!

slim22 · 11/12/2008 02:27

our rule is if we send something to be distributed in school then no one should be left out. Same goes or Bday invites etc...

roisin · 11/12/2008 02:40

My boys haven't really got loads of pleasure from posting and receiving Christmas cards. Often they genuinely haven't seen the point of them, certainly not (in their opinion) worth the effort of writing them out. At times I did find this a bit frustrating, but dh told me to just chill about it: christmas card sending to all and sundry is a very British thing, and many other cultures don't understand our obsession with it either!

ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 11/12/2008 03:50

We have never done it but DS did get a card from a girl in his class. She obv sent to everyone. I can't see the point really. If he wants to fine but I can't see him sitting down to write them!

ThePellyandMe · 11/12/2008 04:35

My dc's sent to everyone in the class. They will make cards for Teachers and T/A's and take them in with pressies at the end of term.

I was very proud of DS1 in Y1 who wrote everything out himself and Ds2 in Reception who wrote his name in every card, all 27 of them He's one of the youngest in Reception and a really reluctant writer so it was great to see him so engaged and they both love receiving them.

piscesmoon · 11/12/2008 07:40

The reason that I think it is weird is that at the age that you are sending them to everyone in the class they don't notice or are not bothered (my DSs weren't anyway) but by the time they get to about 8 and they notice how many they get and how many others get, the practice has stopped (by and large) and they choose to send them to friends.

The rule that they have to be distrubuted to everyone, if given in school is giving the wrong impression at a very early age. They won't go through life always getting what everyone else gets, so it is much easier never to get into that way of thinking. Whole class parties give the assumption that they will automatically be invited-it comes much harder later on to find that parties will be smaller.

I left it entirely up to my DSs, sometimes it was 20, sometimes 6 and sometimes none. Now that they are teens they don't send any.

samsonara · 11/12/2008 14:09

I see your point but i go about letting them know they can't have everything they wants in other ways as I'm sure you do too. This is just a bit of fun really , mydd really loved popping all hers into their little red card post box. Not necessary but nice abit like alot of things to do with christmas anyway.

PlonkerTeatowelOnTheirHeads · 11/12/2008 14:18

Agree with Slim - all or none.

My dd's love giving and receiving cards. My dd2 (5) spent ages carefully writing hers and they both (they're 8 and 5 yo) come out of school excitedly waving their cards in the air when they have received them.

Of course if they didn't want to send them then that would be fine too, but I wouldn't allow them to send to some and not others. My dd's would be so upset if their friends had received cards and they had not.

cat64 · 11/12/2008 15:01

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YourArtfulZebra · 18/12/2025 00:39

I’d allow to send to all. Children change their friends constantly during school. Also what about the children that are more shy, haven’t built the strength to make friends. How upset they will be finding no cards while others gets lots. Children can be mean and show off their many cards compared to some. Think how’d you feel if you had none. Sending to all in the class shows that you a worthy of a friend to the good ones.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/12/2025 10:27

Dd sent a little video the other day of all 3 Gdcs (10, 9, 5) writing 90 cards between them! (Teachers and some non-school friends included.)

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