Who's had a Christmas Eve cry?

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I just did. Feeling overwhelmed. It's all on me. Presents haven't arrived, so much to do, wrapping, food prep, husband working all over Xmas. I just want to lie on the sofa with a baileys and relax but I can't. Sending hugs to those that need it xx

I did.

Second year I’ve spent at my daughter’s grave with her friends. It’s hard.

This is the first year I've not had a christmas eve cry for about 8 years!! I've been grieving the sudden death of my dad who died in November 5 years ago. And before that there was always something.. 2 Christmases we moved house whilst I was pregnant so there were lots of tears then!
This is the first year in a long while I've kinda been OK... a little stressed at points. But overall alright. Touch wood it continues throughout christmas day.

I'm sorry you are having a bad time. Christmas can be very hard. I hope it improves for you

I am so very moved by all your messages. Sending support and hugs to everyone struggling 💐

And wishing you a peaceful new year.

I did. I lost my daughter 5 years ago and my mum and dad have gone. Then my lovely grandson asked me to go shopping with him for the last of his presents.

I wrapped them with him and felt so much happier spending time with him. Sending love to everyone who is sad this evening.

Trying to keep the tears far back because I fear they won’t stop if i don’t.

I lost my baby at 20 weeks pregnant two months ago. I was meant to have a big belly this Christmas and the house was meant to be filled with baby things. I should be moaning to my husband about all the tasks we needed to do before baby’s arrival, instead we’re cradling our baby’s ashes.

Thinking of you all. Life isn’t easy.

Sending you a big hug. You are definitely not alone in this. Christmas Eve pressure is very real and it so often feels like it all lands on mums. Anyone would feel overwhelmed in your position. Missing presents, endless lists, and doing it mostly solo is a lot for one person to carry.
Try to remember that it does not have to be perfect to be good enough. Kids will remember how they felt, not whether everything was wrapped beautifully or every plan went smoothly. If something waits or changes, that is okay.
If you can, even ten minutes on the sofa with that Baileys later might help you reset. You are doing your best and that really is enough.

Me but happy tears that our much longed and wished for DC2 is finally here

Thank you. We are all reeling.

A hug and sending comfort to those struggling. It can be a very painful time of year, and the pressure to be happy and the loss of health/loved ones can be too much.

We are all gathering here, and it is Christmas today. I’m glad just to be alive, despite my heart feeling shattered. Too many reasons why Christmas hurts, but I have decided to do what I can to put it all to one side, and be truly in the moment.

I can’t change anything that happened to me in the past, but I can shape the future, and I intend to, and enjoy today.
I am still here.

Yes watching Carols from kings always reminds me of my lovely mum who died of dementia three years ago, also we have just lost a young family member. Away in a manger finished me off.

OK, morning has arrived and it will soon be be under way.

((( A HUGE HUG))) to everyone one of us who need it x

I’ve had a Christmas morning cry. The first Christmas my DD has stayed away from home. She’s only down the road at her boyfriend’s house but he is nasty and abusive. She finally found the strength to leave him just over a week ago. We had a great week, spent loads of time together, loved having her home and safe. Then on Monday she went back to him. I’m so sad but there’s nothing I can do other than be here for her and keep letting her know how loved she is and how much support she has whenever she needs it. She’s 20 and has mental health issues so is vulnerable to abusive men sadly. This is the first Christmas I’ve woken up without her here: I’m hoping to see her later on today if she is ‘allowed’ to see me.

I lost someone to the same thing. 7 weeks from the first sign to the end. I’m so sorry for your loss, he was so young.

I’ve cried every morning this week due to remembering people who aren’t here any more, the people who made Christmas special in the past. So like many of you, I’ll paint a smile on today and pretend I’m ok. So thoughts to all of you who are struggling today too 💐

Merry Christmas to everyone, I'm so sorry everyone else is having a shit time, I hope you can find some joy today, even in small ways

Me, my son was found dead in his flat last month.

What a beautiful post. Thank you. I lost mum in 2023 and I think I'm really struggling more now than at the beginning, the shock has worn off and the long drawn out executor responsibilities are finally over. I feel lost.

I want to be able to think of her without feeling sad. Difficult because she struggled a lot with sadness after my dad left her.

Thank you ❤️

We were very lucky, from dx we had a fantastic three years.

So so sorry. Sending you much love ❤️ xx

Oh my God. How absolutely awful. Sending much love. Xxx

I think the ‘seconds’ are sometimes harder than all the firsts - you are no longer in shock and the world has carried on around you. Hate the wanky expression ‘be kind to yourself’ but really, be kind to yourself.

Thank you ❤️

Despite 2 craniotomies and treatment, our boy only started to go downhill from about May.

i think we did him proud in those three years with all the things we did with him.

Our boy…

Our boy with us at the Monza GP

Me too, at least we had lovely mums though, so grateful. X

Now i'm crying, one of my boys is that age, so sorry for your loss xx