Who's had a Christmas Eve cry?

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I just did. Feeling overwhelmed. It's all on me. Presents haven't arrived, so much to do, wrapping, food prep, husband working all over Xmas. I just want to lie on the sofa with a baileys and relax but I can't. Sending hugs to those that need it xx

Yup in the middle of McDonalds where my 18yr old was just finishing her shift and I was giving her a small gift for her and her sister as they are with dad and his new awesome rich partners family. First time ill be waking up without my kids.

Oh and divorce papers arrived as well, factually incorrect of course, well and truly showing his narcissistic colours. Hopefully we get a court date for the DA soon.

Wow, that is rough. I've lost both mine but ten years apart.

It does get a lot easier with time. 💐

Yeah me. Mum died last year, missing her terribly. As did the kid’s dad.

I’ve stupidly moved to somewhere I don’t know anyone for a ‘fresh start’ so have no local friends or support. I’ve just had an unexpected heart operation which has changed my life.

I was trying to have a nice family walk with my two sons and the youngest autistic one had a meltdown and I had to abandon it and take him home, leaving the older one to walk the dogs on his own.

I’m so exhausted and resentful at his never ending needs. I’ve had 18 years of it.

Went to my bedroom and had a quiet cry in despair.

Just watched All Creatures Great and Small and an animal had to be put to sleep .
We are greatly missing our much loved pet as it is the first Christmas without her and six months on the house still feels empty .
So I had a cry during that part of the programme .

I nearly cried in the supermarket this morning because DD2 isn’t well with the depression and these past two years have been so hard. Then a random bloke smiled at me as though to say, chin up and keep going so I managed to hold out until I reached the car.

Thinking of all those struggling.
I cry every Christmas Eve and I don’t know why. I think, like another poster said, I long to go back to my childhood home with parents and siblings and the fact my own dc are teenagers now so it’s not the same

🥲🥲me too ❤️

im actually at my friends, next door to the house I grew up in! Barely holding it together after a dreadful year.

I badly want to wind the clock back 50 years 🥲🥲

Me, I was dreadfully lonely all day, while all my neighbours have their families round etc. I’m recently bereaved. I can’t wait for summer!

To everyone who is mourning a loss: Please know that it does get easier with time. I was utterly destroyed when my mother died almost 12 years ago, and the years since have been filled with other losses, including my marriage, my dad, my childhood home, and two lifelong best friends. The cliche about time being a great healer is a cliche because it's true. I thought I would never recover when my mother died. She was the one true friend I've ever had. Thought I would never be normal again. But somehow, without me even really noticing, the world became the right-side up again, and now I'm OK, although missing them all never goes away.

I think it takes three years after a truly significant loss to really get back on your feet.

You won't always feel this bad.

Plus, the love they have you is still yours, to keep. Death can't take away all that they gave you. You'll have their love forever.

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

Who? Partner or child?

My dad is dead, my mum is awful, my kid is disabled. Christmas can just fuck off.

I've just visited my mum, she's in hospital on a mental health ward. I'll go and visit again tomorrow broke my heart leaving her there.

Just watched ‘Finding Father Christmas’ tears aots

Yes me..earlier in the hairdresser. My DD really upset another child last night at a big meet up, and having to deal with that, plus general exhaustion, period menopause, stress and a million other things tipped me over.
Have just realised that I have got DD lots more stuff than DS to open tomorrow too, so feeling shitty about that too.

Really missing my late daughter today. She died 11 years ago at 17. She absolutely loved Christmas. And I just watched one of her very favourite films, for total wallowing and self indulgence.

I’m sorry you felt like that and I’m sorry to say I was also a little relieved to read your title as I’ve literally just had a cry myself feeling overwhelmed.. it’s the first Christmas in 18 years that we haven’t had the magic of ‘Santa’ in the house as my youngest found out a few months back. Worked so hard to make Christmas and the festivities so special, so much organising, time, effort and making the house sparkle and an amazing buffet tonight. I just feel like it’s expected and nobody appreciates it.. maybe it’s perimenopause making me feel a bit emotional or the fact the kids are growing up/already grown up!
Solidarity to all us wives and mothers that go to such lengths every year 🍷

Big hugs to those who have lost love ones this year ❤️ xx

Me - so stupid but I cried at the end of ET earlier, then couldn’t stop. Sending love to everyone 🤍

My problems are very small compared to many posters. 2 young children in bed, full time single parent so no real adult friendships and an only child with practically no family. I was always very close to my mum but she met someone last year who has massively encouraged her distancing from us.

So incredibly grateful for my little family and 99% of the time relieved that their dad just leaves us alone. But it’s hard not to feel lonely at Christmas once they’ve gone to bed. Also missing the relationship I had with my mum.

New Years is even worse for me. Hope everyone who is finding it tough, for whatever reason, finds some form of joy over the next few days.

@hearmesnore we are living parallel lives! My dad diagnosed 2 weeks ago. Im at MIL as already planned and dd just wants to be on phobe with friends!

And me - miss her so much, she was meant to be here with us this week but died unexpectedly in November. Lots of tears today but trying not to be upset in front of Dad.

Sending love and strength to all those in need. 💐
This has popped up on a carers group I’m in and it seems appropriate to post it here too.

Me bc we travelled 300 miles, paid alot in accommodation (we are quite skint) and Dh's family, who knew we were coming, haven't even made 5 minutes to see us. Most heartbroken for my DC who keeps asking when we will see them.
Also likely cooking a crap Christmas dinner tomorrow when we were expecting to spend the day with the family, and I would gladly have cooked at DH's home if they'd asked.

I'm not an entitled type, I just don't understand why they haven't made any time to see us or offer to meet us.

There was bad feeling last year when DHs family kept announcing we were doing x or y without consultation which was tricky with a young child.
I thought we'd made progress but obvs not.
We will be staying at home next year.

So yes, I had a cry.

Thank you, thats lovely.

I had a tearful moment earlier and I can’t really say why exactly - there’s a couple of eternally absent people I miss all year round but more deeply at Christmas even though their passings weren’t at this time of year. I’m utterly worn out from a tough few months at work, and there’s still the family to keep happy tomorrow lest I be accused of ruining everything.

Me. First Christmas after going NC with my mum and whilst life is easier, it’s hit me. This year has been extremely tough with issues with our teenager and drugs so it all feels overwhelming. But I am looking forward to watching the kids open their gifts and having nice food.