Irritated by parents already😩

[Bellyblueboy]

I am an awful person. My parents are staying for Christmas - only arrived today - and I am already irritated.

The constant passive aggressive questions - the long, boring stories about people I don’t know - the complete lack of interest in my life

All my Electrical appliances have been unplugged so the remote controls no longer work. I will have to crawl under the Christmas trees now to turn them back on (don’t know how my dad managed to get under there, he is 80!).

the TV is up so loud I can’t think. They brought the contents of their fridge with them - I had to put most of it in the bin!

my mum keeps asking me are we having (fill in some obscure food item she never mentioned before) then looking disappointed when I say I didn’t know she wanted it. I went to Tesco to try and find Turkish delight with no chocolate because apparently it just isn’t Christmas without it.

i am already so irritated I could scream. They are elderly. They can’t help it. But in fairness they have always been a bit annoying, they have just lost their filter.

I am trying to find it funny. But failing. Every time I move my dad asks me what I am doing. Where I am going. Aggghhhh

well written! Look they won’t be alive for ever so enjoy the visit from the 70s for the few days… my dad usually has the news on replay all day.. so I feel your pain.. take em out too so the pressure not all on you..

Be glad you have them, it will be over soon

@Bellyblueboy we are not taking our 86 year old father in law away with us for new year as we usually do because last year he basically wanted an itinerary every morning and if we went to our room was buzzing after30 minutes asking ‘what we were doing, what was next etc ‘ - it was completely un relaxing .

Have some alcohol first thing in the morning 😊

Are you okay?

So why did you invite them?

Okay I just wanted a bit of a moan but this thread is turning nasty so I am signing out

Merry Christmas everyone. Hope you have a fabulous time.

I feel your pain. Yet you'd worry if they were any different!! I can relate! This too shall pass!

My sympathies, do you have some support team OP e.g kids or pets?

I feel your pain too because my DP is only 60 and everything he says to me is a question.
EVERTHING!

All my Electrical appliances have been unplugged so the remote controls no longer work. I will have to crawl under the Christmas trees now to turn them back on (don’t know how my dad managed to get under there, he is 80!)

Sorry, OP, that made me laugh. Reminded me of my late father. And I'm not going to tell you to make the most of them blah blah. We can be fond of them and irritated at the same time.

Ha ha ha, my dad does this too. Unplugs everything he considers not in use for safety or to save on electricity. Then gives me a long winded 20 minute lecture about my phone or other item being left too close to the edge of the counter! You could give them a job and praise them for it!

So you don’t know yet, but one day not too far away you will want these days back and would give anything to be royally pissed off by them.

Watch one of the Motherland Christmas specials for solidarity!

Hi - I absolutely get it. Completely. Take deep breaths. Drink. Mine were like this. I never really enjoyed Christmas when they were with me - feeling constantly on edge; the TV blaring; the passive aggressiveness; the lack of joy. It will pass, and you are doing a great job, and they love being with you, even if they don’t tell you.

this is mumsnet youll always get some odd comments, that said merry christmas and all the best

I could have written this!! Solidarity OP, I'm with you...(in my case add to the mix a personality clash between DH and DM which makes it all even more fun!).

Count yourself lucky- I live next door to my DF, so see him every day!
I love him to bits, and I try to be patient, but....Im trying to organise dinner/ get back to work/ have 5 bloody minutes to myself, I find it hard to feign interest in his trip to Aldi to buy milk, where he ....went up and bought milk! All conversation is around the minutae of his life, he seems to have become so introspective!
He obsesses over things that (to me) are so bloody insignificant/ pointless (if I hear the rant about LED car headlights one more time...what does he want me to do about it?!) Just hoping to get through Christmas without going completely menopausal on him, as he tells me the same story for the 900th time. Wine will help, I think...

Oh, and i know he will not always be here, I lost my mum years ago. Doesn't mean she wouldn't still irritate the shit out of me now were she still here!!

My mother hasn't even arrived and I'm irritated! I've been reminded that dinner needs to be over by 5.30pm cos Strictly... Also she will ask constantly about when we are calling my siblings who live abroad and are hours behind. But once we call, she'll pass phone to me to talk!

All my Electrical appliances have been unplugged so the remote controls no longer work. I will have to crawl under the Christmas trees now to turn them back on (don’t know how my dad managed to get under there, he is 80!).

Haha aww c’mon OP that’s funny? And kind of cute.

I get it, I really do but they don’t have long left probably so you’ve got to suck it up! They just sound like pretty bog standard annoying elderly parents really. We’ll all be old one day and il probably be even more annoying than my dp’s!

There’s having a bit of a moan and there’s being mean about your harmless but slightly irritating 80 year old parents on a website with a big readership, and this one crossed the line.

Oh the joys of Christmas hey OP? At least there’s lots going on in the next couple of days so hopefully you’ll get some respite

How do you know they are "harmless"? You aren't privvy to the ins and outs of their relationship. Old people can be mean/ selfish/ demanding just the same as young people!