To be delighted about what I have spent so far 😅

[Positivenancy]

Feeling quite delighted to have most of the dc’s shopping done and under €500 so far! I can tend to go crazy at Christmas 😬

I have spent €436 so far. And I have bought

DD11
Jumper
Nike leggings
Sephora goodies -bath bombs, lip gloss, hair oil, travel containers.
Initialled Glass cup
Small panda bag for accessories
Panda Teddy
Sanitary wear bag
Slushy maker
New York jigsaw
Eiffel Tower puzzle
Socks
MGA miniverse set
Full length Mirror for her bedroom
clothes rail for her bedroom
Small panda ornament
Panda hair towel
Panda face mitt
Nintendo sports game
Nintendo sports accessory pack

DS9
Hoody
Lion teddy
Elephant teddy
Football pen Holder
Vbucks voucher
Fidget popper game
Darts board

I still have a good bit to get for DS though he is getting a PlayStation (second hand) and a game and couple of Lego sets.

DD is pretty much done I might pop into primark and get some baskets for the bottom shelf of the clothes rail and pjs etc

Have you totalled your spend so far?

What an entertaining thread 😁 I like threads like these for present ideas for nieces and nephews etc.

So far I've only got my daughter (who will be about to turn 3 at Christmas) a wooden puzzle for a fiver and I'm doing a homemade advent calendar for her with things like chocolate coins, a pot of play doh, or a tiny craft kit for about £2, that kind of thing, in each one, as I want to make her feel special after the baby is born and give her things to do. I've got most of the stuff for that now. I've probably spent just under £20 on the advent calendar maybe.

She'll also be getting some of those balance stepping stones but a family member is getting those for her, another family member wants to get her a toy pram and doll, and another is getting her some more magnatiles.

I want to get her a hot wheels track but there are so many available of different sizes and prices that I'm not sure which to get.

I've got my nephews a mario game for the switch to share (on offer for £20), my niece wants a Barbie that I need to buy which will probably be £10-15 depending on which one I get plus I've bought her a book. My husband was on about something else switch related to get my nephews as well but i can't remember what that was now! So many things to remember!

I know what I'm buying for everyone else but just need to actually buy it so I can take it off my to do list!

Those aren't my thoughts on you, just simply pointing out the absolute waste of time searching Christmas boards to purposely bitch at someone's budget for Christmas.

My actual thoughts about you and people like you would get me banned from here, hence keeping them in my head.

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There's people on the holiday board spending money on holidays and going away over Christmas

There's people on style and beauty spending money on clothes and bags and shoes etc for Christmas party season.

There's people on the DIY boards spending money on house repairs and things to buy for their houses.

There's people on the tattoo boards getting new tattoos

There's people on the relationship boards spending money on dating sites

There's people on the What are we Reading boards spending money on books, kindles and Reading events.

That's a lot of boards for you to be going round, expressing your anger at people spending their money on their children at Christmas.

Or is just the Christmas one you do it to?

Is it me or is the “I’d” means that you actually have no children and telling us what you will be doing for sure when you do have one/plenty?

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Sure, whatever you say 😂

How many children do you have and how old are they, out of interest?

Yeap…

I didn’t mean to be intrusive…it is just that if @Sugarcoldturkey do not have any children then please do not come and say what mums should be doing. We feel way enough guilt lol

However, if you do have kids, then, well…I guess…whatever you say.

I do not understand the posters who comment just to criticise others choices
If you don't agree just scroll on, don't piss on people's brigade!
For balance I live on disability benefits so my budget is limited I still love reading what others choose for their DC and it's in my nature to be kind and accepting of other's differences

Parade not brigade obviously

I do have kids (though how can you know if that's true, given this is an anonymous forum?). I have also, surprise surprise, been a child myself.

Based on my own upbringing, my interaction with my kids, what I've seen of other children (I'm a teacher), studies I've looked at, parenting books I've read, what I know about consumerism, what I know about advertising, what I know about our throw-away culture, what I've gathered from living as a fully functioning member of society.... I have (gasp) formed an opinion.

It might be a diametrically opposed opinion to yours, but that doesn't mean I'm not entitled to hold it or to share it (bearing in mind that when I posted this thread was in AIBU).

Don't hide behind "mum guilt" as a reason to buy your child 22 presents. If you think your child will benefit, do it proudly (as indeed the OP has).

I don’t understand why these type of threads often seem to result in people expressing strong opinions about why a child is getting too much or why someone has bought/spent too much. I like finding out what others are getting (I find it interesting). There are so many posts on here where people list how much they earn, how big their houses are, what expensive renovations they are having done, the expensive holidays they are going on, the excess disposable income they have as they ask for ideas on how they can spend some of it etc. However, those type of threads don’t seem to result in many people commenting negatively. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Just buy what you want and spend as much as you want (can afford) and have a lovely Christmas. 🎄

The issue is-I didn't search for it. It appeared randomly and unasked for on my MN and frankly given how trivial and smug the subject is I'd willingly block any 'boards' like this ever appearing on my MN EVER again. It's ghastly.

But surely, as a, I'm guessing, a reasonably intelligent and aware person, you can see that you didn't share your opinion in a kind way.

In your first and subsequent posts, your replies are unkind, patronising, belittling and, well, pointless.

You wasn't sharing as an opinion, you were sharing to bait someone into criticising their choices.

You could easily have worded it better if you were just sharing what you do. You know this and anyone who can read will see this.

Plus the fact you replied when it was on AIBU meant you were going in with the intention of laying into the OP because of the nature of that board.

People parent differently, you're no better at parenting than anyone else here. The presents OP has for her daughter can all be used, there isn't a lot of tat there but you've decided because she has more than three things, to attempt some weird moral high ground.

Why is buying your child 3 presents and making them buy the rest of their presents out of their own money any better than me or anyone else who buys more than 3 presents for their child at Christmas?

In that case I'd also recommend you block Chat, Money and Finance, Holidays, Books, Style and Beauty, Tattoos, Parents of Teens, Further Education and that's all I can think of off the top of my head.

There's people spending money on all of those boards and sharing posts about it. It even appears a fair few times on AIBU.

Hopefully you recover from ghastliness of people sharing their Christmas presents on the Christmas board.

@YellowphantGrey If you've read all my posts, then you must have seen that I wrote "I do admit that it's hardly the end of the world, everyone parents differently. I wouldn't say anything in the usual run of the things, but you did post in AIBU."

In my first post I acknowledged that maybe I was the one being unreasonable before sharing what I would do. I don't consider that at all rude given the context of an AIBU thread.

I only started getting tetchy once people tagged me in replies, calling my approach to presents "ridiculous" (way harsher critique of my parenting than anything I said), and demanding to know details about my personal life.

Why is it? Is it distasteful for Letting Agents to post pictures of houses because homeless people can’t afford them? Or any shop displaying anything people might not be able to afford. How dare you type this when some people have no internet access. Come on be realistic here.

Cue all those humble bragging about keeping the real meaning of Christmas by giving their children just a tin whistle and a tangerine. 🙄 Every year without fail they jump on anyone spending more than a tenner including food.

And a dot to dot book.

I've bought my DS a hot water bottle so far. He hates getting lots of tat at Christmas and the pressure of opening up gifts even if it's things he's asked for. I'll probably buy him a Switch game or similar.

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That sounds incredibly rubbish for Christmas. I wouldn't want hand me downs and I certainly wouldn't give them to others. Also board games are absolutely tedious.

I agree board games cause fighting in this house. But it’s a satsuma not tangerine in this house.

“Choosing the game is a bit of a social thing as we make lists and bargain for ages before the decision is made”

It does sound pretty miserable 🙁

I agree with so little spent on other gifts why can’t they agree on a few games to buy? Maybe all choose a new film and for several nights have a game and film night. It’s hardly overconsumption but one game and one present. Fair enough if money is tight but I reckon if this was the case and they asked around friends and neighbours they would be happy to lend out board games if this is there tradition.

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Perfect response!
You tell them!

Some people take such joy in using their keyboards to bring others down with their holier than thou BS!

Who actually cares how enlightened or educated somebody believes they are when they clearly take joy in putting others down!

When you call them out on their nastiness they say ‘But it’s a forum for giving opinions - am I not entitled to mine?’
As of that somehow makes it ok!!

Their ignorance and prejudice is not as well hidden as they would like to believe!