Festive icks

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'With all the trimmings'

I couldn't even type that without my teeth itching.

I'm sure they'll be plenty more...

Yes! I was asked if I was 'all set for Christmas' and because I didn't know what it meant said 'no'. I got a very pitying look but at least the conversation ended there.

Is tree-down-on-Boxing-Day an English phenomenon or a UK-wide thing? Or is it actually quite rare and only seen on Mumsnet?

This thread should not be re-named 'Festive full on rage'

I e never heard of this. Doesn’t mean people don’t do it ,of course.
I am very snooty about people who think Christmas Eve is the night before Christmas Day. Christmas Eve is the WHOLE day!

There is no right or wrong when it comes to bereavement and grief. Everyone is affected differently depending on how life has treated them. Be kind. Think of others who may be finding things hard.
There is no time limit on grieving. You do not have to be over it by a certain number of years.

I hate novelty christmas songs…im looking at you lad baby, giving money to charity great but the bloody sausage rolls need to go.

i hate ‘the boy done good’ posts too, so cringe

bastarding elf on the shelf posts on fb every day, people just trying too hard to make it look like they are ‘perfect parents’

pictures again on fb of the tree with a mountain of presents, fair enough if thats what you do but the world doesnt need to see on fb. I just dont like how christmas time brings out the competitive parenting posts. I miss a 90s christmas before social media etc

It's weird if they do and certainly not traditional. They've too much time on their hands. They should be on the floor building Lego, dolls house, etc and chilling

I'm not sure why, but men putting 'Christmas markets' as one of their interests on dating profiles.

Quite a few people do actually. Try being kind.

Firstly, it's pretty clear from any title this is going to be a thread full of grumbles so maybe don't read it if you're not in that mood.

I love Christmas generally, the thing that irritates me more and more is the consumerism, social media has definitely ramped it up.

I put it in the same category as people who are constantly redecorating to fit in with the latest trend, you see people advertising almost brand new sofas because they're changing colour schemes, to me on a reasonable high salary , that's a major purchase that should last many years, I'm on my second suite in 25 years in this house.

At Christmas it's the pressure people feel to provide huge piles of presents, excessive amounts of food, a new theme on the Christmas tree, again you'll see Christmas trees advertised that were only bought the year before. Matching pyjamas you can only use for one year because kids grow.

More often than not this is people who really can't afford it and are either working extra hours, going without other things or getting into debt unnecessarily.

Also gifting, gifted and cosy.
And hot chocolate stations and drinks trolleys.

It’s the ‘excessive mention’ not the sadness which is annoying. Grieve quietly. Don’t bawl publicly. Except the recently bereaved who can do what they want because they are shocked and extremely unhappy.

Tinsel 🤢

We do Christmas eve boxes though instead of stockings. When I was younger we always got to open 1 present on Christmas eve so this is my version of that.

It doesn't give me an ick, because I don't do it. But I really don't understand why people watch the same film every Christmas. Love Actually, for instance. It seems to be a Christmas tradition for some to watch it every year. I mean... surely after the first run through you know what's going to happen??

These aren't icks these are downright nasty complaints. Berating people for grieving for loved ones at this time of year. Despicable.

Wow, Scrooge central.

People that post SM photos of mounds of presents under the tree with ‘He’s been!’.

Absolute wankers.

Is tree-down-on-Boxing-Day an English phenomenon or a UK-wide thing? Or is it actually quite rare and only seen on Mumsnet?

Mumsnetters require something to moan about 24 hours of every day. So once they've got rid of their unwelcome Christmas guests they have to start moaning about the tree and "decs" (that's decorations in English). Once they've gone, they'll start moaning about the daylight hours getting longer.

Do you lot complaining about this really not understand the difference between grieving and excessive (which was the word used), performative mawkishness?

Playing devils advocate but certain people some who don’t see their family member v often,or much at all, or try to help them, or even take them out once in a while and I mean parents who have been kind and loving, but who are ignored most of the time, these people become overcome with grief at Christmas when they are gone. One post is all I’m so upset missing x wish they were here so much, bad day etc etc then next post is Christmas cocktails yay!

The problem is, we all think we are the arbiters of it and any other line is wrongly placed.

Thanks for that. I had no idea.

So relieved to see Buble loathing on here. I cannot stand him, he sets my sleaze alarm off. And hate his cheesy music. Also hate “our little family” (smug), Christmas Eve boxes (greed personified) and generally anything done for showing off or social media. Just quietly enjoy Christmas and holidays and get on with it.

All of this plus ' the more the merrier' when you know that there will then be one person ( the woman ) who then runs around doing extra beds, getting extra food ( when you can absolutely feckin guarantee that extra person has issues of some sort) , buying a present so that person won't be sitting there not opening something when everyone else is whilst everyone else says " oh we are a completely open house, it's nooo trouble at all.

Everytime a radio person mentions Buble my husband shouts "It's feckin bubble ' from wherever he is in the house. It's a very triggering thing for him 😂

My icks:

1. ’Picky bits’ (gives me irrational rage)
2. Presents that are quantity rather than quality
3. Mums wearing matching outfits with their dd
4. Rules for opening presents and a relatively strict routine for the day (I don’t understand why these people can’t just relax)
5. People who think they’re better than everyone else because they don’t buy presents for adults. I love choosing presents for my DP, parents and adult siblings.

DH tried that 'the more, the merrier' nonsense and invited the family of BIL (who doesn't like me) for Boxing Day lunch.
He can get stuffed. I am leaving him to it, and spending the day with my own family.