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[OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow]

I’ve 4 grown kids. They are all here for Christmas. Ds1 is going home today. I can’t wait. (Of all of them hardest to get on with, hates his brother-it’s mutual. He’s a lazy git.) I’ll be able to relax when he’s gone.
I am also looking forward to dh being in work tomorrow so me and Dd can sprawl on sofa watching shite.
I also hate Christmas cooking.

@Sweetpea1532 I don’t have a baby? She could sit and chat to her DS (son).
You sound lovely though and very helpful. I hope you are appreciated.
My MIL will help with cooking I know but I don’t want her with me for those 5/10 mins that’s the point just leave me to put the cheese out or empty the dishwasher.

Your making it very easy for me to leave as your still going on about the kitchen and in a bad move also still on cigars I’m done .

@ilovebagpuss
Why , THANK you!
How about, " oh MIL, I'm so glad you're here...your DS was just about to fold a tonne of laundry and he definitely could use your help" 😂

Ok, I'll stop with my big ideas now..especially since I just realised I've detailed the thread. OP was allowing PP to vent...not giving me an opportunity to share my great ideas. I'm sorry everyone
for you, Bagpuss.

Disclaimer cancer warning.
Well your back on the weed you wouldn’t have brought the grinder if it wasn’t going to be a regular thing well carry on because I’m out of here I’m just waiting now. for the time I’ll know is here I’ve a bit of saving to do first my tiny lump sum your not having you’ll have bits but by the time I leave it will be gone on my future. Yes future looks better without you moaning grumpy you can get on with it I hope to god it’s an infection you’ve got because I can leave if it’s cancer then god help me.

Your now thinking 0f getting rid of 0ur cleaner who has done brilliant work just because he was ill Christmas Eve couldn’t finish a few doors in the kitchen, due to chest infection hasn’t been able to come up, he’s been doing other jobs booked weeks in advance. I give up he’ll be here Friday but no you’ve got to ruin a good thing we’ll you’ll have shock when I’ve gone all my stuff to get rid off good luck with That. Another caper thing you’ve broke so it back to cigars beer

At least you’ve seen sence our cleaner will still be around your smoking fags now as well as vaping I simply don’t care your wasting your next pip on music crap well you’ll pay for it I certainly won’t.

Oh yes you’re definitely back on the weed you’ll have a shock next pip day I’m taking it out of it to pay for this weeks that’s 40 you owe the general housekeeping.

SIL, I know you are size 30, Diabetic and can't move around easily, but eating no vegetables and 5 packets of crisps a day really won't help.

Second lot of cigars today by god you’ve a shock coming to you I’m taking the money you spend on weed etc and saving it in the fund for when I leave unknown to you you’re saving for your future alone because I’m done another sleepless night.

Covid has turned you into a right hypocritical arse. It's quite hard to take you seriously when on one hand you're ready to 'close the schools and offices to stop the spread as we're letting our children down', and on the other you're going to sports matches and the theatre every weekend, but that's OK as you're in a VIP area. Are you worried about catching Covid or "catching" poor? You've been a good friend but I never thought you'd be such a horrible snob.

At last my plan are coming to fruition I’ll be leaving as soon as and no your not to contact me especially if it in April when the quick divorce law comes in I’ve had up to here you want more studio crap time you can’t even wait for your pip well it’s coming out of that if the dates are right no way is my pension paying for this crap nor your weed fags etc.

You are an utter disgrace to the vulnerable children and YA who rely on you to advocate for them. And yes, I will fill in the evaluation. And I will be honest.

I have made my peace with this, just this week.

We won't meet again. Sad but true. If I keep chasing things up, and get a date in the diary, it will probably happen.

But I'm tired. Tired of all that. A text message, that's all it takes. But unless I send it, nothing will happen.

It's a pity. We had a great friendship. But such is life.

I won't contact you again as I know I wasn't the one in the wrong. Yet, despite that, because I asserted myself and refused to accept your rudeness without comment, you are ghosting me. I have accepted that now and with regret, will move on.

I have a very full family and social life. You do not. I wanted us to remain friends because I can see a time in the future (when your only elderly relative dies) when you will need help and support.

I wanted to be there for you, but I could not let you get away with such blatant rudeness in the guise of giving your honest opinion on something that meant a great deal to me and my family.

You have very few friends because of your 'honesty' and no extended family members that speak to you.

I will not contact you again.

You are doing my head in its suspicious behaviour al the time towards our cleaner this is wrong that’s wrong. I’m sick 0f you moaning me being interrogated I’ve told you stuff Valentine’s I’m not in the mood. I simply don’t care any more. You can carry on moaning all you like.

I asked you about a show I was planning to attend. 'I will pass on that ...' Riiiight. No worries. If you had said it a bit more nicely, I would be taking up your hints now about days out and shows. Nope. I will happily go my own way.

And same goes for you love. Nope, no further invitations.

Actually, you sicken me, the lot of you.

My heart is just shattered (warning to those who have loved ones with cancer) so a shadow is on left lung, my heart sinks it means I’m stuck with you, my life will be hell your grumpy at the best of times there is no future you can’t have treatment due to your meds so I’ll be at your neck and call, I was hoping to leave no chance now. I’m sorry if it is cancer I saw my dad with it. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 I suppose your all thinking I’m the most wicked woman on the planet now.

A - in the 12 months I have known you, you have changed my life more than you could ever imagine. You have given me hope, instilled a strength inside me that I never dreamt I would have. You have taught me a new approach to life. You see me for who I am and who I could be. You smile with me, laugh with me and make me a better person.
I could never tell you this in “real life”, but you have impacted my life and me profoundly.
Thank you.

@Holothane if you hate him that much, you really should just leave him, cancer or no.

If it’s cancer I couldn’t leave but hopefully it will all be infections. I don’t hate him but don’t love him as a husband anymore. This has been brewing for years last year did it for me I inewc,y future was not with him.

It’s taken me two years to think through what I need and pluck up the courage to reach out for answers. Just for once it would be good if it weren’t only about everyone else. I need to know. You’re the only one who can tell me without hurting anyone and you have just said no. You will only talk to me about it if the person most likely to be hurt by the conversation is present. My big girl pants are wearing very thin. I don’t know how much longer they can last.

@Holothane if it’s too late in your heart it needs to be too late in your head.

It is too late but the cancer thing is hanging over me I’m praying it’s a load of infections.

Dear Q,
Recently I found out something that is going to have a major effect on your life. Meanwhile you have no idea about this.
The truth is that you have walked over people in order to get what you want. You rushed into doing one thing with out any thought of what long term effects it would have on several people.
When you should have talked about things and shown support you sat back and refused to acknowledge the issue. Now this situation is serious and it only a matter of time before this comes to ahead.
You have lost friends due to your behaviour and lack of trust. You have used social media, what's app and FB private messages to find people and then sent some people horrible messages.
You tried hard to end long term friendships of others because you thought they were threat to your plans.
Yet after all you have done you expect that in time your plans will come to fruition.

I know your plans won't happen. I had a conversation with a person we mutually know. This person told me about their long term plans. I have to be honest they have not thought about you at all.
When they told me what they had planned I was delighted to hear what they said.
I realized the impact that this would have on you and by then it will be to late to change things in your favour.

Well you’ve treated me like shit the last month our cleaner turned finished the kitchen bathroom goes in in May, I’ll be gone by then if you think a box of chocolates is going to make up this last month you can think again in my head I’m already gone.