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I’ve 4 grown kids. They are all here for Christmas. Ds1 is going home today. I can’t wait. (Of all of them hardest to get on with, hates his brother-it’s mutual. He’s a lazy git.) I’ll be able to relax when he’s gone.
I am also looking forward to dh being in work tomorrow so me and Dd can sprawl on sofa watching shite.
I also hate Christmas cooking.

[quote MothralovesGojira]@Middleagedspreadisreal

Thanks for that. I regularly suffer EA from my partner and having a child with medical and MH issues has made me grit my teeth and put up with it until I could A) get a job & B) save money to move on. My partner will be you in a few years wondering why he's on his own at Christmas because he EA's DD too and all she's learned from me is how to walk on egg shells and bite her lip. Perhaps you would like to explain why you have to spend Christmas on your own because your comments have actually upset me.[/quote]
Having been in the same situation as your daughter, the best thing you could do for her is to LTB, let her choose if she still wants contact afterwards, but don’t force her if she doesn’t want to. I’m nearly 40 and my mum only left (and divorced him) a few years ago. Wish she had left him when I was a young girl, wouldn’t have needed so much therapy. I am no contact with my dad and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. Not trying to put pressure on you, I absolutely know how hard it is, my mum was terrified he’d try and kill her if she left as he had tried previously, but the sooner you leave, the sooner you and your daughter can start recovering and enjoy a better life, Hope that gives you some perspective ❤️❤️❤️

I just want to sit in silence until 2022 - or maybe 2023 actually

I hear you @bortles

I am so bored. For complicated reasons, there are four of us squeezed into a 2 bedroom house. All adults. This will not change for the foreseeable future. Ds sleeps on a daybed in the living room. Which is fine, I can cope with that. Just. But at the moment he is working from home too. Which means either dh and I are banished to the kitchen (which is not a nice place to spend 8 hours straight) or, as now, we are all sharing the small living room. We can't go out as dh has covid. We're all cooped up together and it's not healthy or pleasant. We can't make too much noise, and the living room is small so with three tall adults in here none of us can move. I can't even disappear for a bath because we have a wet room with shower and no bath.

This is nothing compared to most on here, but it's gripping my shit at the moment.

At in laws Stop shouting "no, that's a no" at my 1 year old because you think hes now old enough to not baby proof your house in any shape way or form.
Hes fucking 1 if you leave shit around he will pick it up.
Ahh that was a good rant thank you

@Bortles

We cleared all the surfaces for Christmas. They are now full of nonsense again. On the bookshelf next to me, there is now, calpol, a bottle, a packet of crisps, cards, roomspray, a mug of tea, a hairbrush, makeup, cellotape and facewipes. It doesn't seem to matter how many times all these things get put back where they belong. It's like digging out a hole in the sand where the sand just keeps slipping back in down the sides. I need everyone to go away for a week so I can just get on top of it all.

Welcome to my world too...

I have about 10 hairbrushes, I can never find one to use, I leave it by the hairdryer and don’t move it. It’s never there the next day as someone has moved it somewhere.

I tidied every room before Christmas and the house looked quite good. Now I wish I hadn’t bothered as there’s mess and clutter everywhere and I’m back to work tomorrow.

This will sound so trivial but not being able to open the jar of pickled is not my fucking fault and as a disabled woman whom is small and not very strong no it is not fuxking surprising i cant get into them and not funny. Either actually open the buggars or piss off but stop tempting me with them arreggghhh

Oh god I’m being punished h has got to go for a scan he’s got a golf ball size lump in his one testicle (prayed it’s an infection which will go down with antibiotics) trouble is it’s hard as a rock doesn’t feel hot my life will be hell no chemo he’s says if it’s cancer.

You are bright, beautiful and brilliant. Please ditch the dead weight. You'll be happier and I won't be in a perpetual state of anxiety wondering if the next knock on the door will be the police with the news I don't want to hear......

And to person who bought me covid for Xmas, you're a cunt 😡

BIL and wife are lazy and inconsiderate, you live a 10 minute drive away and don’t need to move in with your parents for the Christmas break just to sit on your arses and be fed for 4 days. Grow up.

andysgirl22 not sure if you're able to try this, but you can slide the tip of a knife between the lid and jar rim to help open it.

Mine is insanely trivial, but dear mother and DS- stop bloody disappearing on me when we're in a shop as you're driving me insane. It's like herding deaf cats!

andysgirl22 - run the lid under the hot tap. Makes the metal expand and come loose more easily :)

@Belleoverandover please leave him.

Hi DH. when I said more than once I didn't want to swap the bedrooms around on my last day of booked holiday before returning to work, I did actually mean it. Having a miscarriage, receiving a family pregnancy announcement the same day and then straight into hosting Christmas and premade plans of visiting family, I was quite clear with you my last day of holiday I wanted to be selfish and not have to think or do anything.

So thanks for waking me up to tell me you need me to move the rest of my stuff out otherwise our child can't go to bed because you've done the room move anyway, and denying all knowledge of me saying please don't.

I have no idea what EA or MH means.
We're alone on xmas day because our now grown-up children want to do their own thing. Mine stay at home & don't want to take their children away from their toys, or have visitors. My husband has sons and they always go to their in-laws, because the girls refuse to miss out on seeing their mums on xmas day. Have I asked them to us? Yes. Have I asked if they'd perhaps take it in turns, a year on their own, a year with us? Yes. But as I get told, they'd prefer to do what they want, not feel obligated to invite/come to us just because we're on our own. Do I mind? Yes. But have to deal with it, even though it makes me sad and get upset when hear/see other people having 'family' christmasses. I can't help that, it's how I feel. I'm sorry you were upset with my comment, if you're suffering from something that makes you so sensitive, I suggest you get help.

EA - emotional abuse
MH - mental health

Would Boxing Day at yours be an acceptable compromise, @Middleagedspreadisreal?

My daughters father visited her(his only child) and threw the bag containing her xmas presents to her saying a copy of his and his new wifes wills are in the bag as well as he is 76 now and will probably die soon..............Talk about have a merry christmas.

Yes DFiL, your son did cook that glorious dinner all by himself. No I did not help him, as contrary to what you and DBiL think, he is an adult, an almost 50 year old adult. Guess what?? he can use the washing machine all by himself as well. Had you not spent his entire (until he met me), life treating him as a precious little thing due him being the youngest and born very premature, you would have realised long before now what a capable person he is. Now please stop treating him like an idiot and start treating him as an equal.

To the married man who declares he's in love with me and always has been (20yrs plus), that he hates how badly I've been treated in the past, that his marriage is miserable and he sleeps on an air bed downstairs.... I DON'T BELIEVE YOU. You're so stereotypical it's fucking hilarious. I feel sorry for your long suffering wife and two daughters. You list your wife's faults at length but you're no prize buddy, and I don't want you, so stop gatecrashing my life with your self pity and being an utterly selfish bastard. Ugh.

@Middleagedspreadisreal

I have no idea what EA or MH means. We're alone on xmas day because our now grown-up children want to do their own thing. Mine stay at home & don't want to take their children away from their toys, or have visitors. My husband has sons and they always go to their in-laws, because the girls refuse to miss out on seeing their mums on xmas day. Have I asked them to us? Yes. Have I asked if they'd perhaps take it in turns, a year on their own, a year with us? Yes. But as I get told, they'd prefer to do what they want, not feel obligated to invite/come to us just because we're on our own. Do I mind? Yes. But have to deal with it, even though it makes me sad and get upset when hear/see other people having 'family' christmasses. I can't help that, it's how I feel. I'm sorry you were upset with my comment, if you're suffering from something that makes you so sensitive, I suggest you get help.

Why don’t you invite them to you on another day? That way you get a family get-together but they also get to do their own thing on Xmas day?

BIL the halloumi was more the vegetarians but you went ahead and filed your plate with nearly all of it plus you had the meat.

Filled

@Sportycustard well done to your very clever son, he is lucky to have you as parents.

And well done to you for standing your ground with the in-laws.

@Middleagedspreadisreal that’s rubbish. They need to share it out better.