OK, OH earns 125k, his secretary probably earns 35ish, how much should he spend on her Christmas present?

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Just that really.
Hev namechanged cos don't want you to all think I'm minted!

Bumperlicious, big mortgage doesn't necessarily = big house. Our mortgage is over £200k (and we have a lot of equity) and it's a tiny two-bed Victorian semi with a downstairs bathroom. Depends where you live.

Hmm Ponsettia or wine, Ponsettia or wine? Yes i'm right there with you Jan!

myjobismum, sorry you feel like crying. really didn't want to appear insensitive. I am very jealous of you being married to a [swoon] chef!!!

Yes, yes, ledodgy!

If only they'd asked me...

we're in a two bed (and a babies room)first and second floor flat/maisonette without garden access down some stair and downstairs neighbours who hate us

When I was a PA I would just have appreciated the thought. I have had generous and not so generous bosses and really I didn't give a thought to their salaries compared to gift given. I had tickets to Phantom of the Opera, a watch, perfume, large bouquet of roses and from others diddly squat. I preferred a good pay rise really

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we give £100 each to our 4 employees

Not surprised at the 125 figure - i know the stress and hours come with a salary like that - but 35 for a secretary?

That's very good.

Are you sure she is not more of a PA?

do you really think cash is OK though cod? Not in the least bit thoughtless?
I bloody LOVE scented candles, nice ones mind

Yeah - Cod is probably right - some money or shopping vouchers(if he can't bear to just hadn over a wad) probably would go down best.

oh myjob

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True lyra, it's all relative. I think that's why threads like this get a bit sensitive, not because someone earns 125k, I accept that some people earn much more than I do (5 times as much!) but it's adding "but I'm not minted!" that I think upsets people.

It's great that some of your husbands/you make such a lot of money, but just be honest and say, "yep, it's a lot of money, he/I work bloody hard for it, but it's a fuck load of money"

Eric DH is a lawyer and they don't have PAs, they are all called secretaries, and can earn a fair whack in the City, especially the more senior ones.

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yes, . Good food though. I haven't had a meal cooked for me for AGES!!!

tbh when we first had a christmas as employers i said ' ok - they are really great for us - what would they really want'

cash is the best gift i think - they choose what they want

Agree with cod; scented candles are naff present.

yes, sorry, have apologised. t'was insensitive and stupid
agree with flowers, they just fuck me off, just create a problem re finding a suitable vessel.

ok so bath and body stuff, £32, plus £30 cashola?

£50 more appropriate, have dh's voice in my ear

DH a lawyer here too (and he does do the hours - a quiet week is 50 hours and can go up to 100 hours, doesn't see dd apart from weekends and then is often working from home so he does get financially compensated but it comes with a different sort of [price).

I don't think you can give cash. Vouchers a good idea - we have given theatre vouchers before.