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If you say 'Im not sending cards'

145 replies

Forestdweller11 · 22/12/2021 10:21

Do you actually not send any at all? I've decided not to send cards this year, but some family appear a bit upset at my decision.

So those who don't send cards do you actually send a few out to family etc?

Immediately family are close by so I could hand deliver, bit I feel it sort of defeats the object.

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User2638483 · 22/12/2021 10:22

I reciprocate a few where I feel guilty if I don’t and know the person appreciates cards. But I kind of hope they stop sending them to me

LizziesTwin · 22/12/2021 10:24

Send to your mum & any other relations who would be hurt. Don’t bother with friends as they’ll be used to no cards. It isn’t worth upsetting your mum/granny over.

SickAndTiredAgain · 22/12/2021 10:25

No, I don’t send cards at all.

But we also don’t get cards.

NavigatingAdolescence · 22/12/2021 10:25

Don’t send any at all.

Itsnearlyxmas · 22/12/2021 10:26

I stopped sending 2 years ago

AnxiousWeirdo · 22/12/2021 10:28

I don't do cards, I realised a few years ago that I am SO rubbish at remembering cards for any occasion that I just don't bother at all now. DD made some special ones at school this year so we've sent those out to relatives but other than that no, I don't send any.

marplemead · 22/12/2021 10:29

We tend to not send any cards at all every other year. I don't think anyone has noticed, especially as those no-card years have coincided with life events like having a baby.

MintJulia · 22/12/2021 10:33

I send cards because I enjoy sending cards, and because I think a house that didn't receive any at all could feel a little lonely.

If the recipient doesn't want it, they can stick it in the recycling. And I don't get upset if people don't send on in return.

After a horrible isolating year, i's a very small and harmless gesture.

zafferana · 22/12/2021 10:33

I ruthlessly cull my card list every year and remove anyone who hasn't sent me one and I'm down to 22 now, all relatives. Many are grandparent age, then there are a few school/uni friends that I only correspond with via a Christmas card, so it would be a shame to completely lose touch, which would otherwise happen.

PeaceLilian · 22/12/2021 10:34

I send one to my mum because she really appreciates it. I have always been a bit slack about cards ( I mean well but I'm forgetful!)
I'm actually quite relieved that so many people don't do them now. It means nobody gets offended. I do contact people though: by text, WhatsApp or phone call, depending.
In answer to your question, I haven't said I'm not sending cards. I just quietly haven't sent them.
We have an emergency packet, and DH sends a handful out I think.

TooWicked · 22/12/2021 10:36

Cards are very important to DH nan and grandad, and FIL, and my parents, so we do send them one.

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/12/2021 10:38

I heard someone say they were doing cards this year. Weirdly, in Card Factory Grin

Canigooutyet · 22/12/2021 10:39

I stopped a lo g time ago unless I put cash/voucher in them.
Everyone is aware. At first a few people got the hump, told them nothing stopping writing themselves one from me. Not like they didn't already do that along with a gift from me. Stopped getting them gifts as well, no point when they were doing it on my behalf in case they didn't like what I got them.

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/12/2021 10:41

Weren’t!

WouldIBeATwat · 22/12/2021 10:42

@zafferana

I ruthlessly cull my card list every year and remove anyone who hasn't sent me one and I'm down to 22 now, all relatives. Many are grandparent age, then there are a few school/uni friends that I only correspond with via a Christmas card, so it would be a shame to completely lose touch, which would otherwise happen.
I’m not sure it’s really friendship if the only contact is a card for a made up festival once a year……?!
PeaceONoeuf · 22/12/2021 10:43

I put the charity we’ve donated to on Facebook with our standard message. Anyone who would appreciate a card not on Facebook gets a card - about 8 older relatives and my mum who views them as a sign of our relationship and I don’t care enough to upset her by insisting.

Trixiethewhore · 22/12/2021 10:46

We sent cards to the elderly grandparents but they're all now dead, we only do cards now for the parents and PIL.

Nobody else.

MelonTits · 22/12/2021 10:46

I send a few to elderly relatives who I don’t text, email or live near, who think Christmas cards are the done thing and will display them from late November right up until Jan 6th. Doesn’t add much to the carbon footprint.

FawnFrenchieMum · 22/12/2021 10:48

Nope I literally don’t do cards! MIL gets a bit put out by it but I don’t stop my DH buying her one if he’s bothered!

jellybeanpopper · 22/12/2021 10:49

We got 20+ cards from DDs classmates in reception. I didn't send any back and did feel guilty but it's really such a waste. I did give 5 cards in total to my neighbours who are all elderly 90+

1967buglet · 22/12/2021 10:50

I really to send cards…send out about 50 a year, and whilst writing them, remember old friendships…very pleasant. Up until COVID, I usually got about that many in return. Now, not as much which is understandable, but I still send them to say hello and wish people well.

PanicBuyingSprouts · 22/12/2021 10:50

DH had been I'll and now I am so we're not doing them this year. Will still give them to immediate family and close friends have already been done.

kickupafuss · 22/12/2021 10:53

We've never sent cards to immediate family anyway as we see each other over Christmas. I have some friends who have decided not to send cards this year but I don't know why. Their carbon footprint is huge anyway as they are big consumers and do a lot of long distance flying. I have judged them a bit as I think they're just being lazy (I know I shouldn't judge friends!).

1967buglet · 22/12/2021 10:53

@1967buglet

I really to send cards…send out about 50 a year, and whilst writing them, remember old friendships…very pleasant. Up until COVID, I usually got about that many in return. Now, not as much which is understandable, but I still send them to say hello and wish people well.
I really like to send cards.

My DH thinks it is weird I enjoy it, but I do!

Dumbledoresgirl · 22/12/2021 10:54

A made up festival? Aren't all festivals made up?