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If you say 'Im not sending cards'

145 replies

Forestdweller11 · 22/12/2021 10:21

Do you actually not send any at all? I've decided not to send cards this year, but some family appear a bit upset at my decision.

So those who don't send cards do you actually send a few out to family etc?

Immediately family are close by so I could hand deliver, bit I feel it sort of defeats the object.

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VanGoghsDog · 22/12/2021 13:28

I'm 53 and I've never sent cards. The only odd card I do is include one with a gift if I have to post it as it seems a bit odd not to. If I hand gifts over I don't add a card (the gifts do also have labels on).

I do get a few cards, and I think they act as decorations, so I keep them and put them up the following year, I have three or four from the same person out this year :)

TokyoTen · 22/12/2021 14:14

I don’t send any at all.

Techno56 · 22/12/2021 14:24

No I don't. It's a waste of money and paper and delivery effort for either me or the postman.

I don't send birthday cards either.

We send one thank you card to my son's Great Grandma as there is no other way of saying thanks to her as she doesn't live nearby and doesn't have any tech. Everyone else gets a personal or text thank you.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 22/12/2021 14:25

The only card I have sent is to DD and her DP.

Trixiebell06 · 22/12/2021 14:28

I have to send loads of cards as my oh insists , I actually hate the clutter of them , & the price of postage , they all end up in the recycling bin complete waste of time and money
We should email people Christmas greetings and save paper .

Blossom64265 · 22/12/2021 14:30

Don’t make an announcement about your card habits in the first place. No one needs that. Especially don’t make a proclamation about giving to charity instead. Either send them or don’t. People will either get a card or they won’t.

That etiquette should apply to everyone, but it also frees op to send a few cards out without contradicting herself.

ethelredonagoodday · 22/12/2021 14:32

I send to older people, grandma and grandad etc, so I do send a select few, just not the huge amount of people I would otherwise send to.

MrsMigginsEggNogShoppe · 22/12/2021 14:34

We stopped sending about 3 years ago and make a charity donation instead. It's the one Christmas chore that I used to hate.

NovemberNovemberDarkNights · 22/12/2021 14:35

@WeeFae

I usually send cards but kept it to just parents & siblings this year (I wont see them at Christmas). I wish I'd sent more now though, in case this is my last Christmas (I have 2 cancers at the moment).
Big Hug x. So very sorry to hear about your situation! I very much hope you're here to put the postal service to good use next Christmas!

For this year, if you feel regretful, you could send 'new year' cards or just winter cards/ordinary blank cards, if you want to get in touch with people. Focus on the sentiment, not the Santa!

I hope you enjoy your Christmas - I'll raise a glass to you. X

Chloemol · 22/12/2021 14:43

@RedskyThisNight

Don’t be ridiculous, of course I spend time with family and friends, but lots live away, and I don’t just put to and from, there are personalised messages to them

BasiliskStare · 22/12/2021 14:59

I have sent more cards this year than ever before ( nowhere near 80 ) But some friend's parents I know who & just write what is going on ) friend of my mum who has no other family but good friends with mum , Ds does it to university friends who are now dispersed across the country , a few neighbours who have been kind and nice and a couple of great friends of mine - plus v close family who do not live nearby.

I rather like Christmas cards & call me mean but I do before recycling them cut off the fronts to make gift tags for next year Blush ( My Granny used to do this )

lastqueenofscotland · 22/12/2021 15:04

I don’t send any except one to DPs granny as she loves them, is very poorly and they really are something she looks forward too.

HangingOutWithTheSandman · 22/12/2021 15:08

I’ve sent none. My partner has sent 1 to save his parents having a strop. They probably still will as he used Moonpig. 😬

KatharinaRosalie · 22/12/2021 15:14

0 cards. And honestly it's really weird for me to get hand-deliver cards. As you said, what's the point - might as well just wish them Merry xmas in person.

20 years ago, I could understand sending them to people living far away and that you don't actually see - but there are other options available for this nowadays and a text or other type of message can surely convey the message of goodwill and joy perfectly fine.

starfishofbethlehem · 22/12/2021 15:14

We've never sent cards to immediate family anyway as we see each other over Christmas.

This is my stance too. However it is not popular with MIL

Newgirls · 22/12/2021 15:18

First year I haven’t sent them. I have however emailed or phoned people I haven’t seen. Otherwise I stay in touch all year so not sure what purpose they now serve.

DroopyClematis · 22/12/2021 15:33

I'm inclined to think that cards are a dying tradition and it won't belong before it becomes something quaint that older people do.

Chopping all those trees down to make them seems wrong to me.

Pbbananabagel · 22/12/2021 15:47

I haven’t sent cards this year and I feel guilty but have a baby plus a toddler and no time whatsoever, plus posting them all is getting really expensive! Hoping people will forgive me, I don’t think I’m the only one this year as we’ve not received many either despite sending last year…

Alarmset · 22/12/2021 15:57

Indo one for my mum because it's important to her and a handful of elderly relatives who I'm not in touch with on SM. I've never seen the point of handing someone a card when you can wish them a Merry Christmas to their face.

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Forestdweller11 · 22/12/2021 16:18

Gosh loads of great responses
I think I'll do some for immediate family, that I'll be seeing.

I wasn't going to announce on Facebook. It was just a conversation in passing with a couple of relatives that got me thinking.

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neveradullmoment99 · 22/12/2021 16:31

Haven't sent cards for years and years

CraftyGin · 22/12/2021 16:34

I stopped sending 20 years ago when in full pregnancy tiredness.

The Earth kept spinning on its axis.

Benmac · 22/12/2021 17:11

We tried this a few years ago. DH family very upset. We hadn't realised they relied on our cards to let them know we were fine. We live at opposite end of the the country and Xmas cards really only contact. Had to give in and send them

AuntieMarys · 22/12/2021 17:15

I don't send any at all. Hate them. And luckily the amount I receive diminishes every year. Had about 12 this year.....was 30 last year.
I put them straight in the recycling

tigger1001 · 22/12/2021 17:28

I haven't sent cards for years. I hate them with a passion. Hate writing them and hate receiving them. Just more clutter. But doesn't feel right throwing them straight in the bin.

To these who have said it's lazy - it's not. It's just doing things differently to you. I have always found them a chore and realised people tend to send them out of obligation. In all honesty between work and home life in December cards just add to the stress and life is just too short for that. If you enjoy sending them fine but don't judge others for doing things differently.