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If you say 'Im not sending cards'

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Forestdweller11 · 22/12/2021 10:21

Do you actually not send any at all? I've decided not to send cards this year, but some family appear a bit upset at my decision.

So those who don't send cards do you actually send a few out to family etc?

Immediately family are close by so I could hand deliver, bit I feel it sort of defeats the object.

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grumpypug · 22/12/2021 10:55

I don't send cards and any I receive get put in the drawer as I really dislike them. Many aren't recyclable either. I wish as a minimum they wouldn't include glitter or ribbons to make them slightly better for the environment.

Almostwelsh · 22/12/2021 10:59

Nope. I don't send any at all to anyone. I also don't put an announcement on Facebook about it or give to charity instead. I don't care if other people send them to me or not.

It's just make-work and I don't want to do it.

WouldIBeATwat · 22/12/2021 11:00

@Dumbledoresgirl

A made up festival? Aren't all festivals made up?

Dunno. My celebration is the solstice, which happens twice a year and is an actual thing. Not a story and transitions stolen by one religion from another.

whiteonesugar · 22/12/2021 11:00

DS (6) sends cards and gets about 30-40 cards back from school. We also have his card that he designed from school which go to 'special' people like grandparents but we dont send any others. We donate £20 to charity instead. This year £10 each to two different ones.

Sooverthemill · 22/12/2021 11:01

Some years I've said 'no cards I'm doing a charity donation instead' but always send elderly relatives a card as receiving a card is important to them. And then I add the cost of cards plus amount I'd spend on second class post then round it up and donate to the charity we support

RedskyThisNight · 22/12/2021 11:02

Why would you say something and then do something different?

I don't send cards for environmental reasons and because I don't see the point (I'm either in touch with people so talk to them anyway, or I'm not, in which case sending them a card with a robin on doesn't make us any more in touch).

I don't bother to tell people I'm not doing it though; I just don't.

Lockdowninfinity · 22/12/2021 11:02

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BarryTheKestrel · 22/12/2021 11:04

I send 5 cards a year, mum, mother in law, 2 sets of elderly grandparents and an elderly great aunt. These are the ones who would moan without cards. £10 on funky pigeon and it's done, no writing and they get a new photo of the children. It's become tradition now. Otherwise I HATE cards. I always forget to post them, I hate buying stamps. I do the same for birthdays generally and only buy for those 5.

Billyliarohdear · 22/12/2021 11:05

I send cards to everyone who sends me one.

Lacedwithgrace · 22/12/2021 11:07

I only do cards for people I'm buying presents for + one elderly neighbour who makes old christmas cards into gift tags, sells them and donates the money to charity. Otherwise they're a waste of time

Chloemol · 22/12/2021 11:08

I send cards and I like receiving cards, yes it’s an effort but one I am prepared to make for family and friends, and as I always but charity cards a charity is also supported

Cards can then be recycled ( I make tags for the following year)

My personal opinion of all those who don’t send cards? Lazy

Fairylights25 · 22/12/2021 11:09

I love to send cards too, and stay in touch with people we don't see that often but still care about. We have friends all over the country and all over the world now, so it is a lovely way to keep in touch and then catch up once a year or every two years. It is especially important with covid as we haven't seen so many people that live further away. Friendships and relationships drift without effort.

When people don't send cards back, for me the friendship would be over, and I would assume they no longer can/want to keep in touch and stop sending them which is fine if that is the intention, but then I often get a text saying they haven't heard from us in ages! You can't have it both ways. You either make an effort or you don't. Your call but don't be surprised when you lose old friends and your circle of love shrinks to half the size

ieatpies · 22/12/2021 11:10

I used to send 20+ cards but eek the postage. Now I just give them to neighbours, immediate family and a couple of older relatives. None of my younger friends!

maddy68 · 22/12/2021 11:12

I haven't sent any at all.

Puddstalk · 22/12/2021 11:15

Every year I say “I’m not sending cards” but every year I send them, however, I have slowly cut the numbers - now only send approx 30 - it used to be over 80!

RedskyThisNight · 22/12/2021 11:16

@Chloemol

I send cards and I like receiving cards, yes it’s an effort but one I am prepared to make for family and friends, and as I always but charity cards a charity is also supported

Cards can then be recycled ( I make tags for the following year)

My personal opinion of all those who don’t send cards? Lazy

I choose to spend my time having more personal and meaningful interactions with my family/friends rather than sending them a piece of cardboard saying "to x, from y".

That's actually much less "lazy" than simply sending out cards (that people potentially don't want anyway; I know so many people who simply put them straight in the bin) with no real thought applied.

EveningOverRooftops · 22/12/2021 11:16

Nope. Pre NC with family I never sent them because if I forgot someone or the card got lost in the post it was taken as a declaration of war.

So I stopped. No Xmas cards. No birthday cards. No cards whatsoever. I was fed up of walking in eggshells over a pissing scrap of paper.

Sally872 · 22/12/2021 11:17

I send cards to people who genuinely appreciate them and would possibly feel snubbed if I didn't. Generally parents and aunties. I think I post 5 then 2 for both sets of parents.

Siblings, cousins and friends don't bother as like me they don't really want one.

Vapeyvapevape · 22/12/2021 11:17

I haven’t sent cards for years now and don’t receive any either which is fine , I hate displaying them as it makes the room look messy!

EveningOverRooftops · 22/12/2021 11:20

@ieatpies

I used to send 20+ cards but eek the postage. Now I just give them to neighbours, immediate family and a couple of older relatives. None of my younger friends!

Yes this! The cost of stamps alone puts sending cards for Xmas as a luxury expense and cannot, should not be expected.

squashyhat · 22/12/2021 11:27

I think I'm in the in-between generation who understand that cards are really a bit of a waste of time and money, but on the other hand likes to send and receive them. I find it sad that as older relatives die there are fewer and fewer people to send them to, and our card strings get shorter and shorter as younger relatives don't send them to us

Starcup · 22/12/2021 11:28

I’ve not sent cards for years. It’s a a dying tradition now and I’m quite pleased as it’s such a waste and not great for the environment.

CheshireKitten123 · 22/12/2021 11:30

I always send cards but have cut down a lot.

Some people I know don't send cards but make a donation to a homeless charity instead.

bestdhever · 22/12/2021 11:32

I don't send cards, I'm this day and age I literally don't see the point. Anyone I care about will see me or hear from me regularly anyway. It's such a waste in so many ways imo.

LindaEllen · 22/12/2021 11:35

I send them to the family I spend Christmas Day with - so parents, brother and grandparents. But that's all.

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