How do we deal with this gift?

[PAProblem]

I've NC as this is outing.
Short version: how do I deal with this passive aggressive gift?

Backstory. I'm the family black sheep, my DSiblings have always bullied, encouraged by my DParents.

When DH1 left me he saw DC for two years then DH met another woman and cut contact with DC. DC was devastated & acted out, nothing major, door slamming, being surly, grades slipped, took it out on me, etc.

DC is ok now, finished Uni, got a good job.

When DH2 met my family he was shocked and thought we should minimise contact, which is what I did anyway. *
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Some years ago my siblings and I agreed that we would do presents for the DCs only. I've always been in favour of this, I only have 1 DC & they all have 2 or more, so it's not like this works to my advantage! I was just going along to get along.

We were surprised that DB and SIL had sent presents to me & DH this year. Inside a large box was a homemade hamper each for me & DH.

DH's hamper is quite nice, beer, chocolates, books.

My hamper contains some books about dealing with difficult teens, being a better parent, how to lose weight (!) etc. Also some Poundland style cleaning products.

SIL is very Mrs Hinch. Fair enough, my house has always been clean, I don't go in for those homemade cleaning product storage drawers, but my house is fine.

Normally I don't have anything to do with my siblings apart from sending presents to their DCs.

Should I send a present back? How do I respond to this?

It sounds like an insult to not only you but also your dc. Such a cruel thing to do, she must have thought she was very clever.. Well, she is not. It says more about her than you, but she will never understand that so try and shake it off. You deserve better, and I hope you can break free from your poor family situation and live the life you want. Enough is enough.

Thank them with a great big smile on your face. Then dump it

Don't rise to the bait, collect your inheritance and go NC.

If your relationship with DH is foundering, you might want to consider divorcing him, before you inherit money.

Oh OP that's all so sad 😔
Do whatever makes you feel OK, and helps you deal with it all. It's all too easy for us here to give advice / comment / judge, but really it's your life so you need to do whatever works for you.
Take care of yourself, wishing you a very peaceful and joyous Christmas

Op that is so sad, I just don't get how some families can be so nasty. But your not the first family that I've come across like that.

As much as I joked about the Dog food for the bitch I don't think I'd actually do that, esp given your update.

I think the best thing is a text or card to say thanks - or you'll be made out to be the bad one for not even saying thanks.
If you have a family WhatsApp group do it on there then their can be no denying that you acknowledged the "lovely" gifts.
Treat it as a big game.

You sound very worn down, if you could it might be worth having some counselling sessions. You've been emotionally abused (and it wouldn't surprise me if there are other forms of abuse too) see it for what it is, Abuse.
Hope you have a lovely Christmas and be proud of your boy!