13 yo DD has asked for a bottle of Dior perfume for Christmas.....

[BaconAndAvocado]

.......to which I replied a firm No.

I’ve bought her a bottle of Nina Ricci. A third of the price.

One of my friends however didn’t think there was anything wrong in this.

To me, she’s far too young for something like this.

Like most of her friends, she does wear a bit of make up but obviously nothing high end.

Thoughts?

I don't understand all these threads where parents are saying "child asked for X and it's in budget but I don't think they should have it so I'm getting them Y instead".

Obviously if it's an issue with safety or similar then that makes sense, but a lot of these posts seem to just be parents deciding that the things their child likes are stupid and not worth the money because it's not something they'd choose for themselves.

OP please take back the Nina Ricci or keep it for yourself when you finish your current bottle. Don’t give your daughter her mum’s perfume. It’s weird.

Totally showing my age, impulse spray/ sunflowers/ YSL Paris (first fragrance a valentines boyfriend bought) - was incredibly special developmental times. very as an acknowledgment of growing femininity and maturity. OP do you want a future boyfriend to recognise she is deserving of real parfum.

@BaconAndAvocado which Nina Ricci and Dior perfumes? Are they in the same scent “family”? Does your Dd even know what they smell like? Take her to Boots so she can smell different ones and find out which types of scent notes she likes.

This is the kind of thing my mum used to do, based on some unknown judgement of my choice. She’d then be irritated by my ‘trying to hide my disappointment’ face and I’d feel guilty. Awful.

If you can afford it, buy it.

If you can afford it, buy it.

I used to love Dior perfumes as a teen.

This is the teen equivalent of the parents that refuse to buy their 6 year olds Barbie

This is also the teen equivalent of new parents posting about mothers buying them items that they asked them not to but the mother thinks that the grandchild should want to play with XYZ

Essentially it’s a parent not listening to their child and thinking they should want what they want them to want

Dior do some lovely perfumes. My teens have a couple but they mainly enjoy Versace at the moment. It's great because I never need to buy perfume anymore (I just sneak in and use theirs )

Please don't give your teenage daughter the same perfume that you wear

My Step Mum bought me the perfume I wanted when I was about 13. They still sell it and I absolutely love the smell - it takes me right back to receiving the present, feeling loved and being young! I don’t wear it often but just having the bottle makes me feel. I’ll keep it forever

Think you’re being a bit harsh tbh (providing it is within budget!)

My dds are not allowed make up yet (12 almost 13, and 9) and school doesn't even allow nail polish. But as a family we are big on perfume and dh took them both out to buy their first perfumes on the weekend. They were both allowed to choose a 30ml bottle from a medium range brand. My 12 yr old got Gucci flora and 9 yr old got tiffany.
I thought it was a very lovely memory for them to have with their dad.

Just get her the perfume she wants if you can afford it.

Gosh when I was 13 it was either Body Shop Dewberry or white musk, first proper perfumes were Loulou and Anais Anais! That was back in the 80s though 😂

Just get your DD the perfume she wants, providing you can afford it.

@Inquisitivearchitect What was the perfume?

If it’s a price thing then of course she can’t have what’s not in the budget.
But if it’s about the perfume itself, I think it’s nice to buy the scent someone really likes. Perfume is such a personal thing, it may be that she won’t like the other one.

I realise Dior eau de parfum can be £100+, but a smaller bottle of eau de toilette in the same scent should only be £30.

@Innocenta it was the Exclamation one! They still sell it for a fiver 🤣 but just seeing the bottle makes me feel so happy! I felt amazing when my step mum bought it for me.

@Inquisitivearchitect omg i loved exclamation! Takes me back to my teens and going out to clubs !
Also had bodyshop dewberry and white musk. And the impulse sprays. Then i upgraded to ckone🤣

@Hairwizard I also had Body Shop white musk and then CKin2u

Ah those were the days. Kickers platform school shoes and blue eyeshadow 🤣

Another vote for some perfume parlour knock offs for her stocking.

My favourite on that website is the knock off brut called .....bland

You could have bought her a smaller one, miniature for about £10-£15?

I realise she now wants clothes but it's a shame you automatically said no.

I would have got it, if I could afford it and then I would not have had to buy a load more tat to make the present look more, which I probably would do if I bought a cheap alternative. Better to have one thing you really want than a load of stuff that you don't.

I see she wants clothes now anyway.

@BaconAndAvocado

I'd already bought her the Nina Ricci perfume before she mentioned Dior, as I have it and she likes it.

She came in from school today and has said she's changed her mind about the Dior perfume!
When I asked if it was because I said No, she said that not and that she would like clothes now.

I’d return the Nina Ricci perfume if I were you. I’m sure she doesn’t want to wear the same perfume as her mother.

Don’t buy her fakes of any other perfumes either. That would be a bit embarrassing to receive as a gift. She no longer appears to be interested in perfume anyway.

OP you are setting yourself up for a meltdown with your teen, buying her an unsolicited perfume. As someone else said, Nina Ricci is for the more mature woman. Teen girls are very prescriptive in their likes/dislikes so you run the risk of really hacking her off. Keep a look out for an offer on the one she's after. Sure you'll find one!

It’s Christmas, you buy gifts for people that they wouldn’t buy for themselves…. Like Dior perfume!!!
I think it’s a lovely gift for a young lady, a special gift.
If it was my daughter, I’d explain that it is expensive but if that’s what she really wants then it will be the perfume only, as it’s a special luxury expensive item.

I think she’d see this as extra EXTRA best gift ever!!!

Get her the dior perfume, I was this age when I got my first Chanel….. it was a very special present. And coco Chanel is still my favourite and smell reminds me of Xmas