13 yo DD has asked for a bottle of Dior perfume for Christmas.....

[BaconAndAvocado]

.......to which I replied a firm No.

I’ve bought her a bottle of Nina Ricci. A third of the price.

One of my friends however didn’t think there was anything wrong in this.

To me, she’s far too young for something like this.

Like most of her friends, she does wear a bit of make up but obviously nothing high end.

Thoughts?

[SingItToWinIt]

I don't see perfume as sexist at all.

I have 3 boys who get aftershave...i don't think there's much difference between boy and girl teens in wanting to smell nice is there?

[Duxiejhrhrvjz]

If I asked for Dior perfume and got another random one I would be GUTTED!

If it’s out of your budget I think at her age it’s fair to discuss that with her and let her choose something else!

[claymodels]

To me, she’s far too young for something like this.

Too young for what? It can't be perfume because you have bought her perfume. Do you mean she is too young for Dior perfume? I cant really see much point in buying a cheaper perfume that she doesn't want just to save money - It's likely money down the drain as she isn't going to use a perfume she didn't want. I certainly wouldn't. If you can't afford/don't want to spend on Dior perfume it may have been better just to tell her she couldn't have e it and let her choose something else.

[Comedycook]

I wouldn’t buy it OP.It’s all part of the insidious creep of seeing girls as decorative/pleasing objects OP

I have ds 13 who wears aftershave...loads of boys that age seem to, so I'm not sure it's a feminist issue. I started to like perfume at that age. I remember getting lancome Tresor one Christmas

[Veuvelily]

Yeah, Dior is definitely 15+

[Comedycook]

@SingItToWinIt

I don't see perfume as sexist at all.

I have 3 boys who get aftershave...i don't think there's much difference between boy and girl teens in wanting to smell nice is there?

Exactly

[KatherineJaneway]

Does she like / wear Nina Ricci?

I don't see the issue of buying her what she wants if you can afford it. I am always amazed by people who think that if someone gives you a perfume you should like it / wear it. To me perfume is personal and I usually give away perfume I am bought that I would not wear. I have a few perfumes I use and love, they last a long time and are worth the investment.

[ThorsLeftNut]

I really wanted a kelly clarkson cd and my mum got my kt tunstall. If I wanted the cheap alternative then that’s what I would ask for her.

Why do you think she’s too young for dior but not Ricci?

[Oftenithinkaboutit]

Christmas is about setting aside what I want to get my children

And what they really want

False economy otherwise. You’ve gone for a cheaper alternative by 2/3s

Her pleasure when opening will have also decreased by 2/3 I suspect.

[EverNapping]

Insidious creep? Perfume wearing predates all of us. It's hardly a new trend!

[fuzzwuss]

I had Miss Dior at around that age. I always thought it was a scent for younger women. Why would Nina Ricci be acceptable and Dior not?

[EverNapping]

@applechips "Insidious creep?" Perfume wearing predates all of us. It's hardly a new trend!

[Scbchl]

Personally feel Christmas is a time when you can buy nice higher end things for them that they want. There's often reductions on it on Debenhams and other beauty retailers.

[statetrooperstacey]

Please whatever you do op don’t buy her a dupe, she’ll be really upset. I don’t know how to quote but the poster up thread who said she wants to be part of the Dior universe is right , also the other poster who mentioned her first bottle of Dune . It’s possibly a big thing for your dd. Take back the Nina ricci , Get her the Dior!!!

[Darkpheonix]

I am trying to imagine sales people at perfume counters trying to insidiously creep Dior perfume into all our Christmases now.

[Megan2018]

Why would you buy a different perfume to the one someone asks for?

I had expensive perfume as a teen - but it meant I got less spent on other things. If you can't afford the item she wants then fine, but to substitute a perfume for a different one is really weird.

[Oftenithinkaboutit]

@applechips

I wouldn’t buy it OP.It’s all part of the insidious creep of seeing girls as decorative/pleasing objects OP, and I think it’s really depressing to see the amount of people buying children and teenagers make up/“beauty” products etc for Christmas. Don’t teach your children to get confidence from wearing make up or perfume, teach them to gain confidence from being their own amazing selves.

But as this is the Christmas topic and not FWR I will keep my rant short.

As you were.

I can imagine the scathing judgment on your face if your teen ever asked for this.

But they wouldn’t, would they

Because teen years, I suspect they know their mother is full of judgement

[Harriet1216]

I really wouldn't buy her something she doesn't want, instead of the thing she does want. The poor girl will see a perfume sized gift all wrapped in Christmas paper and she'll be so excited - until she opens it.

[Lucked]

Which dior did she want and what did you buy her?

I mean Poison Girl is obviously aimed at a younger market. Although I don’t rate the current 2021 reformulation of Miss Dior some of the flankers like Absolutely Blooming would not be inappropriate on a 13 year old, I have let my 8 year old wear mine on special occasions although she is a long way off from getting perfume that isn’t Disney or similar for herself.

[Lovemusic33]

If she likes the smell of Dior then buying her a different perfume is only going to be disappointing? I think 13 is old enough to have perfume for Christmas, I don’t see the issue, though it’s not something my dc would chose.

[BeeDavis]

Too young for perfume… at 13?! Seriously 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Darkpheonix]

Absolutely Blooming would not be inappropriate on a 13 year old

Why?

[covilha]

When I was this age I asked for and received a bottle of Dior perfume. We were not that well off. It was and is the only perfume I have ever worn and, many years later I still absolutely love it. FWIW It was the first time I had asked for something other than felt tip pens and drawing paper. As a general rule I still don’t usually want anything special

[GertietheGherkin]

@applechips

I wouldn’t buy it OP.It’s all part of the insidious creep of seeing girls as decorative/pleasing objects OP, and I think it’s really depressing to see the amount of people buying children and teenagers make up/“beauty” products etc for Christmas. Don’t teach your children to get confidence from wearing make up or perfume, teach them to gain confidence from being their own amazing selves.

But as this is the Christmas topic and not FWR I will keep my rant short.

As you were.

😂😂😂

[ThisIsStartingToBoreMe]

Yeah my mum always used to ask me what I wanted and then buy something else. Usually something cheaper. That went straight in the bin.