Ours is not ruined. It will be different, even to our quieter years at home - but that does not mean ruined at all.
I know a lot of our seasonal events and traditions cannot happen. Even if some things open up, we won't be going to pubs or having work lunches or similar.
Bigger events won't happen, like carol concerts in local churches or seasonal concerts in the concert hall.
We will find some way to do an end of year event for my Cub pack, as there is a group moving up to Scouts in January - but I have no idea how to do that yet with restrictions on numbers.
The Christmas Eve swim at the sailing club may happen because it's outdoors - but likely without the hot showers afterwards, only mulled wine. And it's by no means certain that it will happen.
But we will still decorate the house.
We will still have log fires to relax in front of.
I have, as every year, already stocked up a few books to read (and this year, I may well actually get to read them!!).
I have started to stock up on treats for the family to enjoy - good coffee, nice wine, proper smoked salmon (local to where we grew up but he's now online and offers delivery), the (relatively ordinary but family favourite) biscuits we like, etc.
I have bought my cards and stamps, although I need to get writing.
I have a lot of presents etc organised already, but yet to wrap anything - and they will all need to be posted or couriered to people instead of delivered in person.
We will take some time as a family to remember the good and bad of the year just finishing, and the people no longer with us, as we do every year.
Santa will still come (despite the fact he comes to a teen - she still puts her stocking out every year, and makes him cookies).
Church may not be possible, but we will say a few prayers around the crib instead.
We generally do have a walk on the day and that is still possible.
We will cook a turkey dinner (because we like it) or another nice dinner if we can't get a turkey.
If restrictions allow, we hope to visit extended family over the season. But we will likely only do it in day trips rather than staying over - they are between 90 minutes to 3.5 hours away.
I know the annual family gathering on my side for New Year (in my parent's holiday house near the sea) has been cancelled. There could be up to 14 within our family going (if so many, a few stay in a local hotel), and they also throw a party for their neighbours in that visit. So both are off this year.
Basically, it will not be the same as normal, even the years where we do stay here and only travel after 25th. But it is definitely not ruined - just different. There are lots of things that you can still do that you normally would. We are far better now than we ever were at communicating at a distance - so we will probably have a zoom call rather than phonecalls on the day.
And taking some time to just slow down and enjoy family is important. Many many families (like us) have been at full tilt all year and need a slowdown and destress time, and a chance to make sense of the year.
And many others have been let go or furloughed, so making things simpler would be good to reduce pressure to give big presents and have huge feasts.