I love that kind of day, Crazy. Wash. It. All!
Mrs, from what you've said about your family, I'm surprised it's taken you so long to come to that conclusion. Maybe it's time to employ carers instead? You don't have to do as much as you do, there are other options. You're not doing yourself any good. Employing carers, either in the home or by way of residential care, doesn't mean you don't love your mum. Hell, if that was the case, all of the people in care and nursing homes would be unloved, and they're not (though I accept that some families don't care, that's always been the way).
My gran was very loved, but needed more care and availability of carers nearby, so it was the best thing for her to go into a care home for this reason. I think for your sanity, that time has now come for you too.
Was that care package you sorted only for your dad? I think you need to look objectively at it as ruining your own mental health isn't the price to pay to keep your mum at home. It just isn't.
Seems gloomy here, though forecast dry and cloudy. It's meant to be washing day tomorrow here (kids' bedding on Thursday) but it's forecast wet, so it'll go out either overnight Thurs or Fri am.
I've had birds do that too, Crazy. Scares you witless. The bloody window cleaner did it to me the other week too! 😂