Don't be an April fool, get your Easter eggs in a row and countdown to Christmas Thread 3

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New month coincides with the need for a new thread!

The last one kept us going for over 2 months, so let's see how we do this time!

We've had a letter today with dates for DS's induction at school. And dates for the teachers to visit us. I have 4 weeks to tidy my house...

Where has my scrummy little baby gone?

Oh, that's poignant, Firefly! It feels like forever since we lost DS to full time school, even though it was only in September.

They do transition so well these days. Our school even lets them have a school dinner!

Evening everyone
My DH has just said the immortal words to me 'fancy a chic ice darling?'
What a man amongst men!
Been up Mums for the past 24 hrs , took her to the GP who prescribed 3 weeks supply of antibiotics for her cellulitis. Kill or cure ?
She is already complaining about 'my bowels darling' sorry if too much information
Must catch up with you all brb

Your DH is a champ, Mrs!

And if she's bunged, I recommend Laxido. Works wonders! 😁 💩

Fluffy He's a man in a million
Thanks for the Laxido tip lol
it's the other end of the spectrum she is on about lol, my NDN Wally told me to give Mum 1 x Cocodamol a day to 'stop the squits' lol
I am so tired tonight l will have to go to bed l think.
Have to catch up on the thread tomorrow , see you in the morning m'dears

Ah, so it's too much 💩💩💩💩💩

She needs the BRAT diet: banana, rice, apple and toast. All known bunger-uppers!

Ohh marvelous thank you Fluffy , Mum's brekky is sorted for tomorrow lol

Apple flavoured rice pudding with a side of banana on wholemeal toast? Everyone round to your mum's for breakfast tomorrow then, MrsM? Hope you enjoyed your choc ice!

I'm going to miss DS so much when he starts school. If work agree to change my hours so I can do drop-offs and pick-ups that would mean we get to spend some time together even without our Thursdays. Probably on the allotment - it's between our house and the school!

Firefly DS1 starts nursery in September, he’ll only be doing mornings and only Monday-Thursday but I’m going to miss him so much. God help us when he starts school. Thankfully DS2 is still my scrumming 3 month old baby, and will hopefully stay that way for a very long time.

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Presumably you mean he'll stay a baby, rather than stay screaming wontstop

DH is starting to get broody. DS is at an age where we've forgotten how hard it is to have a small baby, and can look back with rose tinted glasses. I hated being pregnant, though. I haven't forgotten that!

Forecast is overcast but dry today. Good day to get the bedding on the line and make a start on the allotment. First step is clearing broken glass so we can safely let DS explore.

Then I have squash/courgette plants to get in.

BBC weather tells me after tomorrow night, night temperatures won't drop below 7 degrees, so it's thrive or die time for my excess tomato plants too.

Morning!

We're getting a new oven today. I'm quite excited as hopefully my bread will get good oven spring, which has been lacking.

It's lovely outside. The washing is on the line and I'm going to go and water everything.

My tomatoes are going outside too, Firefly! We shall see how that goes. 😁

Morning all.

Weather is to be good here today. Well, dry anyway. Got a couple of loads out on the line this morning. Off now to get dd another new pair of shoes. The last ones lasted a full 3 weeks 🤦🏽‍♀️.

My DS doesn't start school until next year because of the way his birthday falls. I think we start a year earlier than England at 3.

Morning all. Rain forecast here for this afternoon which means all my laundry needs to be done tomorrow but I have an excuse for a lazy day today.

Has anyone seen this? The BBC have commissioned a new adaptation of A Christmas Carol for this Christmas with Guy Pierce as Scrooge.

Firefly I went to see Calendar Girls. It was so good, very very funny, much better than I expected!

What a lovely (and huge) allotment. Are you going to plant any fruit trees?

Woolly Your nativity looks amazing! Mine won't be anything near as good - I always think knitted is better to look at than crochet but I haven't mastered knitting yet 😔

Thanks for all the well wishes for me and my bug / cold. If I wasn't ill before, I am today. We (mum and I) indulged in a few too many cocktails last night and I'm feeling it today. I haven't achieved anything except watching Chicago Fire and having a bath so far!

Firefly Of course😂 but with the way he’s going I think he’ll be screaming for a lot longer the little terror.

My squash and courgettes were only sown recently and haven't germinated yet, so they're some time off going in, Firefly! I have more dwarf beans and peas sown now too, as I had issues with snails eating the former and the latter not germinating reliably, unusually.

I've bought more herbs today as Dobbies has a good discount for 10 days, so got 5 for £7.00.

I've companion planted my marigolds too, so hopefully the aphids will stay away from everything else!

We got the new cover on the second large greenhouse just now. It's coming together.

I'm quite pleased with the garden now, other than I need to mow the lawn. But that's a job for another day.

Evening all. Wow its been a busy few days on the thread. Im nearly at the end of my 3rd day of solo parenting which touch wood has gone surprisingly well.

Alive and fed, Cish, that's all that's required!

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Morning!

It looks like another lovely day is brewing. ☀️

We're off to the local wetlands place when we're all dressed. If the kids can behave themselves!

I need to go to the allotment and finish planting my leeks out and do a touch more weeding at some point. As well as bake with the kids. Not quite sure how it'll all fit in! 😂

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Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the weather. Beautiful morning here. Very cold though. I have just been out to feed the birds. Broke the ice on the bird baths too. Have had the most awful row with my Mum. Basically it is all my own fault for taking pity on her and looking after her night and day since Dad died. To quote her ' it was very kind of you but you have spoilt me' this is in response to my asking her and reminding her, that she had said because my DD1 was so kind to her she was going to leave her a quarter share in the house. As per usual she reneged on her promise and came out with that old chestnut. I was then told that l ' didn't come home for years'. ( My Parents and my Sister called into my house every day , l live in the nearest town to their village and they went to this town everyday) My parents were still well , going on holiday, dancing, shopping , cooking and looking after themselves. I didn't she is right because I was working full time, l had a house to run, 2dds, a husband and l was looking after my mothers elderly friend , who my Mum was supposed to be looking after but as per usual it got lumped on me . In this time my mil died after a very long illness and I was visiting her for 3 hours a day and seeing to her house and cats. I also had to look after my NDN , going in every day to keep him company and do anything he needed. As soon as my parents became ill l gave my job up and looked after them. They have needed more and more care since then. Last night my sister came up to see Mum and her husband rang at 7 to tell her to go back home for the cricket and there l was like a lemon. I was ok until Mum kept falling asleep and waking in the chair and when she was awake l would ask her did she want to go to bed and she would say 'oh l will go when this is finished' . This was at 12.30. l go to bed about 11 at home. Then the row , which transpired after l told her it wasn't fair for me to be there 4 night's a week and 4 days and the others siblings get off Scott free. She made me feel so downtrodden , l have always been treated like this. I was going to leave last night but it was too late to get my DH to fetch me. I told my Mother that l and my DD would be pulling out of looking after her and it would be the last she would see of me. I sat in the dining room and left her alone until she was ready to go to bed at 1. She came in to me and said 'l won't see you in the morning so goodbye'. Funny thing is she managed to get herself to bed last night because I left her get on with it so she had to do it. I honestly feel like washing my hands of them all. I will phone my husband now and see what he wants to do. l have been treated like a servant my whole life. She gave my brother 5 grand to do his kitchen 28 years ago and denied ever doing so until my sil said about it last Sunday and Mum could not deny it then. I paid for my own wedding, everything except the reception which cost £400 37 yrs ago. It was filled with all Mum's friends and family and my sister bought a dress from Laura Ashley that made me look like a bloody second hand Rose. I went to counselling yesterday and it was very revealing to me. Apparently I have been looking for a Mother and Father replacement for all my life. I found my Father replacement in my DH which sounds odd but apparently quite normal lol but my Mother replacement was my darling friend Kathy (my mum's friend that she was supposed to look after , how ironic is that 🙄 ) she died after 4 yrs of me caring for her and l spent most of the hour crying about her, not my Dad or myself missing him. It was very revealing.😪 So wtf do I do now? This post is so long l would scroll through it if l were you 😪
Am just off to ring my Father replacement aka my DH 🤗♥️ . Bless his beautiful ❤️.Of course my name will be mud to everyone. It is always the same. 😪

Have a lovely day with your darling family Fluffy ❤️

Bloody hell, Mrs.

Your family sounds like my friend's. Mother and sister in cahoots (partly because sister kicks off all the time and pandering to her stops this happening and partly because they're actually two peas in a pod) and nothing my friend does is ever good enough. She's constantly told she does bugger all to help, when she does all she can bearing in mind she's a single mum working full time as a midwife.

I've told her that her family are gaslighting narcs and she'll never be able to do anything to appease them or make them see her side.

Your family is very much the same by the sound of it. Poor you.

I really hope the counselling helps you step away and see it from another perspective from the outside. Bless you.

I think stepping away - maybe just for now, maybe permanently - is what YOU need to do for YOU. And I know putting yourself first doesn't come naturally to you, but that's what's needed.

Thank you for replying to me Fluffy. I am so 😘 grateful
I phoned my DH and he said to do what I want to 😪
Must go see what happens 😥 will post LTR 🙄

Very well put Fluffy and I agree. You need to put yourself first MrsMad.

For what it's worth here's my two pence worth. You should channel your sister's mindset and just do what it suits you to do. You are still grieving too.

How do you think your mum would cope if you went back to doing what you used to do without the staying over? You are on the other end of the phone in an emergency. Have you looked into one of those panic button type alarms? An elderly friend has an emergency pendant that she keeps in her pocket during the day and next to her bed at night but the system is also connected through her smoke alarms which I think is brilliant. If you were feeling particularly vindictive you could list your sister as first contact 😈

Oh Mrs I’m sorry you’re going through this❤️. I’ve been in a similar situation myself and I think the best thing is to take yourself away from the situation and put yourself first. If that means you don’t talk to your family for a while then so be it, it will be hard but it will be the best thing for you. Especially when you pair that with counselling because you can then talk about how you’ve been treated and put things into perspective. It’s so horrible when families do this, especially when you’re in your situation because the guilt you feel putting yourself first is horrible. But sometimes it’s what you have to do.