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Excellent presents for women that aren't...

223 replies

WhirlwindHugs · 06/11/2017 20:17

Because @monkeymamma's thread for men is genius.

I'm looking for gifts for women (especially older women) that aren't:
Candles
Chocolate
anti-wrinkle cream
perfume
anything really twee and covered in flowers.

Particularly struggling with my mum this year, she is really into South American art and media. Budget 10-20 pounds.

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tentative3 · 06/11/2017 21:49

Turtle Doves are British and make recycled cashmere wrist warmers.

tentative3 · 06/11/2017 21:49

Turtle Doves are British and make recycled cashmere wrist warmers.

tentative3 · 06/11/2017 21:51

Thanks Whirlwind, I think it's a fab thread. Very useful.

PrivateParkin · 06/11/2017 21:55

Appin Celtic Sheepskin has them, British made also.

newmum28 · 06/11/2017 21:56

Great thread. Some different ideas. I don't understand why anyone would post on this thread if they think present giving to adults is a shit idea....

EatsFartsAndLeaves · 06/11/2017 22:07

I'm going to make a Lego key holder for a female friend, like this www.google.co.uk/search?q=lego+key+holder&client=firefox-b&dcr=0&prmd=ivns&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjFk6G7-qrXAhUBuRoKHa9DBGwQsAQIFw#mhpiv=4

Justchillaxing · 06/11/2017 22:13

Great thread!

I'm in my early fifties and love a really unusual liqueur, posh soap (I like Clinique), very posh chocolates (where you only get 6 for £10!), pretty little handmade bowls from etsy to store rings in, unusual jewellery (love the links above), a bottle of champagne, a really lovely notebook, fountain pen with ink, books of all kinds, a lovely picture in frame, expensive loose tea - maybe from Bluebird, I think you can get a taster selection - with a new teacup, something bright and unusual ...

goodnightfeast · 06/11/2017 22:14

Nigella - are they Turtle Doves wrist-warmers? The owner of that business is a local acquaintance of mine. Those products are really beautiful.

goodnightfeast · 06/11/2017 22:16

I have some exquisite earrings from the British Museum, made by a Latin-American designer. They're based on an Incan motif of a firebird. I wear them almost every day.

SimplyNigella · 06/11/2017 22:22

goodnight I think they were Turtle Dove actually, fab company.

Sebbymeghersta · 06/11/2017 22:24

placemarking

Mountsnowdon · 06/11/2017 22:30

I would appreciate:

Hugh Fearnely Whittingstalls new veg book
Patterns off my extensive list of wanted sewing patterns
Some lovely fabrics or a voucher to spend on them
A chunky wool or cord blanket
Heatholders hat and gloves
Alpaca wool socks
A trip to Harry Potter studios
A trip to Hampton court palace
An Emma bridgewater Henry VIII mug
A reeses selection box
A tin full of lots of different buttons

SunnySomer · 06/11/2017 22:39

I’m nearly 50. Things I would love are: Dr Hauschka Lavender bath stuff, Falke cosy wool socks, really nice pyjamas (eg from Toast), really good quality small stuff. Eg tiny bottle of Cassis, but good quality bottle. Small amount of vvg dark chocolate. Winter by Ali Smith. I really don’t want big cheap things. I’m very happy with a tiny quantity of lovely stuff.

Appin · 06/11/2017 22:48

Thanks all! Added them to the list, and HFW veg book too. Very useful thread!

paranoidpammywhammy2 · 06/11/2017 22:54

For years I've been given very specific lists from my mother and she always asks multiple times what I want - and then buys something completely different that I've never expressed any interest in whatsoever.

Last year her list included CDs, poetry books, garden bulbs and favourite foodie treats. I tend to ask early and then by the time Christmas arrives she has forgotten.

IL0veCl0thes · 06/11/2017 23:10

Sorry if it's already been suggested but I'd love one of those nice coffee cups with a lid for work.

Something funny. Loads on amazon. Tea Rex. Ho ho ho.

Bloodybridget · 06/11/2017 23:18

I have mentioned to DP that I would like a nice mouse mat, I've been using a horrible promotional one for years. But maybe I'm the only person living who still uses one!

whenthestarsturnblue · 06/11/2017 23:28

*"I'm an older woman and I can tell you now that I want NO gifts at all.

The ones I have received are usually chosen with great care but I have never used any of them."*

I don't know what age 'older' woman defines! Wink, but my mam is of the same attitude, she absolutely does not want another present. She has had everything over the years, some wasteful (she would never say though) and some liked, but just doesn't want them anymore, she is absolutely adamant. It's hard not to get a person a gift though, this year I have finally accepted it! She is wholly generous herself, her grandkids get too much! Maybe it's an older person's persepective or maybe some people just don't like receiving gifts, kind of one of them myself, but still of an age where I would be put out if the DH didn't bother a bit... maybe because he doesn't.

AutumnalLeaves38 · 06/11/2017 23:43

Reed1,
"As adults are you not in any way capable of buying all this stuff for yourselves at some point, instead of waiting for some other adult to buy it for you."

"As I said on the similar mens thread. Buying for adults is just ridiculous."

"Being an adult means that Christmas presents are over."

In all cases? I disagree there.

Yes, of course most adults are capable of buying for themselves.
Doesn't mean they're always in a financial position to do so, and therefore not appreciative if somebody generous can afford it instead.

Or maybe severe health problems prevent such.
My M.E.-suffering friend certainly won't be up to shopping/ organising/ joining in with social stuff this year.
But, hey, she's 43, so I needn't bother buying her a gift, need I?

No point whatsoever in a small "thinking of you and know you're here with us in spirit/M.E. was a total bitch to you in 2017, but you're still surviving and a brilliant friend" present..Nope, she's over 18.
Albeit one unable to physically partake in your idea of a meaningful Christmas and so can just remain isolated and unfestive.

Or a particularly stressful/traumatic year has meant the recipient's own needs have gone neglected in favour of other people. And a gift means a huge amount to them when someone has noticed enough to spoil them for a change.

Or they've gone above and beyond supporting the gift-giver, who wants to show genuine appreciation by finding them something special.

Or, much as giver and recipient might love to spend time enjoying each other's company in person, distance doesn't permit, and a well-chosen, thoughtful present helps bridge the gap in the meantime.

And tens of other reasons...

Not everyone is lucky enough to have in their lives, let alone spend the festive period itself with, close-knit and loving family/friends...or young children to focus on.
Pretty insensitive of you to imply (on TWO threads specifically about present-buying Confused) that looking forward to a few given treats to brighten the day makes them "ridiculous" and "childish". And/or more concerned with materialism.

Do agree with you that it becomes pointless when gifts get given/received in begrudging/ungrateful spirit, devoid of any genuine feeling from either side, and cause major hassle all round, though.
(Am not talking about the usual light-hearted grumbling over buying that we're probably all guilty of at times, but the situations when real anger and resentment lead to all sorts. See many MN threads).

TL;DR
This, and the Men's equivalent thread, is proving very helpful to a lot of us. Why come onto an adult present ideas topic, only to insult...er...adults buying presents for other adults?

Excellent presents for women that aren't...
cathyclown · 06/11/2017 23:44

whenthestarsturnblue

It's not that I am ungrateful at all, I am just sick of the tat that builds up every feckin year. I am sorry to say that, because I know all my gifts are chosen with great care and love, but I have everything I need now, and if I REALLY want something I can just run out and buy it for myself, in the colour I want and the style etc.

I just don't get the fact that adult A buys for adult B, then vice versa. It is ridiculous and we are adults, no one is going to be offended if everyone decides to leave it under 18s only. In fact it is quite a relief really, and concentrates the mind on the real meaning of Christmas, to be together, have a good time, cry for those no longer with us, and enjoy a lovely meal.

That's all I want, and if you scratch the surface I would say most people are the same.

Buying for adults who are not your DH/DP/DCs is just mad. And so stressful.

But I am probably alone in saying this. So be it.

I wouldn't worry about DH and presents, although you might feel a bit meh. I hope you don't buy anything for him!

He is probably thinking like I do, well what's the point, I buy you something, you buy me something la di dah.

We just have a week away in the sun in January instead of buying useless tat for each other at Christmas.

I know I come across like a Grinch, far from it.

AutumnalLeaves38 · 06/11/2017 23:47

cathyclown, am confused: are you Reed1?!

BewareOfTheToddler · 06/11/2017 23:53

Things my mum likes:

Theatre vouchers/tickets

Being taken for afternoon tea

Garden/flower show tickets

Books

Photo calendars of the family

Nice scarves

New purse/bag

Nice diary/address book

cathyclown · 06/11/2017 23:53

AutumnalLeaves38

Thank you for your thoughts on this.

If someone buys you a gift, you will feel you have to reciprocate.

As an adult I just feel that is ridiculous. You buy for me, I buy for you. .

My views are valid. Adults buying for Adults when those adults are not your DH/DC/DGC is cringeworthy a lot of the time. We don't know them enough to choose, so resort to socks and scarves! And get them in return. I just cannot see the point myself.

But each to their own.

No offence was intended, it is just my thinking on this matter.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/11/2017 00:02

Cathy what exactly is ridiculous about it? Buying someone a present is about wanting to do something for them, showing them you care and think about them, appreciating them and are willing to give something of your own (time and money, for example) to do something for them because you value them.

That can't be replaced by buying it for yourself.

Do you not enjoy giving people presents? That's just bizarre

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