I have a condition that results in frequent bouts of diarrhoea and vomiting . Often simultaneously.
it can be at times a disaster in not making it to the loo on time- embarrassing mostly when I’m out and about and trying to get on with life and not be tied by a toilet leash to the house.
best thing I’ve found is large sanitary or incontinence pads and nappy sacks. I have them in my bags now. And a change of undies.
go get her some large incontinence pads, and nappy sacks. And maybe even some incontinence bed pads if she’s messing the bed or chairs. Or at least a good layer of old towels under her, and pads, lots of pads aimed more up the back of per pants
in The bathroom put and keep refilled a squeeze nozzle bottle of some sort of warm water which she can squirt her bum with to help clean up like a bidet, and then remove pad and sack and bin.
people saying to clean up in shower 🤢. She needs to clean mostly while on loo so that goes directly into larger diameter waste pipe. Fgs the shower outlet could block up 🤢 only hop into shower once appearing clean. But frankly if it’s frequent having a after every bout is not possible and exhausting.
I often feel completely exhausted after a bout of diarrhoea, hot and cold and shivery. I just want to crawl back into bed agian., and shut my eyes waiting for the next onslaught.
but there’s only me so I have to clean up loo and basin etc - even when ill still. That can be painful and exhausting. I can imagine a 13 year old wants mum to do that and that’s acceptable imho.
i think at 13 she may still be struggling to get to grips with realising when watery diarrhoea is coming- you really don’t get any warning at all once at that stage …so do cut some slack around accidents and prepare as above. Try to get her to realise that an increasing frequency of cramping sensations are likely to be a warning sign she needs to get to the loo urgently.
yes, she does need to clean herself, but I’d expect mum to oversee thst and offer advice and direction to help her. It is maybe first time she’s aware she’s having diarrhea and she needs some guidance and support. Encourage her, reward the right action, but please don’t resent the misses or her “helplessness”. Be upbeat, matter of fact, dont express disgust, just take it as an education opportunity for her in future.
as other people say, it may be Covid as this years bug seems to affect a lot of people with tummy upsets. might be worth a test ?
also do watch what she is eating- even if only for her to be aware if she eats anything solid it’ll result in more diarrhoea within an hour or so. Her tummy needs to rest right now.