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DD has a bruise that isn't going away.

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SaulGood · 10/06/2015 12:03

8yo dd complained a few weeks ago that she had a bruise on her inner thigh. She said she couldn't remember how she did it. It looked very much like a mark made by her little brother pinching her which on occasion, when frustrated, he does. He also tends to aim for her thigh or the tops of her arms. She's also as active as most 8yos and rides her scooter everywhere, occasionally crashing and bruising her legs. I put it down to that.

A week ago she mentioned it was still there and I had a good look and it had faded to a browny colour but I could feel a lump directly underneath it. Around the size of a pea. She said it was sore.

A week later and it's still there, same size, sort of a reddy colour but she says it's more sore than it was. She does admit though that she squeezes it because there's a lump underneath it and it 'feels funny'. I don't know if that's exacerbating things.

I have a terrible health anxiety, particularly where the dc are concerned and I am jumping to the absolute worst conclusions. Because that helps, obviously. Hmm

She's not ill, not tired or not herself. She's perfectly well. She's also had other run of the mill, fell off her scooter or got whacked with a golf club bruises in the last couple of weeks and they've cleared up within a couple of days. It's just this bruise on her thigh.

I've made a GP appointment for after school today as it's preying on my mind but is there a chance this is absolutely nothing and my sky high anxiety and terror is unnecessary? I need to stop googling.

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SaulGood · 08/09/2017 18:57

They did say it was a hotel stay or we could come home and return at 7.30am the next day!

The feeling utterly ill is physical. Sorry! Probably wasn't clear. I have a cold/sinus thing.

We're off to Warwick Castle this weekend to do some glamping. Anybody been?

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InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/09/2017 19:00

Oh sorry. But her post did say i'm not sure I can cope with this level of anxiety any more. I feel utterly ill . That was what made me post.

SaulGood · 08/09/2017 19:05

Not anxiety ill though I am anxious in a contained sense. Sorry. My wording was misleading. The being ill was one in a list of gripes and it's just a back to school cold.

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misdee · 08/09/2017 19:06

Haven't been to Warwick castle. Hope the weather holds. I need to go camping again to just relax a bit but every week has stuff booked in

Frazzled2207 · 08/09/2017 19:26

I agree that a biopsy is the only way to put this thing to bed. And neither team tells you it's worrying which is surely a very positive sign.

Enjoy the glamping and make sure you organise a lovely treat for the two of you after her procedure.

MuddlingThroughLife · 08/09/2017 20:00

Thank you for your kind words everyone.

Saul do they not have parent accommodation for you to stay in? Most hospitals with children's wards and especially oncology wards usually have somewhere to stay if need be. I really hope you finally get some answers x 🎗

NeverTwerkNaked · 08/09/2017 20:10

Oh gosh, what a stress, of course you won't relax until this procedure is over and the results are in.
Also, totally get the worry about driving to a different city!
On the plus side, at least then you can know that it really has been thoroughly checked and hopefully you will get some answers finally

NeverTwerkNaked · 08/09/2017 20:11

The glamping at Warwick castle looks amazing, I thought about it for the summer but then exH decided not to pay his maintenance grr. Please let me know how it goes! Smile

SaulGood · 08/09/2017 20:20

Have you ever actually twerked naked? I wouldn't do it clothed. I am so utterly British, I can only shuffle self consciously.

Warwick is ds's birthday present and I'm looking forward to the all you can eat medieval banquet. I'll let you know how it goes!

Birmingham only mentioned a hotel we'd need to arrange or driving back the next day. I guess she's an outpatient so normal rules don't apply. They said there's a new Premier Inn nearby. DD LOVES a Premier Inn.

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CurryInAHurry · 08/09/2017 20:31

" but did agree it was unlikely to be anything worrying from the indications so far."

So basically, they agree they can't see anything worrying, they are just more investigative about what sort of 'nothing worrying'.

Waiting for rests and procedures and outcomes is incredibly draining. In the end though I suspect an actual conclusion will give you better long term peace of mind.

Enjoy the glamping, you deserve a few days fun.

RebelRogue · 08/09/2017 21:19

By the sounds of it they don't think it's what you fear ,but disagree over what it is(or might be since they're not sure themselves). It's possible they want to know for sure as different diagnoses might mean different treatment / care.

Enjoy glamping , sounds awesome x

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NeverTwerkNaked · 09/09/2017 07:35

saul/showy - no, but I have a bunch of ridiculous children and they like to do this and it is incredibly alarming Grin

IrritableBitchSyndrome · 09/09/2017 07:54

Ah, Saul. So sorry you have yet another wait. You're doing so well. I hope the cold is easing up a bit today? Are you eating and sleeping as well as you can, and looking after yourself? Can you find a bit of time to do something relaxing? Hoping you are nearly at the end of this worrying time, with just a few more days to go until it's all over and you hear the good news you've been waiting for. Does visualising things work for you? Maybe you could try visualising the outcome you really want, as though it's already happened, to help reduce your anxiety to manageable levels? Very best of luck for the 20th/21st. You're doing brilliantly.

minmooch · 09/09/2017 09:02

Another infuriating wait. Those words from Addenbrookes are good though. But you need Birmingham to finally sit the i's and cross the t's.

You will worry until they tell you definitively, it's management of worry until then. Just do what you can xxx

SaulGood · 11/09/2017 16:19

Thank you for all of your lovely replies once again. We had such a good time at Warwick despite the atrocious weather. Glamping was COLD.

I've just spoken to Birmingham to confirm arrangements and they said DD will have to have a general anaesthetic. I am quite surprised. It's a needle biopsy. I assumed it could be done with local. DD is fine with it but gutted that she's been told she'll miss 3 days of school (outpatients on the 20th, biopsy on the 21st, recommended she's off on the 22nd). DH is off on the 20th but working the 21st. I'll have to take DD. I'm dreading the journey tbh. I've never driven on a motorway. Suggest any locals stay off the roads...

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Anatidae · 11/09/2017 16:26

Motorways can be easier than city traffic - honest! any chance you can get an hour or so in the car with someone calm and sympathetic and just practice slip roads and whatnot? Write your route and junctions down on a post it? (Showing my age there I guess ds will have a phone that can direct you perfectly .)

For the anaesthetic I can only think that they will need her to be absolutely still so they can be precise with the image-guided nature of it? If so then full anaesthesia (which includes muscle relaxant) may be easier.

Good luck with it.

Lissette · 11/09/2017 16:30

Saul I'm sorry this is still hanging over you both. I will be thinking of you on 20/21. Hope all goes well and we can't have a celebratory galaxy after.

Lissette · 11/09/2017 16:32

Can have not can't have! Sorry Saul autocorrect.

PurplePillowCase · 11/09/2017 16:37

wrt biopsy & general

local anasthaetics work locally. they are not suitable for deep tissue and certainly not for bones.
plus the instruments look like they belong in an indutrial size catering kitchen. (sorry don't want to scare you, just explain)

good luck!

SaulGood · 11/09/2017 16:40

I think given the size of the lump (1cm diameter) you're probably right. She'll need to be utterly still. There's still a part of me that doesn't understand why they don't just remove it.

The fact that Addenbrookes said that it wasn't remotely interesting/exciting as lumps go is good right? The consultant there seemed confident it wasn't worrying. Consultants are generally qualified to comment yes?

I can do dual carriageways and slip roads. Motorways must be similar. We just don't have them here. And my sat nav is criminally insane. It will send me the wrong way and then go to sleep. I despise the jumped up little wazzock.

Anybody know the best route from Norfolk to Birmingham Orthopaedic Hospital? Just a general plan? Then I have to find a hotel. As DD said earlier when I told her about the GA, "what a jolly palaver" (DD is an 89yo woman apparently).

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PurplePillowCase · 11/09/2017 16:45

smart phone with google maps? and hands free holder

SaulGood · 11/09/2017 16:47

@PurplePillowCase bone?

Do you think they're worried about her bones? I guess it's an orthopaedic hospital. Shit. It never occurred to me that they could be worried about something else entirely. Have they seen something? Do they suspect something? They only ever talk to me about tissue and fat when we speak.

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SaulGood · 11/09/2017 16:49

I feel like I've missed something crucial. I was told Addenbrookes just send scans to Birmingham because they're the real specialists.

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