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DD has a bruise that isn't going away.

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SaulGood · 10/06/2015 12:03

8yo dd complained a few weeks ago that she had a bruise on her inner thigh. She said she couldn't remember how she did it. It looked very much like a mark made by her little brother pinching her which on occasion, when frustrated, he does. He also tends to aim for her thigh or the tops of her arms. She's also as active as most 8yos and rides her scooter everywhere, occasionally crashing and bruising her legs. I put it down to that.

A week ago she mentioned it was still there and I had a good look and it had faded to a browny colour but I could feel a lump directly underneath it. Around the size of a pea. She said it was sore.

A week later and it's still there, same size, sort of a reddy colour but she says it's more sore than it was. She does admit though that she squeezes it because there's a lump underneath it and it 'feels funny'. I don't know if that's exacerbating things.

I have a terrible health anxiety, particularly where the dc are concerned and I am jumping to the absolute worst conclusions. Because that helps, obviously. Hmm

She's not ill, not tired or not herself. She's perfectly well. She's also had other run of the mill, fell off her scooter or got whacked with a golf club bruises in the last couple of weeks and they've cleared up within a couple of days. It's just this bruise on her thigh.

I've made a GP appointment for after school today as it's preying on my mind but is there a chance this is absolutely nothing and my sky high anxiety and terror is unnecessary? I need to stop googling.

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MuddlingThroughLife · 04/09/2017 09:13

Hi Saul. Just been reading through. I'm keeping everything crossed that you get good news.

I'm so glad you've had such amazing support on here and I wanted to say that I know what you're going through.

Ds was admitted to hospital NYE with constipation. Three days later he was diagnosed with a brain tumour. Long story short, two days after diagnosis he had surgery. He had six weeks of high dose radiotherapy and has just finished four months of high dose chemo. We are anxiously awaiting an MRI on 6th October to make sure there is no regrowth (high grade tumour so could come back at any time).

Anyway, sorry to ramble on about my ds, but you're definitely not alone Flowers 🎗

LetBartletBeBartlet · 04/09/2017 19:07

I'm really pleased to read the update Showy, and am hoping that the almost definitely not gets ruled as almost certainly not later in the week.

For what it's worth, I think you've been very brave throughout. Anxiety is a right bastard, and you've been amazing. Not to mention how epic your dd is (alongside her taste in music).

Sorry to hear you didn't really get any time in Cambridge, but hope you're getting on well with TWW.

LetBartletBeBartlet · 04/09/2017 19:32

Muddling - sorry to hear about your ds. Sending strength to your family, and hoping for good news following the next scan Flowers

MuddlingThroughLife · 04/09/2017 20:01

Thank you very much LetBartlet x

minmooch · 06/09/2017 19:18

Thinking of you and hope that you get the call tomorrow with definitive good news xx

RebelRogue · 06/09/2017 19:25

Good luck tomorrow

MadisonAvenue · 06/09/2017 19:34

Good luck with the call!

2017SoFarSoGood · 06/09/2017 22:55

was thinking of you today and hoping it is a positive call tomorrow. Flowers

misdee · 07/09/2017 19:54

Hope today was a good news day

ItsNachoCheese · 07/09/2017 21:04

Hope you got some good news Flowers

Fairybella · 08/09/2017 14:37

Hope it was good news

SaulGood · 08/09/2017 16:59

Muddling my love. What a terrifying time. I'll keep everything I have crossed for good news in October. Please do come back if you feel able and do talk here if you need to.

I'm afraid I don't really have any definitive answers still.

I spoke to Addenbrookes as planned and they seemed to think that the MRI with contrast fitted with their picture of what the lump is, backed up their thoughts on the original scans and the presentation of the lump and seemed to make all the right noises about it being reassuring. However, prior to this we'd had an appointment through from Birmingham hospital who had looked at her scans and want her in for a procedure. They don't agree with Addenbrookes. They also don't know what it is.

So we have to go to Birmingham on the 20th for an initial appointment, stay overnight in a hotel and she is on the surgery list for the 21st. It's some sort of ultrasound guided biopsy procedure. I'm awaiting a letter and confirmation as they only let me know today that they definitely want to take things further.

I'm not sure I can cope with this level of anxiety anymore. I feel utterly ill. It's likely that DH can't take time off work so I need to navigate my way to Brum (I live in Norfolk, we don't even have motorways), find money for a hotel, leave DS with grandparents when I know he suffers separation anxiety and I'm at a point where I can't even think straight.

I'm sorry to sound so negative.

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KurriKurri · 08/09/2017 17:36

Oh lovely - that is so stressful, it's great they are being really thorough, but no good for your nerves.
Is it 20th/21st September you go to Birmingham - couple of weeks time yes ? Waiting for these appointments is the absolute pits, I know Sad I really hope you get some answers from the biopsy and can put this all behind you.

Is it Birmingham Children's hospital ? It says on their website the have redcued rate arrangements with nearby hotels - although I can;t get their the follow uplink to work for details. But it might be something you could ask about.

Sending huge love xxx

Also Flowers for MuddlingThrough and hope very much you have good news after your little boy's scan in Oct.

myrtleWilson · 08/09/2017 17:40

oh Saul, am so sorry this is dragging on. I suppose that in the cold light of day you will know that no stone has been left unturned and hopefully Birmingham are being over cautious. I can imagine though the anxiety you must be under in terms of dragging it out and the hassle of getting to Birmingham etc.... Have they said whether they'll give you results/views on the day?

I hope the 20th comes round quickly for you and all this will soon be in the past.

2017SoFarSoGood · 08/09/2017 17:47

oh my, another wait- that is just rotten! However, if you think about it this needed to be put to bed definitively some time ago, so this way you will know for sure when it is done. Horrible to have another wait, and a big trek to get there. So sorry you are going through all of this. Wish we could make the time pass in the blink of an eye. Flowers

RebelRogue · 08/09/2017 17:54

Oh lovely,another wait. Hope it passed quickly though. I wonder how the other hosp got involved. At least you will know for sure with a biopsy and there won't be any doubts . Hope you manage to sort things out. Flowers Fingers and toes crossed.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 08/09/2017 17:56

Oh you poor thing. As 2017 says, at least you will have a infinitive answer after all this.

Please ask for help to organise all the things you have to do, between now and the appointment. Dh, your mum, dad, a friend? You sound so stressed and you need some support. Flowers

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/09/2017 18:07

You need to get some help for your anxiety- you shouldn't be feeling ill with it. If your anxiety was under control this process would be much easier. I am on antidepressants for my anxiety and it has changed my life. I recommend it.

SaulGood · 08/09/2017 18:27

It's the Orthopaedic Hospital. And Addenbrookes send all their scans to Birmingham as standard apparently. They just disagree with the suggested diagnosis. Addenbrookes said to me yesterday - and bear in mind this is paediatric oncology- "we are not remotely excited by anything we have seen and her scans indicate nothing of interest to us and we are not worried". She was LOVELY. Then Birmingham waded in and said they weren't so sure about the suggested diagnosis but did agree it was unlikely to be anything worrying from the indications so far.

You're right all of you of course. At least this is going to lead to a conclusion.

No idea about results. Presumably they have to go to a lab. I do know they mentioned sedation for the procedure which DD doesn't want. She wants to be alert but they said that they always sedate children.

My anxiety is manageable and usually causes nary a problem. It's just that something IS happening and I don't know what.

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Eppia · 08/09/2017 18:31

Okay, another wait - NOT what you need, you poor thing. I know it's easy for me to say, but it really still does sound to me that they want to do the biopsy just to be 100% sure that it's benign, rather than to confirm any underlying suspicion that it's something nasty.

I agree that it's a good idea to speak to your GP re: the anxiety. Anything to make the wait more bearable. You really don't want to start crashing at this point when you've been doing so brilliantly.Flowers

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/09/2017 18:37

But you have been reassured by BOTH the hospitals that they don't think it is suspicious, but you're still ill with worry. That isn't right. You should speak to your GP- you being in such a state can't be good for the rest of the family either.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 08/09/2017 18:48

InSpace I don't think you're helping. Saul hasn't said she's "ill with worry", she said she "can't think straight."

There's a big difference.

misdee · 08/09/2017 18:51

Phone the hospital and enquire about patient accomadation. We are booked into gosh version on Tuesday for an early Wednesday appointment. £10 deposit which we get back

misdee · 08/09/2017 18:54

Inspace I think Saul is dealing with this very well. Waiting for test results and a diagnosis when things are dragging on is enough to make even the most least anxious person worry. When you are waiting for a conclusion so you move forward to the next bit, every little delay makes things harder.

Anatidae · 08/09/2017 18:56

Honestly the best thing they can do is get some tissue out and put it in front of a pathologist and a microscope.
If they are arguing over the imagery someone needs to have a physical look at it. Pathologists are seriously skilled and amazing.

Wishing you benign cells all the way x

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