What is the height & weight of your DS('s)

[ElaineFromLondon]

I have three boys

A 12 yr old who is 4ft11 and 154lbs
A 9 yr old who is 4ft3 and 79lb
And a 3yr old who is 34 inches tall and 55lbs*

I'm looking for some perspective on their heights/weights so I know how they compare with other kids.

*I am aware that this is unusually heavy.

4 fish fingers is only a normal size fillet of fish!

Did you weigh your younger kids' chips? A 100g portion isn't so bad. A 200g portion is a lot, though. I can't eat that many. There's also no fruit, veg or salad there.

Your eldest's lunch is massive.

DS 12 : Went to McDonalds with friends, got a Big Mac, Fries, McFlurry and milkshake. Also had a Twix and some Doritos from a newsagent.

Assuming medium/standard portions, according to their website, his McDonalds meal was 1600 calories, on its own.

Add in 250 calories from a double twix and 200 calories for a 40g pack of Doritos (values also available online - I checked on the Sainsburys website) and that's his entire recommended daily calorie intake. It's what my skinny, 4'10 almost 11yo consumes in a day, even with his carb love and sweet tooth, only my DS will have a decent amount of fruit and veg in amongst that.

My DS1 would probably have eaten 4 fish fingers at 9 too, if he were just having fish fingers and chips. Although, I'd probably have served a big pile of veg (or even a pile of baked beans) alongside and served fewer fish fingers to make more of a balanced meal, I think.

If my DS1 (14) were eating in McDonald's with his friends, he'd just buy a meal of some sort (choosing water as the drink) and wouldn't have had a mcflurry or the crisps or chocolate. He'd have moaned about going to McDonald's though as he's not a fan.

Worrying lack of veg though.
How often would eldest eat like that? Mine would eat that but only 3/4 times a year

Your 9 year old had 4 fishfingers? I have 4 fishfingers and I am an overweight adult.

4 fish fingers is a fine portion for a 9yo. Better off keeping 4 fish fingers and cutting down on the accompanying stodge than vie versa, as they're the actual nutritious, filling part of the meal.

The same with the McDonalds meal. The big mac, on its own, would have been fine for a hungry pre-teen. It's a good source of protein and iron. It's everything else that's the problem.

Your children are grossly overweight. You are their parent, they are your responsibility. Why are you skirting around the issue and talking about what licence plate your car is or how your three year old snacks during the day? All the food your 3 year old consumes is down to your say so. All those rolls of fat on your 3 year olds stomach and chin are down to you. What are you going. To do about it? Step up to your responsibilities in raising healthy children, anything less than the wishy washy attitude you've demonstrated in this thread is verging on negligent.

Age 9, 5 foot 1 70lb

You must see that's a shocking amount of food for eldest lunch? Why would he have a mcflurry and a milkshake? Aren't they basically they same. Plus the snacks after

I think the quantity of 3 year olds food is about right, but just unhealthy. He has basically just eaten carbs/ sugar / processed all day so far. No fruit/ veg/ or unprocessed food

In comparison my 3 year old today has eaten:

Breakfast - porridge with blueberries and 1/2 banana.

Lunch - mushroom and broad bean risotto.

Snack ( just had) - pear purée pot and few cubes cheese

Will have dinner around 7pm. Chicken fajitas tonight ( made with peppers/ onion/ tomatoes/ spinach). He will have one small wrap with filling.

The OP is doing a great wind-up job and sucking you all in .

If the OP really does have a 55lb preschool child, I'm pretty sure the GP or HV would happily refer her on to services that can help her to manage her children's weight more effectively.

Well done for listing everything. There does seem to be a lot processed frozen foods, sugar and bad fats in their diet along with lots of refined white wheat carbs.

Could you instead offer them a poached egg on toast toast for breakfast with an apple afterwards. They need protein at breakfast to keep them going. Also include fruit or veg for breakfast if poss

4 fish fingers is one fillet but actually one fillet is an adult size portion. Could you give them less fish fingers and serve them with a small jacket potato, carrots, celery, cucumber sticks? Don't bother with a biscuit after as there's no nutritional value and its a bad habit to get into. Instead give them fruit.

I think you can push it a bit. Offer them healthy food and no alternatives.

Tell your son you are only prepared to pay for a healthy macdonalds meal. No cash otherwise

3 year old is 3.9 stones. Wouldn't the 100th percentile be 3 stone for a 3 year old?

The OP is doing a great wind-up job and sucking you all in .

Next she'll be telling us how the 3yr old has 5 packs of pom bears and 2 froot shoots for dinner?

I think Acheesepuff is right

I agree.

Surely no one could actually consume a milkshake and a McFlurry without vomming.

The OP has posted frequently about her children's weights in the past.

Looking at ops posting history she has consistently posted about her overweight children. Drs have told you they are obese.

What is the point of these threads op, you and your children if they exist clearly have a problem, what are you going to do about it.

I see, this is an attention thing?

Well, it sucked me in...

what can I say

I KNOW parents and kids like this in real life though. So it is not completely "fictional" as I know a few boys like this, who eat like this too.

It happens

I can see you must be struggling OP. What is it you find hard to change?

I actually think it's real, some of the posts in the past have just been practical things like big enough pushchairs. But I also suspect that there is heavy medical/ social services involvement and OP wants to normalise this to herself. The oddest thing is a three year-old not wanting to be active. I don't know any three year-old s who don't want to be active.

My ds1 was a toddler that wasn't active, he spent a lot of time looking at books, building and cosntricting things.

If you have him a ball and tried to have a kick around or play catch he would throw it in a bush. Didn't like climbing frames etc would sit and play in the sand bit of a park. Age 15 he still hates sport bit will walk miles and ride his bike wwith us. Does minimal at pe in school. We just include him in family activities so he has to do some exercise eeven if it is just a really long walk! We had to watch his weight as a young teen, he is now tall and slim bit def has a tendency to overeat and like his dad could end up with a bit of a tummy if not careful. As he has got older he doesn't snack as much actually, I think he used to comfort eat or would eat if bored. He doesn't do that anymore and is aware of his diet. I would say he is and was an unusually sedentary child! The other madthings are the opposite.

Constructing not constricting!

In response to comments about my 12 yr old's lunch yesterday, I certainly wasn't happy about the amount he ate and I think he knew that he'd eaten too much as well. My DH did their dinner last night because I was elsewhere so I don't know what they had for dinner. As for people who don't believe me, I really don't understand what they are getting at and I can see no reason why I would make things like this up about my kids. The reason for this thread was not to see whether my kids are overweight or not (I'm fully aware that they are and I'm working with Doctors to help control the weight of my youngest child) but to see if there was anyone in the same boat as me who could say what they've done and how they are dealing with the issue.

My DH did their dinner last night because I was elsewhere so I don't know what they had for dinner.

Do you not communicate about these things? Did you tell them about the large dinners so he only gave a light evening meal?

Perhaps meal planning would be a good place to start