What is the height & weight of your DS('s)

[ElaineFromLondon]

I have three boys

A 12 yr old who is 4ft11 and 154lbs
A 9 yr old who is 4ft3 and 79lb
And a 3yr old who is 34 inches tall and 55lbs*

I'm looking for some perspective on their heights/weights so I know how they compare with other kids.

*I am aware that this is unusually heavy.

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Blimey purple that seems quite a lot!

Did he have dinner and then an omelette as well?

My 8yo on a typical day will eat

Breakfast
1 1/2 pieces of toast with honey or 1 1/2 weetabix with semi milk.

Lunch
A cheese sandwich, crisps, piece of fruit or cucumber and a yogurt

snack
biscuit or piece of fruit

dinner
jacket potato with tuna and cheese, sml portion of salad
rice pudding

supper
yogurt and glass of milk.

Just worked out her BMI on the NHS calculator and they said she is 58th centile which sounds about right.

Bloody hell, your 12 year old is around the same weight as my husband who is about a foot taller... I would be seriously concerned!

Portion size is a common issue. Children need much smaller portions than adults. I have some overweight children in my family and I'm always amazed at the large portions their parents give them. Have you looked at the portions other kids eat at their age? When your DCs have friends round for dinner do you find that they can't manage the whole portion you give them?

2 slices of toast for a 3 year old, for example, seems like a huge breakfast for such a small tummy. That's what a lot of grown adults eat for breakfast. I'd give them a much smaller amount and maybe a piece of fruit or something.

I'm sure you can just play hard ball and tell them there's no more lifts. They can insist all the like but you are the adult, it's your choice to drive them or not to drive them

For example when DS insisted on a lift at 11am this morning. Just say no and if he wants to meet with friends, he needs to walk. If he refuses to walk, he doesn't get to meet his mates

You've logged their breakfast this morning. What have they had for lunch and snacks? What will your son eat while hanging out with his mates today?

OP also what excersise do you and your DH do?

They just seem very reluctant to stop using the car all the time

Just say NO!

It really isn't hard - I refuse to drive my teen DC all the time.

Coolas - all parents need to say no at times. It's just starting young and disciplining in a calm, caring, fair, non violent manner. If a child learns to tantrum to get their own way, you've built a rod for you're own back.

if you have very dominant and abusive children

Then that is something else you need to sort out. DS2 was prone to violent meltdowns if he didn't get his own way. It didn't mean he got his own way.

I can say what they've had for lunch now

DS 12 : Went to McDonalds with friends, got a Big Mac, Fries, McFlurry and milkshake. Also had a Twix and some Doritos from a newsagent.

DS 9: Fish Fingers (4) and chips. Also had 2 chocolate cookies

DS 3: Fish Fingers (2) and chips. Also had a chocolate cookie.

I think I'll just add- None of my children are ever violent or aggresive about things like this. It isn't an issue.

So why don't you just refuse to drive them?

What are they having for evening meal?

The thing which stands out to me is there is no fruit or veg at all yet?

Just for a comparison today DS (nearly 5) has had/will have -

Breakfast - Porridge
Mid morning - Banana
Lunch - Mac Cheese (small bowl full) with peas
Tea -2 Fish fingers (home made ones) with chips and beans. Followed by a yoghurt (only as he has medicine which needs a yoghurt to take) and a bowl of grapes and blueberries.

Not necessarily the healthiest of days but about the same quantities as he has most days.

DS is 19mo, 27lbs, 2ft7 or 31 inches

Typical days food:

3tbsp cereal and green milk
Fruit snack (banana)
Carb snack (biscuit x 2, or rice cake x 3)
1/3 tin soup, 1/2 slice bread OR sandwich with 1 slice, ham and salad OR a 1 egg omelette
Fruit snack (apple, tomatoes, or grapes)
2 tbsp meat, 2 tbsp potato, 3 tbsp veg/salad
Yogurt

Your 9 year old had 4 fishfingers? I have 4 fishfingers and I am an overweight adult.

How many chips did they have?

How would the 9 year old have reacted to 3 fishfingers, chips in a portion size the same as your palm, and a pile of peas? With no cookie after.

he was meeting them somewhere which was about a 10 minute walk away but he insisted on going in the car.

If he doesn't want to walk, he doesn't get to see his friends. That one's pretty simple.

We're not the least bit sporty, but we do like to spend some of the day moving. DS2 has a 1km walk to school, which is walked most days, in all weathers (unless DH is off work then he might drive him if the weather's awful or we have to be somewhere.) Even if we have nowhere we need to be, in the school holidays, we try to have at least a half hour walk and DS1 might take his scooter out, for a bit of variety (it exercises muscles different to walking, too). I fancied a change, this morning, so took advantage of the most uneventful weather possible to walk to the next village and back.

Blimey, my tiny, skinny 9 year old DD eats four fish fingers, thought that would be a normal portion for an older child

My 14 year old is about 170cm tall (about 5'7, and weighs a little under 50kg (a big under 110lbs). He isn't all that tall, but is a very normal size.

My 5 year old is about 110cm tall (43") and weighs about 18kg (40lbs). He's pretty normally proportioned for his age.

Both children eat a lot at meal times, but don't snack much. DS1 eats more than me (he is bigger than me now and growing fairly rapidly). their food intake today will be:

DS1 - breakfast (bowl of own brand cheerios with normal milk), lunch (school dinner of some description), dinner (bowl of vegetable broth with bread and butter, snack sized chocolatey treat, e.g. Mini Mars bar, for pudding). Just water to drink.

DS2 - breakfast (small bowl own brand cheerios with normal milk), lunch (half a tin of beans with two slices of bread), dinner (small bowl of vegetable broth with bread and butter, snack sized chocolatey treat, e.g. Mini Mars bar, for pudding). Just water to drink.

This might be useful for your youngest OP

www.infantandtoddlerforum.org/c/document_library/get_file?uuid=b6dde326-952d-4a2f-ae77-9b402141125c&groupId=11528