What is the height & weight of your DS('s)

[ElaineFromLondon]

I have three boys

A 12 yr old who is 4ft11 and 154lbs
A 9 yr old who is 4ft3 and 79lb
And a 3yr old who is 34 inches tall and 55lbs*

I'm looking for some perspective on their heights/weights so I know how they compare with other kids.

*I am aware that this is unusually heavy.

None of my boys are really active, DS 9 will very occasionaly play football with a friend but I can't think of anything DS 12 has done that is 'active' same story with DS 3

Yes Rogan is right, you need to keep a diary of everything they eat over a week, portion sizes and all snacks etc then you will be able to see where they extra calories come from.

The elder madthings can eat big portions but we don't snack much, they have an after school snack esp if they are then going to a sporting activity. But they are very active and growing like weeds. Dp is 6ft so they are all likely to be tall. We had an issue with ds1 when he was 10-13? He was getting a bit tubby, you could see it on his face and around his waist. He has always been more sedentary than his siblings so we watched portion size and limited sugary snacks etc and made sure he exercised more ie family walks or bike rides after school and at weekends. He has since shot up and now at 15 is 5ft 10/11 and slim.

How do they get around? Are they at least walking to and from school

Really not being funny, but did you not in the last 12 years think that your children should be moving more?

Here are the NHS guild lines for under 5s. Also can find for 5-18 year old via same site. They basically say an under 5 should be active for at least 3 hrs every day. That includes walking/ climbing/ running/ games outdoors/ skipping etc etc. Maybe take a look and see where yours compare

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/fitness/Pages/physical-activity-guidelines-for-children.aspx

Ok I think you need to try and change that, what do you all like to do? Family walks or bike rides or swimming? Mine don't like football really but do like martial arts, also fencing was an activity ds3 wants to try. Trampolining. Our school does a multi skills club where they get to try out lots of diff things. Do you have a local leinsure centre that offers classes/clubs?

As I Saud ds1 has always been more sedentary, hates sport but walking, cycling etc are all good.

Elainfrom london- I measured him last week for trousers and he is 148cm. That seems to convert to around 4ft 10inch on google I think (though am willingto be corrected)

He will be 10 next month though. He is the tallest in his class.

Your 3yo is pretty much twice the weight of my 2yo but they're the same height.

My 2yo is just under the 50th centile line for both height and weight. 24.9kg (55lb) is waaaaaaaaaaaay above the 99.6th centile line in his red book - it's 2kg heavier than a 99.6th centile 4yo. 86cm tall is 0.4th centile for a 3yo so you have a huge discrepancy there.

154lb/69.4kg was actually my booking in weight as a slightly overweight 5'5" adult. It's 99.6th for a 12yo, again according to my ds's red book. 4'11"/150cm is 50th centile, so another big discrepancy between the lines.

It sounds like ds is stirring from his nap but I can look up for your 9yo later if you like.

Artandco- I really want my DS(12) to start getting the tube and walking to school, i'm sick of driving him there. If i'm honest I think my boys should probably either walk or use public transport sometimes. They just seem very reluctant to stop using the car all the time. For Example, at about 11 this morning my 12 year old was going to go and see some of his friends for the day, he was meeting them somewhere which was about a 10 minute walk away but he insisted on going in the car.

He insisted? Sorry but you are the parent. You need to start making them walk. You say tube so I assume London which can make it trickier allowing them to walk alone etc but at high school age it's still normal for them to walk/get the tube alone or with friends?

just wanted to say well done on asking some difficult questions. It sounds like your families diet may need an overhaul. You have to weigh food, at least initially. I thought I was eating a 45g bowl of granola but when I weighed it it was nearly 200g meaning I would have been consuming 1000 calories for breakfast

I'm not exactly sure...
DS nearly 12 is 5ft 1ish and about 7 stone.
DD is nearly 4 and tall she weighs 16kg
Sorry for the jumping between metric and imperial

10+3yo - 4'11" and 6st 11ibs
7+5yo - 4'1" and 4st 11ibs

I think that's what they were the other day from memory, it made the youngest overweight and the eldest bordering on overweight! - they're not remotely but I shall keep my eye on things.

Insisted on going by car? Who has the keys?! Surely he either walks the 10 minutes - which my 2yo has been capable of for about 8 months now, so he's being shamed by someone an entire decade younger than him - or he doesn't go?

I do have sympathies as my eldest would eat crap all day if I allowed him, I think it's sheer good luck he isn't overweight as I veer towards being a bit of a porker myself unless I'm constantly vigilant

Ds1, 6, 120cm 19.9kg
Ds2, 3, 94cm 12.9kg

Well done for tackling this now before they are adults. I second whoever said weighing food portions out, a portion of cereal is way smaller than I thought.

I'd watch drinks too, juices can have more calories than chocolate. I've recently lost over 50lbs and have been shocked at how many calories were actually in food and drink I regularly eat.

My dd 8yo is 4st 9lbs not totally sure on height (she is at a friends house otherwise would get the tape measure out!) but she is tall for her age, I think about 134cm (in 9-10yo clothes)

Over the summer I was a bit concerned that she was getting a bit of a tummy but since being back at school she has slimmed out again.

She still eats her dinner off a small plate and I don't think eats large portions, will normally have pudding most days normally fruit and/or yogurt, has treats at the wend but not so much during the week. However she is active, for example over half term she has been to swimming lessons daily, gone for walks, been to the park, been out on her scooter etc

Op I can see how it is more tricky with the older child to regulate what they eat and how much exercise they do but with the 3yo should be quite easy to control how much they eat and how active they are.

My DS does school sports lessons twice a week and then does four sports sessions a week outside of school, three of them for an hour and one for two hours. He is very active all the time, he also plays football with his friends on the park next to our house.
He's nearly 10 and weighs 30kg and is 4 foot 10.

He walks or he doesn't go. Unfortunatly sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind

Hmm, OP you've got me worried now - my DS is apparently only on the 2nd percentile for weight. Either than or the scales are wrong. He doesn't look at all skinny, he's very muscular (not fat, it's from all the sport he does) though.

I have boys your age.

my 12 yr old is 5 ft 1, and weighs exactly half of yours (34Kg). He is, obviously, a very slim lad (it is my life long ambition to fatten him up a bit, I find that it is not actually easy to "control" one's DC's appetites or weight. I have been criticised by family for not feeding him properly, but he DOES eat, it just doesn't stick to him), but doc says he is fine. He only does sport twice a week, but walks to school and comes on dog walks with me.

My 9 yr old is bigger boned (yes, bones are bigger, just chunkier) and is 4ft10 and weighs 36 kg.

If you worry about your kids being a bit big, the key, IMO is in exercise/sport. My "chunky" (I guess only chunky in comparison to his bro!) DS eats masses (same as me + snacks), but also does sport every day.

I have found that if you do sport every day, you can pretty much eat what you like (well, works for us anyway).

Chandon I'd agree with that - as well as the sport mine also walks to school each day. It's only 10 minutes each way but it's another hour a week of exercise which all helps.

My DS turns 4 at the weekend. He's 103cm tall and weighs 15kg (about 34lbs I think).

His diet isn't amazing (he's a veg refusenik) but I try and limit snacks to things like bread sticks, rice cakes and apples. We don't have a car during the week so he walks up to 5 miles a day.

Can you pretend the car has broken down or something? Your son's are lucky to be in London where they don't need to be driven around by their mum all the time!

My 14month old is is 2ft 8inches, 2 stone, he eats shed loads compared to other kids in nursery (aged 18months to 4yrs), but also moves constantly, literally bouncing in his chair during meal times, wandering the garden chasing the dog etc. Dr has no concerns about his weight.

Typical days food (had to do this for nusery on Monday)

150ml whole milk, 5 to 10 dry shreddies
1 weetabix with whole milk
Porridge (approx 3 tbls spoons - cooked), half a slice of bread and butter
Small banana
2 home made sausages (hotdogs size), with 3tbls mash,2 tbls salad
2 Crackers, 3 tbls yogurt (full fat)
3tbls of pasta cooked in full fat milk, 3 tbls peas, 1 tsp of red meat
1 slice of thin bread with butter, 1 sm egg omlette,
third of a tin of baked beans
5 tbls home made rice pudding
150ml whole milk, 2 rice cakes

Measuring food and writing all down for a few days is a real eye opener.

ah, just see you live in the city.

much much harder then, isn't it?

I second rugby, or martial arts. Weight can be an advantage in rugby and judo.

The broken down car idea sounds good, only trouble is that my car is a brand new 64 plate that we only got a week ago, I doubt he'd believe me if I said that it had broken down.

Can you "lend it to a friend" for a couple of days?