Best part of being childfree

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Whats the best part of being childfree.
I chose not to have children knew from an early age i never wanted them.
But i have been ask why not whats so good not having them my reply was whats good with having them.
I like my life i like doing what i like i love my freedom.
I have no intrerest in schools finger painting teen dramas i also like sleep.
I dont have the stomach to be around them when they are eating either.
My sister didnt like my reply.
And told me im missing out on what love really feels like.
I replied with.
I'm really not missing out on anything.
You're the one that had kids in your late 40s and all you want is help.
And now im in the doghouse because i was rude.
My family all know dont ask me to baby sit because it won't happen.

If she does maybe she will be a lot nicer.

For me too. Sounds so dull and suffocating.

I also like my mornings quiet with a coffee.
Not some child rambling on wanting the cartoons on or wanting to play at 6-7am.

Even my cats are better trained than that. They get up when I do.

I also like my mornings quiet with a coffee

And the paper. However as I currently have a 13 week old puppy mornings are chaos 🤣

And for many women it seems to be specifically designed to punish their husbands.

Needs stronger parenting 🤣

See why alot of marriages fail.
The men spend 18 year paying money that never seems to be enough.

Plenty of money to indulge myself when and where I want. I couldn't be happier with my life choices regarding children. Not having or wanting them I mean!

Oh, and another one... I will never be THAT mother in law either. Happy Days!

Needs stronger parenting

I quite agree!

It's like those people who, when you say you're going somewhere on holiday, say "ugh I'd hate to go there" whilst they slowly turn green.

I know. I have noticed that whenever there is a thread about having children, Comedycook is always in there saying how sad and lonely everyone who does not have them will be. It's really upsetting. I actually dread seeing her username. I am childless by circumstance. I don't think I am a terrible person or anything, it's just that my life didn't work out in a way which allowed me to have children. But posts from Comedycook make me feel like I somehow deserve to be sad and lonely.

Please stop mentioning me. I left the thread when asked to yesterday

Wouldn't it be great if there was an "Ignore" button for certain posts and posters?

That way you can choose to block out the trolls and messers etc.

Come on MN, whaddya think?

You have created quite an impression! Your words have really got to me.

If we keep talking about Comedycook she’s going to keep responding. So let’s not.

Agreed. Getting back on topic - My current best thing about being childfree (and dogfree) is I’m eating pizza and it’s really nice and I haven’t got to share it 😂

That was not my intention. Genuinely .

On this thread I haven't once suggested there is anything wrong with being childfree nor have I suggested anyone would be lonely in old age. I only mentioned my surprise when other posters said they didn't even want to form a relationship with children in their family or that they wouldn't attend events In order to avoid children.

You also seem to be focusing on things that I may have said previously but it's generally bad form to mention previous threads as I can't particularly defend any comments you say I have made. If I have mentioned loneliness in the past then that is from my own perspective as I have lost most of my extended family and am an introvert. I do appreciate we are all different.

I really didn't want to come back on this thread...I was asked to leave and I did. However, my name has been brought up several times today.

I won't be posting again on this thread but I wish you well.

I’m crocheting on the sofa & will wander off to join the cat in my bed at some point - it’s been a busy & productive day & I’ve got a 6.30am session booked with my PT.

Currently feeling happy that I don’t have to work around anyone else’s timetable! What sort of pizza?

Your PT session is making me feel bad for eating a whole pizza 😂

No one ever believes me that this is the best pizza until I make it for them but… it’s icelands takeaway stuffed crust cheese feast pizza that’s 2 for £5! It’s amazing!

Don’t feel bad! It was my birthday last week & obviously there was cake & buns & ice cream & wine…

I've hesitated about posting here because my "best part" is a bit of a negative one. My childhood was really horrible, and both my brother and I were so scared of passing any of that on to another generation that we decided that our 'line' would stop with us.

DH and I met when we were still at school so he understood completely - he wasn't bothered about having children anyway, either then or in the 45 years since!

I don't think I could cope with the noise anyway, I like peace and quiet.

The other really good bit for me though is to do with cooking. When our DNs were young, my SIL would spend ages preparing healthy meals (with "hidden veggies") only for them to be rejected, either with a soundtrack of OTT retching or just a simple "mummy, not like" depending on the age of the child. Now, I love cooking, but some nights - such as tonight - I just cannot be arsed, so what am I currently eating? A chocolate orange, washed down with a lovely glass of Malbec. Cheers! 🍷

Edited to add, that makes me sound like a bit of a lush! I'm really not, I seldom drink alcohol but when I do, I don't feel guilty about buying a good bottle or two.

Cheers @CarrieMoonbeams!

Yes it's total bliss tbh. Absolute self direction. Peace in the home. Peace in the heart.

The only reason I could imagine to have kids is this socialised what if fear. And most of the time adult kids seem to turn out to be largely disinterested in their parents. What a misplaced investment (unless you truly want it in your bones - and I think that's relatively rare).