Best part of being childfree

[Mintgum]

Whats the best part of being childfree.
I chose not to have children knew from an early age i never wanted them.
But i have been ask why not whats so good not having them my reply was whats good with having them.
I like my life i like doing what i like i love my freedom.
I have no intrerest in schools finger painting teen dramas i also like sleep.
I dont have the stomach to be around them when they are eating either.
My sister didnt like my reply.
And told me im missing out on what love really feels like.
I replied with.
I'm really not missing out on anything.
You're the one that had kids in your late 40s and all you want is help.
And now im in the doghouse because i was rude.
My family all know dont ask me to baby sit because it won't happen.

No-one is saying don't post, just don't be cunty about it. I wouldn't dream of joining a black mumsnetters thread and telling black women that there was something wrong with them for thinking anything related to being black or what they were posting about being black. That would make me a thoughtless cunt.
I have no idea what your aim here is but you have caused a lot of upset. Well done.

Perhaps go back and read your first few posts. That is exactly what you said.

That would make me a thoughtless cunt

pleasant

It's the respectful bit that has been lacking. Other parents have managed to contribute in a positive way, e.g. a poster early on mentioned that since having children, she misses being able to just grab her coat and go out if she wants to.

Perhaps go back and read your first few posts. That is exactly what you said

ok I just did. That’s clearly a typo. ‘Don’t’ have a child. As if I’d instruct random people that don’t want children to have a child

Because you sound so angry at us for not having children makes me think you have some regret going on.
Do you need to talk about.

I don't think there's anything wrong with not having children...I'm sure it has many benefits. If you look back at my posts I haven't suggested childfree people would be happier with kids or that there's anything wrong with that choice. It's perfectly valid.

What I have challenged, because it has surprised me greatly is childfree people who actively dislike other people's kids...who refuse to even spend time with children in their own family.

Misery loves company

@Missflowerpots i’m afraid this tactic isn’t going to upset me. I’ve not been angry at anybody on this thread. I don’t know any of you. like everyone else I’m just passing some downtime

Do you ‘challenge’ parents on threads where they’ve said stuff like that?

I don't think there's anything wrong with not having children...I'm sure it has many benefits. If you look back at my posts I haven't suggested childfree people would be happier with kids or that there's anything wrong with that choice. It's perfectly valid

same @Comedycook. In fact I’ve explicitly written this twice but to no avail….

Yes why not?

What have they said when you’ve challenged them? How does their explanation differ from that of childfree people?

You do sound upset its not a tactic im just asking.
You come across very angry and trying to pick in way that wont get you barred.
Just sounds like your kinda jealous.

I just find it hilarious that someone that has so much 'joy and amazement" in their life is spending her time on the MN without children board, having a go at us.

If anyone said to me they didn't want to get to know their nieces and nephews because they're children but would be happy to form a relationship once they reached adulthood, I'd think pretty poorly of them...whether they were a parent or not.

Jealousy or regret one of the two.

I don't think she sounds jealous. She's obviously skilled in goading and picking in ways that don't risk deletion though.

If its not jealousy it must be regret then.
Shes making herself look like a right tit.

@ilovesooty I don't understand why they're doing it though. It has nothing to do with them

I did get to know my niece as a child but she quite accurately assessed that I wasn't wildly engaged with her until she was 10.

I don't think she sounds jealous. She's obviously skilled in goading and picking in ways that don't risk deletion though

This isn’t a conspiracy! Sheesh!

Well you’ll have a field day on Mumsnet then. There’s countless posts about kids friends/neighbour kids/relatives/friends kids and step kids and how awful they are/how op wants nothing to do with them/going no because of the kids etc. One thread had to be deleted after a step mum said she would step on her step kids to get to her own kids in a fire (discussed at length on other forums because it was left to stand for a while!) and another deleted for ‘privacy reasons’ with someone discussing a WhatsApp group they were in with her friends where they all slagged of another friends kids for being ugly and weird.

Calm down.
Jealousy wont get you anywhere.

I don't understand it either really but it's not very pleasant to continue when you've been asked to go away.