How often do you see your parents?

[NeonSoda]

If you’re child free, how often do you see your parents? How about speaking to them?

I’m 38 and live a few hours away from both of my parents. I see my mum probably once a year and my dad maybe twice a year. I speak to my mum on the phone maybe once every three-four week and my dad maybe once every two weeks.

My parents moved 200 miles away 4 months ago. They've been down to stay a couple of times. I've not really been up to them as they are currently staying with my sister, so no room for me. But they get their new house soon. Used to see each other probably about once a month. Not sure how often I'll visit them as I work and it's a long way!

They never phone me for a chat, but I phone my dad probably about once a week. My mum sends emails rather than talk on the phone.🙄 We have a family watsapp though and use it a lot.

I only have my Dad as my Mum died many years ago. I live 250 miles away from him. I see him twice a year but speak to him at length every week and message a lot in between calls. I wish I lived closer so I could see him more often but my job requires me to live some distance away.

Well I lived 1500, then 4500km away so...
1x or 2x a year before, now it will probs be more.
We do talk weekly. When I first left we spoke every day. Family whatsapp daily convos and updates

Every week and talk every other day. I live 20 miles away.I used to live a short walk away from them and saw them about 4 times a week.

I'm about 50 miles away from my parents and see them once every couple of months. Talk on WhatsApp several times a week.

I live around the corner from my parents. Something I never thought I’d do! DH and I meet up with them most Sundays in a local cafe for a catchup.

I only have DM, she's about a 4-5 hour drive away. Speak weekly but not seen her since before the pandemic. Even prior to that I only ever visited once or twice a year, and I can count on one hand the amount of times she's visited me in the last 25 years or so. There's a back story to our relationship as I'm sure is obvious from this!

My parents are separated. I see mum every few months and probably speak to her every three weeks or do? I see dad a few times a year and speak to him about once every 6 weeks or so?

My parents are both dead but I lived about 30 minute away, spoke to mam every day, and popped in once a week and usually mer for Sunday lunch a couple of times a month. With Sisters Bil's grandkids or just them.

Never, we’re estranged. It makes being childless harder in a lot of ways - I often feel like an island that’s cut off from everyone else.

I’m about 90 minutes’ drive from my mum. I speak to her most weeks, see her about 3-4 times a year. She’d like it to be more often, but my stepdad is difficult to be around, and I don’t like to encourage her to come here alone any more because her driving isn’t safe.
My dad is about three hours away. We don’t speak much because his hearing is very bad, we tend to email instead. I never visit him because unfortunately I’m allergic to cats and his house is very, very hairy (my own cat is a hypoallergenic breed and I clean more than Dad). He has never visited the last three places I’ve lived in. I’ve invited him plenty of times, but I think in private my stepmother says no and he’s too fond of a quiet life to stand up to her. He’s too frail to make the trip on his own.

Is there a reason you only want to see your mum once a year because I can't imagine doing this!

We aren’t very close and she moved a couple of hours away. She used to live near my Dad but chose to move up North so I couldn’t see them both in the same weekend. after they divorced I lived with my Dad so I’m much closer to him.

I don’t really have the money or time to travel to hers for entire weekends, and she only comes to see me once a year or so (she’s retired).

She often complains I don’t talk to her enough, but as I say to her - the phone goes both ways and I’m always the one that calls. I don’t talk to my aunt for that reason - she never bothered to phone or make the trip to see me.

I'm in London and all of my family are in Scotland not often, maybe 4 times a year. They are quiet lazy with coming to see me.

Luckily my long divorced parents are the best of pals and live near each other so we usually all get together at one house which saves having to split my time between them.

My mother every day, I'm her carer. 🫤

My father, not since my sister's wedding in the 80s. He divorced my mother in the 70s to go off with his latest affair. He died a few years ago, I don't remember when.

Most weeks I see them, or at least see my Mum. I try to pop over and see them both and take my Mum out for a bit at the weekend. It gives my Dad a break and gives her chance to do things he doesn't want to as she struggles to get out and about independently.

It doesn't happen every week but more often than not.

My parents are separated but still live near each other, where I grew up. My sister and I live nearish each other here, about a 4 hour drive from "home". Mum comes to visit us every 6 weeks or so, she helps my sister out with the kids and will meet me for lunch while she is here. Dad will come for a few days once or twice a year. Speak to mum every few days, WhatsApp a lot. Speak to dad about once a week. I don't go home often, it's a horrible drive on a Friday night

I live on the other side of the world to my family so we rarely catch up in person, but we do make a point of FaceTiming regularly. We try to do once a week at least.

My mother, thankfully, is dead. Before she died I only saw her about once a year for 20 years. It always ended in her making jibes about me not having children and how my brother and sister who have children are superior to me. Then she'd ask for a loan because I may be childfree but I am highly paid and she thought I owed her. I'd tell her to fuck off and refused to visit again. Until the next year when is rock up to please my dad.

My dad and I live several hundred miles away from each other but since the old bitch died we have become ever closer than we were before and speak every day. We also have a family WhatsApp with my other childfree sister and we talk crap all day on that. He's not close to my other brother and sister even though they live closer to him and doesn't have time for their incredibly bratty and selfish arsehole children.

In fact he's decided to move in between my sister and I next year - he likes his independence so wouldn't want to live too close to us and leaving Scotland will be a big thing for him (not least because who will he vote for without his beloved SNP on the ballot).

Never, mum is dead and dad didn't want me - haven't ever seen him.

Mum every day at the stables

Dad once or twice a month (but message every few days)

When my mother was alive she was in Australia and I was in the UK. That's a pretty good reason for me not seeing her more than every couple of years.

I speak to my parents everyday on FaceTime and go to see them two or three times a month, they’re about 1.5 hours away. I’ve got great friends but being child free and single my parents are the only family I have left.

My mum's about 20 min drive away. She works nights. I call her once a week usually on a weekend day. I haven't seen her for a couple of months.

My dad moved 400 miles away. Saw him in Jan and seeing him in Oct. Probably see him once or twice a year. Wish he hadn't moved. Talk weekly usually.

We live a four hour drive away (eight hour round trip), so only a couple of times a year, when we stay with them. I phone every night.