How often do you go out?

[Strugglingcareer]

A bit random, but I always wonder what others do. How often do you go out with friends, to classes, out with partner etc on a typical month? For context, I am 30, full-on career, long term partner.

I'm 34 married female and I go out with my friends for dinner/drinks/brunch/coffee maybe every 1-2 months. My and DH never go out together (unless its a dog walk!)

I go out somewhere every weekend currently - sometimes it’s just to the cinema or for a meal with DH, sometimes it’s out with friends and DH in a foursome/group or sometimes it’s just me with a friend(s). So usually one night a week something social/out the house.

Husband and I go for a couple of drinks in our local every Friday when we finish work- it has become our little “start the weekend” ritual. “Out out” together probably about once a month, and out with friends another once a month or so. Used to be a lot more often, but CoL, bigger mortgage than we used to have and spending a lot on home improvements has kiboshed a bit.

We go for lunch once a week and out for dinner just us or with mates maybe 3x per month. We usually go to a dinner party once in a month too.

I see girlfriends every couple of weeks and go the the gym 5x a week.

About once a month on average - more often if I'm on annual leave. Too knackered usually after work to go out and about.

Thanks all. Sometimes I think being child free I should be out more but it’s time consuming and expensive! I try to go out with friends (with or without DP) once a week and the gym 3x a week but more than that is tricky!

I wonder if the perception that childfree people should be going out a lot more often than parents, comes from younger people having more energy; and for those who have children, it coincides with getting older and tireder anyway, so it's this as much as the constraints of childcare.

Shifts depending, DH and I go out once or twice a week, usually for dinner or a beer. Go out with friends once or twice a month.

I’m 50, single. Yoga & Italian classes once a week each, gym 4 mornings a week, out with friends maybe once a fortnight on average.

I'm ridiculously sociable. Out for either lunch, drinks or dinner 7 days in the last 10, which is normal for me.

But I'm old, self employed and luckily have the time and money to do it.

Not technically child free but DS left home 10 years ago

I'm out most evenings - language class, choir, voluntary commitment, drink with a friend, theatre... Not always late though, I'll often be home by 8.30/9.

Really surprised by these answers. I’m 50, junior school age children and I go out three to six times a week!
And I’m a low energy person who needs loads of sleep! And I’m not even an extrovert. I’m just interested in and like a lot of stuff. Life is full of interesting things!

My job is entirely home working now, so that does mean I need to get out and meet people in my free time. But I went out a lot before that too.

I used to go out 5 times a week. I remember feeling virtuous setting that limit 😂. I then moved further out so meeting up is more of a faff, but also home is more of a pleasure. I go out about once a week now.

Hey @Strugglingcareer there are no shoulds - the only thing you need to know is whether or not you’re happy with your level of going out/socialising. I go through months when i can’t be doing with going anywhere and im happy in my little nest. Then I have months where if I don’t go out at least once a week I feel bored.

Do you mean ‘out out’ or just coffee out?

If it’s ’out out’ then almost never. If you mean brunch or coffee and cake then it’s every single day when I’m not at work.

I'm 50 and in a very intense full time job, as is my partner and he's 6 years older than me. We literally have no energy or motivation to do anything when we get home other than pour a glass of red, warm up something from the freezer and flop on the sofa.

It would be the same if we had kids in the house as it's a busy life/job/age thing.

The perception of childfree people having these crazy social lives seems to come from parents who went out a lot in their 20's before they had kids. Well most of us go out more as young adults than we do as middle aged adults.

We are now trying to do something once a week as we both feel stressed out and tired and fed up with our work, so we're exploring NT properties at the weekend at the moment, then going out to dinner at a new place each week. However, once the winter pressures start in our jobs we'll be back to flopping on the sofa after working weekends.

I probably socialise with friends twice a week, I do a choir once a week and see my family maybe once a week/every two weeks.

Maybe once a fortnight, either with friends or DH. I think if I was single I'd go out to classes and the gym. It's so easy just to sit on the sofa especially when the weather is shit.

On the flip side, I have friends round maybe once or twice a month. Does that count as a kind of inverse going out?

Never.

This is really interesting, I think you're onto something there.

For me, I go to a gym class once a week (would like to go more but I just don't cos I cba), meet friends maybe once every 2 weeks (they're busy too so it's hard to find the time), and out with DH maybe once a month? Maybe twice a month if you include brunch etc but once a month out for dinner/drinks usually. He works shifts and I'm Monday-Friday so we only really have one or two weekends a month off together.

I rarely go out at all,

37 childfree male

i've always struggled to make connections with people and the one long term friend I have isn't always the best at staying in contact; Much of my weekends revolve around waking up, having a coffee and then playing video games for the rest of the day.

I suspect i am on the autistic spectrum and I find the noise and business of places like bars and clubs intollerable (and i don't really like alcohol, so why am I going out drinking anyway?)

I find it very hard to make friends so, yeah, i don't really do much at all.

A fitness class once a week
Personal training twice a week
Coffee or drinks with a friend probably every month or so
Craft evening with friends probably once every 2 months
Book group once every 6 weeks
Shopping trip on my own every 3 or 4 months

Me and DP never go out together because we never leave the dog alone.

single mum with ND child, no partner, no family, no friendship group. In just over 6 years I have managed 2 evenings out. no classes, no meet up with friends for dinner, drinks, brunch etc and only had 2 people come to my house for a couple of hours for a playdate with their children and mine and 2 birthday parties for the children.

Its very lonely and definitely affected my mental well being

When I was without children, I went out at least 3x a week for classes and 3 times a week for socialising whether at a local cafe or an evening out.

I have one day a week that's my day out - I go to a morning knitting group, have lunch with some of them at a local cafe, then go to the afternoon group at the same yarn shop. It's my one day away from being my mother's carer. Other than that, I have a once weekly, one hour exercise class at a local rehab centre.