How often do you go out?

[Strugglingcareer]

A bit random, but I always wonder what others do. How often do you go out with friends, to classes, out with partner etc on a typical month? For context, I am 30, full-on career, long term partner.

Literally the opposite of what this board is for.

I knew this was going to happen.

it makes no difference whether someone has never had children

It can make a big difference - 80% of the time my own parents go out is because either I or my sister have organised something. The parents I work with often talk about going out for meals etc. with their adult DC. That's a 'going out' avenue which is closed to the childfree.

Not everyone who is childfree knows they won't be having children though.

This board is primarily for MNers without children - others are welcome to post but please be respectful this is what it says at the top.

That's literally the point of this board. For those that's will never have children, by choice or not.

But what if someone thinks they won't have children and then does?

We've been over this so many times! The point at which they start TTC or decide to continue with an unplanned pregnancy or begin the adoption process is the point at which this board would lose relevance for them.

Ah right. OK thank you. Sorry.

And this is why it'd be better to be taken off Active. "But whyyyyyyyy can't I use it too?"

Sometimes I miss my really sociable 30s when I was out with friends every weekend. 20+ years on me and DP go out for drinks/dinner at least once a week but I rarely see friends. I'm at the gym 4 times a week but I don't count that as going out, I'm only doing it to manage my physical decline. I work full time and after a day of other people I just want silence.

I go out for hobby groups. I don't go out otherwise. I'm not a restaurants/clubs/bars type.

Oh don't be silly. This is a lifestyle question about how often people go out when there are no babysitting duties and only light housework so it makes no difference whether someone has never had children or their children are adults. They are childgree households

It's a lifestyle question on the CHILDFREE board, which if anyone could be arsed to read it is for MNers without children AT ALL. Not the ones whose children are at the GPs for the weekend or are all grown up and living miles away. No-one mentioned babysitting duties ( no idea where the hell you got that from) because what with this being the CHILDFREE board we don't have any.

HTH

I'm taking a break from this. I'm really not in a place where I can deal with this wide eyed faux ingenuousness from some parents about this 'childfree' business and then telling people they don't know what a board is actually about.

Oh dear, if they're in their 50s and their only social life is their grown up children it's a bit sad isn't it?

We have a 'date night' once a week (meal, drinks, cinema, theatre etc). We also hook up with friends about once a week for drinks. We are both members of the same sports club which forms a fairly large component of our social life.

In fairness, it's probably not the only social life for most in their 50s. My parents are in their 80s and dad has partial sight and dementia, so their world has shrunk a lot, particularly since dad had to give up driving about 5 years ago. But in their shoes I'd have no adult DC (or even nieces/nephews since DSIS is CFNBC and DH is an only child) to talk me into going out for a meal and ferry me there and back.

In that case they're doing very well!
As a childless person though you will have hopefully cultivated many friendships so that you won't be in that situation in early old age. By 80+ though anyone's doing well not being in a care home!

Did you also assume they have a gender at all? Maybe they present as a cat and their pronouns are meow and purrr? When someone wants to be identified as their pronoums and dont announce them, what do we do? Human ? no maybe a cat? animal? no maybe offensive.There is always some assumption when no information given to respond to, and the fact that they never used pronouns means we are lead to guessing. If you want specific pronouns use them!
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I try to go out as much as I can i think its so important to have a healthy balanced social life, I try go out and do something with my friends at least once a week

Childfree and I go out for dinner a few times a year, and in spring and summer do my hobby once or twice a month.

That's not much. Is it because of money or are you an introvert?

That's not much. Is it because of money or are you an introvert?

If it's enough times for that poster it's no one else's damned business whether it's 'not much.' Let alone the reasons why she does or doesn't go out enough times for some people's liking.

@Gwenhwyfar I actively don’t enjoy being around people, so it’s not a treat at all for me. Happiest in my house.

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