How often do you go out?

[Strugglingcareer]

A bit random, but I always wonder what others do. How often do you go out with friends, to classes, out with partner etc on a typical month? For context, I am 30, full-on career, long term partner.

I think childfree people are like anyone, some of us are more sociable than others. Some may be more homebodies.

I think there may be an expectation because we don’t have children we are free to go out more but not everyone is that fussed or can finance It anyway!

My going out and about plans change monthly, sometimes I have lots planned other months not so much. I’m 44 love a good gig/show, meal out, catch up etc but I’m definitely a fan of staying home with snacks and film too’

is there a way for you to find out if there are any groups / meetups for other parents of ND kids in your area? Or of kids with additional needs?

Does your local council have family support workers, or do any of the charities working in your area? Our council has a one stop shop telephone line called the family gateway that you can ring and is meant to be able to put you in touch with relevant support.

Twice a week with DP. Friends et al it depends

Usually gym 2-3 times a week, twice with a friend. Average about 2 meals out a week I think but generally one dinner and one drinks/lunch. Then may or may not have people over for dinner (maybe once every 2 to 4 weeks) plus days out at the weekend, going for walks etc.

So fairly often but mainly pretty low key.

@user1483387154 @Donkeyseason just politely pointing out that this is the childfree Mumsnetters forum and your discussion about parent and child groups would fit better on a Parenting board.

Just politely pointing out that my comment talked not just about now but about what i did before I had children (which directly answered the question about how often I went out ) and is therefore valid to be on this public post.. I have not made any comments about groups and meet ups etc

'The perception of childfree people having these crazy social lives seems to come from parents who went out a lot in their 20's before they had kids'

Totally agree. I think some parents think that we're all still living the same lives we had in our 20s or 30s. Life changes and evolves whether you have kids or you don't. And very much agree that there is no 'should' here - we all have different levels of interest in socialising and that's fine

@Possimpible , thank you for pointing that out. I do feel that this board should be for people who don't have children and won't be having children, rather than people who considered themselves 'childfree' before they became parents

Says the women posting on 'mumsnet'

'Says the women posting on 'mumsnet''

Oh do keep up 🙄

'What are you doing on a PARENTING site??' in 5,4,3....

Says the women posting on 'mumsnet

This is a board for people without children. And this thread is for people without children saying how often they go out - not for people with DC to say 'well, before I had children I did yada yada'

Thank you. You're welcome.

Did you just assume their gender?

Did you just assume their gender?

Back.of.the.net.

'Did you just assume their gender?

Back.of.the.net'.

Oh lord, I didn't even notice that my 'gender' had been assumed. I feel properly violated now. Thanks for looking out for me @MadeOfAllWork 😉

DH and I are 52/51 and kids now adult. We go out most weekends either Friday or Saturday night for cinema/ gig/ meal / drinks. This weekend we are in tonight but tomorrow we are going to a black tie charity ball together with about 6 other couples we both know. Mostly just us but once a month with friends separately. DH goes golf once a month and to watch football the other month. I’ll meet a friend for coffee or dog walk a couple of times a month.

DH and I are 52/51 and kids now adult

So not really childfree then; as in 'never having had children, for whatever reason.'

Similar to leaderbee but younger female and especially after lockdown as friends lazy (so I’ve become lazier too really). So never weekly or monthly anymore. Now we just meet up online and very rarely in person due to wfh and a few moving away for work.

@MrsDanversGlidesAgain sorry am I not allowed to comment? I have no children, they are adults who don’t live with me.

I don’t have children, my children are adults?

Yes they’re not children anymore. So we are living alone. Get it?

You do have children, though. Just not at home. This board was specifically set up for people who don't have them at all, i.e if they're women, for whatever reason have never given birth.

Out out to a city centre bar/nightclub? - Never any more unfortunately.

Out with a small group for drinks - usually every weekend, sometimes during the week after work

Quick drink by myself - about once a week

So I go out (but not 'out out') 1 to 3 times a week, maybe a bit more in the summer.

Ok I’ll piss off. This thread came up on Active and as the subject wasn’t about chn but going out I thought I’d join. I don’t look at topic headers but the question. 🙄

Perhaps we should have a re-name ' mumsnetters without children of any age whatever, baby, toddler, teenage or adult, wherever they live.'

Oh don't be silly. This is a lifestyle question about how often people go out when there are no babysitting duties and only light housework so it makes no difference whether someone has never had children or their children are adults. They are childgree households.

Yet another example of why this topic is nonsense. Me, mid 40s, no kids, live alone. My friend, mid 40s, one kid away at uni, lives alone. Funnily enough, we go out a similar amount because we are in similar situations.