Worst comment you've had as a child free woman

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I'll start. Someone I had literally met about fifteen minutes previously. One of her first questions "do you have kids?" Me "no.." her "oh could you just not be bothered with the responsibility?" 😮

Oh! Thanks.

And here we go again - https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/oct/07/kamala-harris-call-her-daddy-podcast-comments

What a horrible piece of work.

Deleted now because "a few things arent adding up here"

Yeah right More like the way parents were denigrating a woman (who wasnt ready for kids yet) for not taking on her 11 month old niece (by marriage) was not a good look. Its not only men who like to outsource womens emotional and financial labour

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/amibeingunreasonable/5181699-to-let-sils-kid-go-into-care?page=10&reply=138836066

Not the worst comment I’ve ever had so slightly off topic but I didn’t realise I/we/this board wasn’t welcome here by other posters until I saw them speaking horribly about, and laughing at, us/it and basically saying we are invading their space and they’d like a space away from us, so I’m going to close my Mumsnet account. But, I just wanted to ask before I do, is there anywhere else I can go to chat to people about a range of topics like Mumsnet has? Most forums seem niche rather than having subforums on many topics.

@Fresherthanfresh why let them win? You're as entitled to be here as they are (confirmed by MNHQ), just stay.

There's always been opposition to the Board, since the thread that went up asking for it. i'm also fairly certain that a small contingent is trying to push a narrative that the existence of the Board has attracted incels and people who hate parents/children, despite there being no evidence for this.

All in all, better to try and stay, if you can. MNHQ has confirmed that we and the Board are welcome, and we're not going anywhere. I just report posters who come here to be goady, and MN is pretty quick in removing their nonsense.

a small contingent is trying to push a narrative that the existence of the Board has attracted incels

I would have thought the Sex board would be more likely to have done that.

I really don’t get the objection to this space. But some people are just weird, I guess.

Exactly. Can you imagine how tedious those people must be in real life, and how few fucks you’d give about what they think about anything?

I think the people who object to this board are the same people who object to a vegan option in a restaurant because they can’t get a meat dish in a vegan restaurant. It’s the same logic.
This is a place for parents on the whole, but there is no reason that non parents can’t enjoy a lot it has to offer, just like a vegan can enjoy being in a restaurant and having one thing on the menu doesn’t effect non vegans in any way. But some people seem to find the very existence of a vegan option to be some personal affront.

Must admit I was a bit triggered by some of the responses on this thread

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5184593-to-think-having-children-isnt-an-accomplishment?page=13&reply=138985098

The point I was struggling to get across is that being able to conceive, carry and bear a child is ultimately beyond one’s control. So being proud of it doesn’t make much sense. It’s obviously a huge blessing, if you want children, to be able to do so. But it’s down to luck, ultimately. Does that make sense?

I’m in my 60s.with children. I’m probably also what’s classed as a second wave feminist, and I always thought that one of the many things we were fighting for way back was the right for women to make their own life choices and have them accepted as such, without criticism. Including who you have sex with, who you choose to live with, what job or role you decide on and that includes whether you have children or not. And to support women in achieving that.
So the fact that women are still being attacked or criticised for something as fundamental as deciding not to have children is both appalling and infuriating.
Life is crammed with so many different possibilities and options, it always has been. So what is the problem so many have with others making a different choice? It seems bizarre that something that has no impact on parents or their children should be so contentious.

There's a thread on AIBU right no about a teacher who shouts because she's young and has no children. The OP goes on to explain that people without children have less patience and compassion than those with children.

Words fail me.

It's particularly amusing because in my experience, it's the opposite and I think most parents fully appreciate that teachers without children are far MORE likely to be patient.

But then, that poster is clearly also "that mum" so.... [shrug]

Reminds me of the poster on here who insisted that parents were more empathetic because in her experience, they were the ones who found themselves unable to work on social work cases involving CSA (the implication being that childless people can stand it because they don't give a fuck about CSA).

I pointed out that her analogy didn't work terribly well as most perpetrators of CSA are parents. Crickets (obviously).

Some people on here are vile.