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Worst comment you've had as a child free woman

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derekdied · 09/07/2023 18:54

I'll start. Someone I had literally met about fifteen minutes previously. One of her first questions "do you have kids?" Me "no.." her "oh could you just not be bothered with the responsibility?" 😮

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Catchasingmewithspiders · 24/12/2023 21:38

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/12/2023 21:36

I’m finished. Manager has been brow beaten into working tomorrow as the two parents rotated on told him they would be calling in due to childcare (which is highly likely a lie as both have partners who don’t work Christmas and family nearby). He did ask if I would please reconsider but I said no and that I was sorry to hear they’d be getting their own way again.

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I've never been prouder or more invested in someone having Christmas off who I have never met!

I think we have interacted on multiple "childfree people should work every Christmas" threads over the years (under multiple user names for me) and I am so pleased you finally have the day off

boworbow · 24/12/2023 22:15

Catchasingmewithspiders · 24/12/2023 21:38

I've never been prouder or more invested in someone having Christmas off who I have never met!

I think we have interacted on multiple "childfree people should work every Christmas" threads over the years (under multiple user names for me) and I am so pleased you finally have the day off

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I agree! I’m so pleased for you @fitzwilliamdarcy and also very proud of you!

JenniferBooth · 24/12/2023 23:03

Brilliant @fitzwilliamdarcy Not surprised manager had the brass neck to ask you if you would reconsider but so glad you have Christmas off Whatever you choose to do have a good one Xmas Smile

JenniferBooth · 24/12/2023 23:11

Im proud of you too. That took a lot of strength

SoRainbowRhythms · 24/12/2023 23:13

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/12/2023 21:36

I’m finished. Manager has been brow beaten into working tomorrow as the two parents rotated on told him they would be calling in due to childcare (which is highly likely a lie as both have partners who don’t work Christmas and family nearby). He did ask if I would please reconsider but I said no and that I was sorry to hear they’d be getting their own way again.

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Excellent news! Merry Christmas!

JenniferBooth · 24/12/2023 23:15

Now the manager is actually having to take the consequences instead of passing it on to someone else he/she might actually do something about it in time for next Christmas

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/12/2023 23:47

Thanks all!

Sharpness19 · 25/12/2023 11:17

fitzwilliamdarcy · 24/12/2023 21:36

I’m finished. Manager has been brow beaten into working tomorrow as the two parents rotated on told him they would be calling in due to childcare (which is highly likely a lie as both have partners who don’t work Christmas and family nearby). He did ask if I would please reconsider but I said no and that I was sorry to hear they’d be getting their own way again.

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Omfg. I hope there is a disciplinary awaiting them in the new year.

KimberleyClark · 25/12/2023 11:40

Just remembered a comment many years ago from a new boss who’d asked me if I had kids - oh, you opted for the quiet life did you?” I hadn’t said anything about why I didn’t have kids!

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 25/12/2023 11:51

KimberleyClark · 25/12/2023 11:40

Just remembered a comment many years ago from a new boss who’d asked me if I had kids - oh, you opted for the quiet life did you?” I hadn’t said anything about why I didn’t have kids!

I'd have asked him 'And what exactly is wrong with a quiet life?' I woke up at 5.30 this morning, thought briefly of all the parents being woken up by hyper kids leaping on them shouting that Santa had been, rolled over and went back to sleep for 3 hours. I know which I prefer, thanks.

LoobyDop · 25/12/2023 12:01

I wouldn’t be offended by that, it’s true. I’d just agree. Tbh I don’t think it’s that helpful to take offence at EVERYTHING people say about your child free status. Ruling it entirely off-limits is a bit unreasonable.

Daleksatemyshed · 25/12/2023 13:35

@fitzwilliamdarcy I hope you're having a wonderful time not being at work! I can't believe your Manager actually asked you to reconsider after working so many years in a row.

KimberleyClark · 25/12/2023 13:44

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 25/12/2023 11:51

I'd have asked him 'And what exactly is wrong with a quiet life?' I woke up at 5.30 this morning, thought briefly of all the parents being woken up by hyper kids leaping on them shouting that Santa had been, rolled over and went back to sleep for 3 hours. I know which I prefer, thanks.

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Female boss, but yes I should have said that.

boworbow · 25/12/2023 17:24

LoobyDop · 25/12/2023 12:01

I wouldn’t be offended by that, it’s true. I’d just agree. Tbh I don’t think it’s that helpful to take offence at EVERYTHING people say about your child free status. Ruling it entirely off-limits is a bit unreasonable.

Some people are childless rather than childfree so they’re not taking offence, but getting genuinely upset by comments such as ‘you’ve chosen the easy life’. Like that poster said the person knew nothing about why she isn’t have kids, there could be some trauma there. If you ask of someone has kids and they say no it’s best to move the conversation on.

Sauerkrautsandwich · 26/12/2023 05:46

Happy to hear that @fitzwilliamdarcy and hope you had lovely Christmas.

Management can deal with lack of respect towards them. They won't though...

daliesque · 26/12/2023 11:10

I wouldn’t be offended by that, it’s true. I’d just agree. Tbh I don’t think it’s that helpful to take offence at EVERYTHING people say about your child free status. Ruling it entirely off-limits is a bit unreasonable

It's not taking offence at everything, it is rightly being pissed off at judgemental snarky comments. Or are parents the only ones allowed to have boundaries?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 26/12/2023 11:37

TBH, I'd be slightly miffed at the idea that a CF life is an 'easy' one. We have money, relationship and work worries to contend with just like parents do - the ony difference is we don't have children in the mix.

LoobyDop · 26/12/2023 12:56

daliesque · 26/12/2023 11:10

I wouldn’t be offended by that, it’s true. I’d just agree. Tbh I don’t think it’s that helpful to take offence at EVERYTHING people say about your child free status. Ruling it entirely off-limits is a bit unreasonable

It's not taking offence at everything, it is rightly being pissed off at judgemental snarky comments. Or are parents the only ones allowed to have boundaries?

I’m not a parent, so why would I think or say that? But after a point, if you look to confirm that the whole world is setting out to twist the knife, you’re only hurting one person.

Catsmere · 26/12/2023 20:06

KimberleyClark · 25/12/2023 11:40

Just remembered a comment many years ago from a new boss who’d asked me if I had kids - oh, you opted for the quiet life did you?” I hadn’t said anything about why I didn’t have kids!

I'd have said something like "Damn right!" in those circumstances.

Aardvarksforall · 08/01/2024 14:04

'Are you sure you're doing it properly?' from a work colleague. Or the genuinely priceless offer to have a night of wild sex with my hubby so that she could carry our baby for us. She was serious and had discussed the implications with her own husband. I think that one takes the prize ...

yesmen · 14/01/2024 13:39

RampantIvy · 10/07/2023 10:29

I hope you don't mind me posting, but I was childfree for over 23 years as an adult due to infertility before DD was born, but was ambivalent about having chidren in the first place, so I totally understand that there are people who don't want children and why. I get just as angry as you all do with brood mares who think that all women want babies and women who don't want them are weird.

I would be very tempted to ask them why they feel that reproducing is the only worthwhile things to do in life, and there is so much more to life than just being an incubator.

You expect respect for your choices yet use the terms "brood mares" and "incubators" for women who have children?

That is pretty extreme dehumanising language.

On a site that is mainly for parents.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/01/2024 13:55
  1. You're on the childfree board; a dedicated board for people who DON'T have children. Don't like what people are saying, please feel free to browse the rest of the site for something more to your liking.
  2. You should read some of the language on this site directed at women who don't have children. That's pretty dehumanising, too.
MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/01/2024 13:58

And if you object to people's language, report it to the mods rather than set yourself up as the language police.

JenniferBooth · 14/01/2024 13:59

@yesmen I was actually told i shouldnt be in social housing unless i have kids

boworbow · 14/01/2024 14:24

yesmen · 14/01/2024 13:39

You expect respect for your choices yet use the terms "brood mares" and "incubators" for women who have children?

That is pretty extreme dehumanising language.

On a site that is mainly for parents.

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That person is a parent.