Page 26 | Worst comment you've had as a child free woman

derekdied · 2023-07-09T17:54:21+00:00

I'll start. Someone I had literally met about fifteen minutes previously. One of her first questions "do you have kids?" Me "no.." her "oh could you just not be bothered with the responsibility?" 😮

TrundleWheel76 · 14/11/2023 17:07

FarEast · 14/11/2023 17:01

Well, you should read the pasting that the childless/free are getting in that awful thread about how Britain hates children.

It's like some people are so narrow minded that they can't see any other possible reason for being childfree than hating babies and children.

Give me strength.

I love my neices and nephews, and I really like the reception aged children I work with. I just chose a different life for myself.

FarEast · 14/11/2023 17:09

Here’s a quote from the “To think society hates children” thread in AIBU.

It is such a horrible thread, isn't it @KimberleyClark ?

FarEast · 14/11/2023 17:15

Yes @TrundleWheel76 I teach undergrads(and let me tell you, they are still children a lot of the time!) and adore my nephews. I have loved spending time with them from their birth onwards - it's a privilege, and my sibling has been very generous in letting me just be with them.

But apparently, I hate children, and by mentioning that the childless/free also contribute (via taxes) to the care of children is apparently "weaponising" my finances against children. Go figure ...

The childless/free are expected to give, give, give, but if we mention it, we are weaponising our tax paying. It would be nice if parents actually recognised how much public resource goes towards the raising, education & healthcare of their children.

Then we have that truly shocking post lat week which argued that NHS services should be withdrawn for anyone over 70.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 17:22

Is 'well, my kids will be paying your pensions!!' not weaponising their finances, then?

Sauerkrautsandwich · 14/11/2023 17:32

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 17:22

Is 'well, my kids will be paying your pensions!!' not weaponising their finances, then?

They are probably not though😂 I am 36 and pretty sure there will be no state pension by the time I retire...

FarEast · 14/11/2023 17:42

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 17:22

Is 'well, my kids will be paying your pensions!!' not weaponising their finances, then?

Well quite, @MrsDanversGlidesAgain

LoobyDop · 14/11/2023 18:25

KimberleyClark · 14/11/2023 09:53

Here’s a quote from the “To think society hates children” thread in AIBU.

I think going by the comments your getting you are right.

People want to stay young and youthful for longer delaying adulthood for as long as possible, so that includes not having or liking children.

Men and women in their 40s and 50s revolving their life around music gigs and bars as if they are still teenagers at university. Adulthood has lost it's way and the attitude towards children reflects that, mostly because it does not match up to the lifestyle that a lot of people are choosing!

what a load of bollocks

That is so hilariously stuffed with bitterness and misery I can’t even be annoyed by it. I’m kind of fascinated to know what that person is like irl.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 18:36

People want to stay young and youthful for longer delaying adulthood for as long as possible, so that includes not having or liking children.

In my 40s I was divorced, with a mortgage and paying bills and working in a European bank. How much more adult was I supposed to be? and what, actually, is wrong with staying youthful?

You can't win with some people. Stay 'young and youthful' and you're a child hating Peter Pan, get old and grumpy and they start moaning about everything you do and muttering about assisted dying for the elderly.

Sauerkrautsandwich · 14/11/2023 18:42

I too wonder what things, bar having a child, have I missed from basic adulthood... And I am only 36!

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 18:45

That is so hilariously stuffed with bitterness and misery I can’t even be annoyed by it. I’m kind of fascinated to know what that person is like irl

I'm getting 'really fed up that now we've got the kids I can't go clubbing and to gigs like those CF people' vibes (nods knowingly).

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 18:48

Then we have that truly shocking post lat week which argued that NHS services should be withdrawn for anyone over 70

I suspect that poster was largely keyboard warrior bravado. It wasn't very intelligent (and ironically that poster was ranting about how STUPID some people are) because as I pointed out, that'll apply to that poster when she reaches 70. But apparently she's right because she knows maths (nope, me neither).

Flanksteak · 14/11/2023 19:09

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 18:48

Then we have that truly shocking post lat week which argued that NHS services should be withdrawn for anyone over 70

I suspect that poster was largely keyboard warrior bravado. It wasn't very intelligent (and ironically that poster was ranting about how STUPID some people are) because as I pointed out, that'll apply to that poster when she reaches 70. But apparently she's right because she knows maths (nope, me neither).

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A lot of strange\unhappy\bitter people hate everyone who isn't like them. The people who dislike the fact I don't have a child still wouldn't be happy if I did because I wouldn't have the right number, the right sexes, the right names, the right schools. They hate people who are single mums, old people, disabled people, or just living their lives differently to them or seemingly are getting something they aren't eg blue badge, benefits, 'free' housing (council housing), 'free' nights out (not paying for babysitters) etc. if a person like that says you should X and you do X they'll start whining you need to do Y as well. When that person gets to 70, the age the NHS should cut you off will become 80 🙄

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 19:15

And an awful lot of them seem to be on here 😅 I'm old enough to have worked out that WHATEVER I do or am or say or wear or listen to or read or think and so on and so on, it'll be wrong for someone - so I might as well please myself.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 14/11/2023 19:23

Sauerkrautsandwich · 14/11/2023 17:32

They are probably not though😂 I am 36 and pretty sure there will be no state pension by the time I retire...

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You have to be careful saying that on MN - you either get told you’re deluded to think that it could be taken away, or that if it does get taken away then it was your own fault for not being politically active enough.

(I’m a similar age and entirely agree that it’ll be gone by the time we retire, as will the NHS. I find it very difficult to buy into the social contract knowing that chances are we’ll finally get to the front of the line and be told to fuck off and fend for ourselves.)

JenniferBooth · 14/11/2023 19:38

The latest on the thread about the 62 year old man who is about to be made homeless.

She does know him, but she's not experienced in all the different variations of "shared housing", some of which might indeed be suitable for his specific needs with a small amount of compromise (eg giving up white goods

Something else that someone with kids wouldnt be expected to do.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 19:43

I wonder if that poster would happily give up her washing machine and fridge and cooker. And sometimes I wonder if some posters on MN see the middle aged and elderly as actually human.

JenniferBooth · 14/11/2023 19:49

YY @MrsDanversGlidesAgain Im getting utterly utterly sick of it

Catsmere · 14/11/2023 20:30

Flanksteak · 14/11/2023 11:14

The 'funny' thing is that in one day on Mumsnet alone (a few days ago) I read four threads about husband's going out and getting so smashed he pissed the bed\on the wife's clothes. Yesterday I read three separate threads about husband's going to strip clubs. Regularly there are threads complaining their husband is out\away\drunk all the time. So maybe some of that upset should be directed towards the people who have children and then try and relive their youth rather than the apparently many childfree people who do it.

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It's the drinking culture that gets me with those posts! I loathe booze and drunkenness, and yes, doing that when you're a parent just makes it even more horrible.

Catsmere · 14/11/2023 20:32

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/11/2023 12:13

Wonder how they'd cope with knowing this sixty year old childfree (not "without children", MN: childfree) woman has never been to music gigs and can count the number of times I've been to pubs on the fingers of one hand

Was bored by gigs and discos at uni. Pubs, OTOH....😀

Funny how the childfree are simultaneously sad spinsters and immature hedonists, innit?

You're expecting logical grown up thinking. Don't you know any better? 😄

😆😆😆

JenniferBooth · 14/11/2023 20:45

@Catsmere Im teetotal 50 and have never been drunk. Some on here and in RL have been astonished when i tell them such is the drinking culture in the UK

Catsmere · 14/11/2023 20:53

@JenniferBooth yes, it's quite a shock reading these posts. I mean, Australia is hardly free of hard drinking, but it's not a culture I was ever part of (a glass of Spatlese Lexia at friends' birthday dinners in my thirties and nothing since, and I'm 60) but the number of "went out and got pissed" threads here is eye-opening.

And this from the parents who are supposedly the epitome of adulting because they happened to have children instead of choosing not to!

Flanksteak · 14/11/2023 20:54

JenniferBooth · 14/11/2023 20:45

@Catsmere Im teetotal 50 and have never been drunk. Some on here and in RL have been astonished when i tell them such is the drinking culture in the UK

I don't drink at all and neither does my husband, we are old(ish 😂) now but even when we were young we didn't and some people really find it hard to understand it.

TurquoiseHexagonSun · 28/11/2023 19:39

Then we have that truly shocking post lat week which argued that NHS services should be withdrawn for anyone over 70.

OMG really?! I hope the thread was deleted. That's absolutely disgusting.

KimberleyClark · 28/11/2023 21:52

I felt driven to comment on the charging for carrier bags thread when someone posted saying they worked in retail and a customer said they didn’t care about the environment, and the poster was tempted to ask didn’t they have children or grandchildren. It’s not just people with children who care about the environment!

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 28/11/2023 22:13

KimberleyClark · 28/11/2023 21:52

I felt driven to comment on the charging for carrier bags thread when someone posted saying they worked in retail and a customer said they didn’t care about the environment, and the poster was tempted to ask didn’t they have children or grandchildren. It’s not just people with children who care about the environment!

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I bet that posters brain would melt if someone told her that some people want kids but didn't have them because they are concerned for the environment.

No human can have an ecological footprint of zero.