Who's in your will?

[JorisBonson]

Very grateful this board was created today as I have to update my will.

As it stands, DH will get the lot if I go before him. If be goes before me, or we go together, my (also childfree) brother will get everything. If God forbid they both go before me I'll likely leave it all the charity.

I also want to leave around 10% of my (measley) estate to my best friend, just to give her tiny nest egg.

DH
Stepdaughter
Best friend
Best friend’s children

(I’m an only child so no siblings or nieces/nephews.)

To dh if I go first and vice versa ,if we both go then his 50 % to dsd and our 3dd's equally and my 50% is divided equally between our 3 dd's .

We need to do wills too (we are married with nobody around who would think about making a claim on either of our estates, so haven’t been too concerned until now). DH is an only child and I have one brother, also married but also child free. So we have no younger generation to leave things to. I haven’t broached it with DH yet (we will do mirror wills so the first thing would be everything to each other) but I think he’d be fine with everything going to DBro if we both die, though he is only a couple of years younger than me so it might eventually be moot. I have a big extended family but I don’t like anyone enough to leave my worldly goods to them (and we aren’t very close so it would look extremely weird if I did)! And even if I did, picking which without offending everyone else would be a minefield. I am inclined to leave everything to charity if DH, DBro and DSiL go first. I know if I go first DH will look after my parents if they are still around, and vice versa, so I don’t think it’s necessary to include them. I do have some specific bequests I want to make, so will need to think carefully about those.

None of this is very straightforward!

I think you're right @LorraineInSpain a trust would be the best option. I'm not sure how well he'd take it but at least he can't cause himself permanent damage that way

I’m resolutely single so don’t and won’t have a partner to infer it from me, and I’m childfree.

in my will, I’ve split my assets between some of my nieces and nephews, my close friends and a charity. I haven’t included all my ‘niblings’ as tbh there are some I have little to no relationship with, and I don’t see why they should benefit from me. I haven’t left bequests to siblings as I think I should pass things down a generation.

*inherit, not infer it!

I’ve just realised it’s MumsNot - apologies, I hadn’t noticed

Everything is being split between my 2 nieces

We really need to sort wills out (Ive been saying that for over a decade)

Mine will go to my DH if I die first otherwise 50% to my nephew, 40% split between my DHs cousins children and 10% to the neighbours children who I spend a lot of time with.

I also worry about my nephew as he is the only on our side in a few ways and is set to be the potential recipient of quite a bit of money, which is why he only get 50%. He has a tendancy towards laziness which Im hoping he will outgrow because otherwise I worry too much inheritance will knock his work ethic. Hes probably in line to inherit about 5 million though (not from our side!!) so I don't suppose our 50% will make that much difference!!

Most to the husband. A small amount to each niece and nephew (actually need to update it for new sprog in family!). All my jewellery to my best mate.

If I outlast DH and DF, probably everything to the DNs and maybe something random like my jewellery to a nice kid I meet in my older age! Or the cute barman in my local when I'm an old bid in for my daily G&T 😂

@SirChenjins I post on mumsnet and have no kids so I don't see why those with kids can't post on here. Fair's fair

Everything to DH but once we have both gone then a set amount to a friend to take our dogs and the rest to charities.

I have 2 siblings but they are both much better off then us and their children will not only being left money and property from their parents but also from their other aunts and uncles who are childfree

So if DH dies, all 4 (2 prior to our marriage) get £25k each and I get the rest (approx £150k, enough to clear mortgage today).

If I die, my 2dds inherit both rental properties of mine amd 50% of my life insurance in trust and my 50% share of our house. DH gets the rest, plus military widow pension.

Yes, no problem with anyone posting - it’s just that given the section, people posting on this specific thread to say they’re leaving stuff to the kids is probably not relevant. I thought those people may not have realised where it was, that’s all.

Right now I don't have one.
Since my sister is gone, and neither of us had kids and I don't have a partner. I suppose anything I have will go to my cousins but we're not close and I'm not sure that's what I want.

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I rarely look at the board a post is on if it comes up in active threads. If an op wants specific replies they still need to be specific in their post.

Charities that support working animals and animals in developing countries. (There was an article in today's Guardian about two brothers who help birds. I've known of their work for a couple of years so I was happy to see the article about them. Lovely men with kind hearts.)

No apologies needed! You posted in good faith and your post is welcome, though it doesn't really fit in with the ethos of the thread.

I have two godchildren. They will each get 50%.

My sil/bil have left their estate split between their nieces, nephews and god children.

A couple of things to consider (not sure if possible) -

A local community project - football/netball club - something you personally enjoyed
Your old school if you enjoyed your time there
Local charities maybe something like "Cash for kids", local food bank, we have an annual trip where taxi drivers have a day out and take kids with disabilities from Glasgow to the beach once a year, with the taxis covered in balloons.
Local support for the elderly or MH support

I would much rather give to something in my local community than a big national charity.

Only got my mum who is 91 so all to charity.
Third to Leaukemia research, third to Anthony Nolan trust as they found me a bone marrow donor.in Germany and a third to Macmillan cos they have looked after me....
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Of course that's if I don't get well enough to go on a round the world cruise 😀

Me either.... Just assumed it was in chat, legal etc......

You’re absolutely right - and thanks for pointing it out 😊

I posted without realising tbh.... But it's actually just occurred to me I don't know my sisters intentions. We have had issues with family wills in the past (when the true characters of people come out).

Bit to charity, then niece, nephews and godchildren

but we have every intention of spending as much as poss before we go 😁