Is this reasonable to ask an au pair.....

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We've found a great girl from Poland who is going to be our au pair, but as I'm new to this, can you tell me if this sounds reasonable (don't worry, I'm thick skinned):

• 8am - 12noon: do housework (general cleaning, cooking for DD, ironing, etc.)
• 12noon: collect DD from nursery and play with / feed her till either DH gets home or bath and bed time at 7

This would be 4 days a week; the other 3 days and most evenings would be her time, unless we asked her to babysit (no extra pay). She'd have own bedroom and ensuite and food etc. No car as she can't drive, but I'll pay for all travel costs and entry tickets to play centres etc. We live just outside of London (inside M25) and would pay £90/wk.

Am I asking too much or being had?! Thanks for the input!

a friend has an au pair plus. she works 40 hours for £100. the agency doesn't let them work for more than 40 hours. au pairs are allowed part-time sole charge from 2 and full time sole charge from 3. the agency said it would be ok for the au pair to drop off and pick up the baby (18 months) from nursery provided a parent would be home shortly.

We only asked our lovely Polish AP to do the usual AP things - a little housework, help with DCs, but she became more like a housekeeper in the 10 months she stayed. I think it was a combination of gratitude (her previous host family had abused her) and aptitude for the job as at home she had 3 older brothers and 7 younger siblings, whom she used to get ready for school in the mornings back in Poland.