Employers of nannies ...

[VirginiaWoolfisNotDead]

After my absolutely disasterous experience of hiring a nanny, I'm thinking of setting up an email-based support group for employers of nannies. Would anyone be interested in joining?

*the words "employer" and "nanny" should be interpreted broadly.

1. Hello MrsR!
2. I had nothing to do with those posts being deleted.
3. I do not have friends in high places. (except for you, MrsR)

1. Well I am a Tzarina - oh the power

Oh sorry Jura. Yes you are indeed high above my social ranking. I'm still trying to work out if I'm middle or working class.

Daisy I don't know what your problem is or why you are on this thread tbh

Virginia started a perfectly constructive and valid thread about an email group. You've piled on here for no apparent reason, dragging something up from the past and outing her namechange.

Outing a namechanger doesn't mean posting her name and address, it means posting details which enable other people to work out what her 'real' or previous posting name is.

It's all a bit bizarre and extremely unprofessional. Your friend is now happy in her new job, she's obviously moved on from the unfortunate situation, perhaps you need to as well?

But in the threads that were deleted was I not supporting the OPs idea to start an email group?

Is this not a public forum? Why should I not be on this thread?

Confused

Because you are personally attacking the OP. I'm suprised MN has not deleted your post below where you practically threaten to reveal her real name, place of work, children's school, etc.

This was a well meaning peaceful thread before you came along to pollute it.

You are perfectly entitled to be on any thread you like, that's your decision.

My point was I just don't actually get why you are on this one, the comments you are making have already been made loud and clear on a/some old threads and are about an old issue.

I'm not sure your comments on this one could be viewed as being 'supportive' of the OP either.

VWIND I have turned CAT on...........didnt realise it was off.

Count me in.

Daisysmiles surely the whole point is we treat each other's views with respect and provide support and advice when needed. When I have posted before I have been very grateful for the wide range of responses I have had from both nannies and employers. A lot of the time it is a difficult relationship to manage as it is so personal and I for one just needed a leveller on more than one occasion...........i e AIBU and if so what should I do about it.

If we were all such horrid employers we would just sack you when we felt like and to hell with the consequences......the fact of the matter is we are only human too !

Look forward to joining the forum forthwith!!

MP

Daisy why do you insist on dragging up the past? You are acting very unprofessionally in your constant rehashing of your own awful behaviour. This is a public board and anyone can read it, and after your last performance I would have thought you'd choose to lie low. There is such a thing as tact and discretion. Neither of which you appear to possess.

Surely being unprofessional is to do with business and how one behaves at work and with ones boss....Is this my work? No...Is the op anything to do with my work? No..So how am I being unprofessional?

I think maybe some of you think I am the nanny...but Im not....!!

Athene- Just to clear something up...I did not threaten to reveal the OPs details...I was just saying that if I had wanted to out her thats how I 'could' have done it, not by mearly making her aware that I knew who she was. I certainly wasn't threatening to do it.....

I mean that the attitude you portray alongside all the personal facts you let slip give a certain impression. For example you saying how happy your friend is with her new family on a thread that has nothing to do with that particular situation, that's tactless and unnecessary. So although this might not be directly related to your job per se, it does reflect your general character and that is an important part of a nanny's general portfolio of skills that parents find essential to consider, non?

I was going to buy you a shovel, Daisy, but I think you are doing just fine without it.

In fact you make an interesting point, why is it that you know the OP so well when you have never worked for her? Is it because reanne has told things that are infact supposed to be confidential between her and her former employer?

Goodness, you really don't need that shovel. Do you really think you are doing Reanne any favors.

And we are all very clear that you are the poster formerly known as "Jenna".

LOL at Athene about the shovel, I was thinking the same thing

rofl Athene - I've never seen a poster who is able to dig such a hole is such a short time.

no need for me to continue in getting in Daisy's threads deleted anymore is there

Nope MrsR, Daisy is doing a great job in digging herself a nice deep hole! The most amusing thing is that she still can't see or admit that she's in the wrong here!

I'm just glad the nasty (and untrue) comments about the OP have been removed by Mumsnet.

Why am I in the wrong?

Oh jeez. Are you for real? The fact that you have to ask that says it all.

Carefull now... if you dig too deep you might lose your shovel -- and it is obviously a very fine shovel indeed.

that can't be a serious question surely?

If you can't work it out Jenna then I'm not going to waste my time explaining.

aaahem..........right now she's gone back to the forum.

Whos is going to manage it..............any techies amongst us ??